When the relationship ends

[Richard49]

For those that have been in real life D/s
when the relationship ended
did you feel different then when nilla relationships ended?

With R....
I feel like i have lost a part of my body

 

[bunny bondage]

when my sir and i broke up, i felt as though every truth i had ever known was suddenly twisted into a sardonic lie. i felt like i had lost some quality of childhood which i treasured all my life. i felt, in short, like shit.

but then i went to japan and had fun and got over it and frankly, i'm pretty ok now. i have to blush at my over-dramatic fatalistic reaction to the end of our relationship.

so i guess my point is this - yeah, it really is the worst pain ever, but you're not stuck with it forever.

 

[Richard49]

Some of my less mature buddies say
go get fucked
and you will feel better

Well no such opprotunity is available

R is not the fist woman ever in my life
God knows that

There was a time in my life when I was a real bunny
oppps
I mean slut
oppps
I mean that I sleep with lots of women

I use to be very poly
Hell was in a three way marrage for a number of years

Rachel took me places sexually that i had never been
through her going into subspace

We shared so many other things both in and out
of the life style ...........

Oh well ...
my question still is

Does breaking up in a D/s romantic relationships
differ from break up in nilla

 

[bunny bondage]

Oh well ...
my question still is

Does breaking up in a D/s romantic relationships
differ from break up in nilla

oh.



i have no idea.



but i bet someone does! so i'm posting to bump the thread!

 

[Etoile]

I don't know, because I've never been in that situation. I am terrified of breaking up with Daddy...I'd just be a wreck if it happened. I do wish you the best, though, Richard.

 

[Richard49]

I don't know, because I've never been in that situation. I am terrified of breaking up with Daddy...I'd just be a wreck if it happened. I do wish you the best, though, Richard.

Thank you

I am functioning
actually very well

but I feel like I am missing a part of me
I do not know how to describe it
other then it is like part of me is missing

 

[Desdemona]

It hurt me worse than the breakup of my vanilla marriage. But, the marriage died years before we acknowledged its demise.

The fact is, as bad as it hurts, after a period of mourning for what was lost, you can choose to move on. Once you find a way to let go of the lost dream, somehow, things start to improve. At least, that was my experience. Today, I'm blessed to be in a relationship with my beloved Master. I'm glad I chose to let go and move on. I hope that you will find an end to this pain you are currently living with.

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

For me I would say what makes it worse for you Richard is that R keeps dangling the carrot that there is a possibility that you can go back,so it isn't the same as a clean break,just makes it worse in my opinion
Tim

 

[SexyChele]

For me I would say what makes it worse for you Richard is that R keeps dangling the carrot that there is a possibility that you can go back,so it isn't the same as a clean break,just makes it worse in my opinion
Tim

Yeah, what he said.

The breakup of any serious relationship is far more difficult when one or both parties is unwilling to truly let go. And darn near impossible when hope is extended, whether real or false. Sometimes, ya just gotta bite the bullet and feel like shit for a while by cutting things off entirely. It hurts like hell and is an emotional roller coaster, but I think you heal much more quickly.

Love and hugs to ya, Richard!

 

[Ebonyfire]

For those that have been in real life D/s
when the relationship ended
did you feel different then when nilla relationships ended?

With R....
I feel like i have lost a part of my body

Nope. Pain is pain. But I am speaking for myself.

 

[Croctden]

For those that have been in real life D/s
when the relationship ended
did you feel different then when nilla relationships ended?

You're making it sound that every vanilla relationship ends the same way. Just as every relationship is different so is every break up.

 

[Richard49]

The feed back given so far has been very helpful

I have talked to a couple of Doms that I know
online ......people ........ I wish I had rt ones

anyway .... they to experences this sence of
a body part missing .........

It would be interesting if someone that knows how to set up a thread with a poll to set one up about the prom thing

 

[Richard49]

when my sir and i broke up, i felt as though every truth i had ever known was suddenly twisted into a sardonic lie. i felt like i had lost some quality of childhood which i treasured all my life. i felt, in short, like shit.

but then i went to japan and had fun and got over it and frankly, i'm pretty ok now. i have to blush at my over-dramatic fatalistic reaction to the end of our relationship.

so i guess my point is this - yeah, it really is the worst pain ever, but you're not stuck with it forever.

There was a time that when a relationship went south
I found someone new in a hurry

I want to do what I have to do
so that if there is another relationship
it will be healthier then those in the past