Which do you prefer?

[Latina]

Which do you prefer:

1. Planning to have sex and then doing it?
2. Letting sex happen spontaneously?

The reason I ask...

Monday and Tuesday I wasn't feeling good. Wednesday morning I felt MUCH better and after two days without any physical or sexual contact, we agreed to an assignation for Wednesday night. No, not an assassination, an assig -- oh, never MIND, we agreed to fuck each other's brains out Wednesday night, OK? We both had a full day to anticiapte and plan for it. I laid-out my favorite purple baby-doll which has cut-outs for my nipples, and crotchless panties, with white ribbons above my nipples and crotch, and the outfit includes the sheerest white baby-doll jacket over everything. I planned to change into it just before bed time.

He bought me a bouquet of purple and yellow flowers, and whisked me off to a very nice dinner at a fancy Chinese restaurant (white linen tablecloths, and reservations required). All through dinner we held hands and made googly eyes at each other.

At home, he changed into a tiger-print G-string and I put on the aforementioned purple baby-doll. After twelve hours of anticipation, the result was EXPLOSIVE, literally and figuratively.

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Our very FIRST time, four years ago, we were on his couch talking and listening to jazz on his stereo, when the sex just sort of happened spontaneously, starting with us stripping each other, and ending with 4 orgasms for me and three for him by sunrise.

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So which you do YOU like better, pre-planned sex or spontaneous sex? Or both at different times and for different moods?

Just curious.

-- Latina

 

[Guest]

I think spontaneous, spur of the moment sex is better. (Though any sex is better than none!)


~Tiggs~
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[CreamyLady]

This is a lot like asking me if I prefer chocolate hazelnut gelato, or Baskin Robbins Rocky Road.

How can one compare? Both are wonderful, both have their place.

 

[SpecialK]

Depends on the mood. I mean, it can be fun to plan a sexual rendezvous and to live in that sexual anticipation all day, but there is always the fear that it won't go off how you imagined it and will be a disappointment. Anyone know what I mean? Those times when fantasy is better than non-fiction?

The good unplanned, sudden attack while standing at the kitchen counter can be good too. The drawback here is that it can take you a while to switch gears and warm up.

I haven't a clue which one I like best. Must I choose?

K

 

[KillerMuffin]

Planning it. Any sponteniaty would mean that I'm not being spontaneous with the StudMuffin, we have to plan our stuff around him being here and schedules. *sigh*

 

[Latina]

Score so far:

1 likes it spontaneous.

1 likes it planned.

Two (well, three counting me) like both and don't want to choose.

Who will be the tie-breaker?

-- Latina

 

[forgetunome]

count me in for both...it depends on moods and what's going on! I've had it hot both ways with my sweetie and it would be hard to choose which I prefer! http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net6/malelovies.gif

 

[Siren]

well I thought long and hard about this one...

 

[Purple Haze]

(planning spontaneous act)

Siren, check your mail.

 

[coach]

I find the spontaneity works best for me.
With the kids, the job, sports for kids, job, school for kids....oh hell you get it. when you do plan it, it never seems to happen.
So I guess that leaves quickies on the washing machine.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I...........

I actually "plan for spontaneity."

Yes - I plan....... and don't inform my wife of the plans.

Why might I do that you ask?

My wife is a wild woman in a corporate executive exterior - that or she's a Catholic mom, sister, family woman. And these two persona's take up nearly all her time. She gets into them and it's often a bit of doing to get the wild woman out.

Getting her wild side out - takes planning. But if she knows planning is going on - well that can work too but not as easily.

So I arrange a few things - a night off with a baby sitter, a place to go and quietly unwind, a second place to step things up a notch or two and then bingo - we'll be meeting a very nice looking couple who I've made contact with over the phone, Internet, etc..

Next thing ya know - BOOM!!! Planned spontaneity. All husbands should be so thoughtful.

 

[kathy stl]

whores

Planning it. Any sponteniaty would mean that I'm not being spontaneous with the StudMuffin, we have to plan our stuff around him being here and schedules. *sigh*

Maybe sigh Muffin. Why do I think that planned or whatever you guys have it good?

But, am thinking guys like it spontaneous. Am I wrong? Wow, I my real life stuff is so crazey. But come on guys? we can't always be your hot whore. We can be hot whores, but, sometimes we need that cuddly stuff.

 

[Latina]

Don't know 'bout YOU, kathy stl, but "that cuddly stuff" is what TURNS me into his hot whore.

Love all the answers on this thread. So nice to be surrounded by other sex maniacs like myself.

Loved the comment about the quickie on the washing machine. Oddly enough, in four years, the laundry room is the ONLY room in our house we HAVEN'T done it in, we'll have to remedy that, and SOON!

-- Latina


[Edited by Latina on 10-19-2000 at 05:23 PM]

 

[Guest]

A well thought out plan, followed by subtle clues that lead to a spontaneous outcome. Lots of body language and eye contact.

 

[Artguy]

Spontaneous love making

Latina, sex both ways is thrilling. But if it is with a long time love, the well planned approach works better because there is no mystery about each other and everything is predictable including sex. So plan it to make it better. Even the spontaneity may have to be planned imaginatively.

But spontaneous sex with a new friend in a sudden situation where you realise there is time for a quickie can be a horny path to some robust sex. In the early days of acquaintance this is more thrilling.

And here is a spontaneous deep slurp to you.mmmmmmmmmmm.

 

[Latina]

To Artguy:

Yeah, it DOES seem like sex is more spontaneous when you are in a new relationship, and it is more planned when you are more comfortable with each other. But I would NOT call it predictable, routine, or boring, we do keep it fresh, because we love and care enough about each other to KEEP the sex from getting dull.

We both read books and articles to get new ideas, and now the Literotica BB has given us some fresh ideas too; so in a way that is planning, but it is only vague planning, laying-in ideas for some unspecified future rendevous. On the other hand, we don't spring those ideas on each other until the moment is right for both of us, so THERE is the spontaneity. Or I will see him sitting at his computer or watching TV, and the urge will strike me, and I'll dress-up sexy (last-minute planning) and then spontaneously make my move on him. Or he'll spontaneously dress up sexy for ME, massage me, kiss me all over, etc.

Thanks for sending me a slurp:

http://www.geocities.com/latina_author/photos/tongue.jpg

and here's one back at you:

http://www.geocities.com/latina_author/temp/photos2/repay1.jpg

(Yes, both photos are of me and my husband, but you have been SUCH a good little flirt and a real sweetie in your postings, by all means feel free to PRETEND that's you on the giving and receiving end of these slurps--and know that the slurps are there in SPIRIT even though not delivered to you in real life).

-- Latina


[Edited by Latina on 10-20-2000 at 10:01 AM]

 

[Weinergirl]

Spontaneous is great for us both-hands down. Being parents we really try to make the most of whatever time we have together even if it means planning ahead of time. Planning on my part does allow me to seduce my husband when he least expects it. It's a game I play to see what combination of things work best and if I can antcipate him and "read" him. When I know his schedule I set the mood and wear what he likes. It gives me an added "buzz" that translates when we're together.

 

[Latina]

I like what weinergirl had to say, and agree.

HAVE to ask about the name weinergirl, though. You live in the SF bay area and are a weinergirl? We live in the SF area too, and we recently lost our weiner dog (dachshund) Arthur to kidney disease. Any connection? (laughs)

God I STILL miss Arthur. So many things remind me of him. We had our weiner dog for just over a year, but in that brief time he worked his way into our family and into our hearts. He was 10 when he died three weeks ago.

-- Latina

 

[Jeff726]

Latina will you be my sex therapist and relationship counselor in the future?

 

[Nicole]

Hate to say it Latina BUT ...

As long as I get Fucked at the end of the day, or even in the morning, during the day, hell as long as I get fucked who cares???

As long as the sex is enjoyable and you are with someone that knows your body well enough it's going to be good anyway right?

So put me down as both I guess.

 

[Vlad]

Sex is good any way you cut it--an unplanned quickie at lunch or a fully planned romantic evening--