When the punishment doesn't fit.

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This thread is for Sillyman.

My son is autistic. This past fall he was suspended nine times in less than two months before I gave up and brought him home to teach him myself. The following article could be about my son as easily as any other special needs child.

http://www.ctnow.com/about/custom/thc/hc-archives.htmlstory?coll=hc-headlines-thc

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When The Punishment Doesn't Fit
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Advocates Question School Suspension Policies

By CARA SOLOMON
Courant Staff Writer

April 21, 2002

Anthony Henry doesn't like it when people get too close to him.

He feels threatened. He gets agitated. He starts an argument.

This is textbook behavior for some children such as Anthony with autism. When it happens at home, Brenetta Henry talks with her 11-year-old son until he calms down.

When it happens at school, she said, they suspend him.

"They really are not equipped to handle this type of child," said Henry, whose son attends Hartford Transitional Learning Academy. "And the child is losing out."

In the zero-tolerance climate of today's schools, children with disabilities are being punished at a rate that far exceeds their numbers in the state. Though they make up only 13 percent of the population, special education students received 24 percent of the suspensions recorded in the 1998-1999 school year, the latest state data shows. That figure has surprised state officials who say they are now keeping close tabs on the trend and warning certain school districts when they show a high number of special education suspensions.

"It's clearly a concern that we're paying attention to," said George Dowaliby, bureau chief of special education and pupil services for the state Department of Education.

Suspensions have become a hot issue recently, with the release of a state report in February that described school disciplinary policies as excessive and not necessarily useful. The Governor's Prevention Partnership, which formed a task force to study alternatives to suspension and expulsions, said 141,434 students were suspended or expelled in 1999-2000, 13 percent more than the 125,185 suspensions and expulsions in 1998-99.

The task force pushed schools to focus more on early intervention for children with behavior problems, recommending more teacher training, a graduated system of discipline, and a closer connection among schools, parents and mental health providers, the report said.

Children with special needs - many of whom act first and think later - are particularly vulnerable to harsh school policies, advocates say. Some have problems with impulse control and resolving conflicts. Others struggle in group settings, and the agitation is made worse when other children target them for teasing.

"I do absolutely believe kids who are in special education are the obvious choice [for blame] if there's an incident," said Nancy Prescott, director of the Connecticut Parent Advocacy Center, a statewide advocacy group that works on disability issues. "They're the scapegoats a lot of the time."

This year for the first time, the state offered grants to school administrators who wanted to study the high rate of special education suspensions and develop alternatives to out-of-school suspensions for those students. At Keigwin Annex School in Middletown - where special education students account for 32 percent of the suspensions but only 15 percent of the overall population - the state grant will help establish an in-house suspension program with a full time social worker.

"They're going to have an opportunity to look at behavior that got them into the problem, and look at how to prevent it in the future," said Patricia Charles, Keigwin's principal.

Like any child who acts out, a special education student who disobeys orders in the classroom creates a problem for teachers, said Ann Lohrand, president of Middletown's teachers union. And while teachers try their best to work through problems with special education students, using suspension only as a last resort, that preferential treatment sometimes seems unfair to other children whose misbehavior may be sanctioned more severely.

"To be fair to the teachers, it's a sticky situation sometimes," said Lohrand. "Our teachers do the best they can with what they have."

But the high suspension rate is proof, advocates say, that ultimately teachers are too quick to punish a child they do not understand or know how to help. In the years since the federal Individuals with Disabilities Education Act was passed, thousands more special education students have been moved into regular classrooms. But schools have not necessarily kept pace with the change, advocates say. Few regular education teachers are trained to identify and handle the behavioral problems that come with some children's disabilities.

And the problem extends to special education teachers as well, said Merva Jackson, director of African Caribbean American Parents of Children with Disabilities, a Hartford advocacy group.

"The bottom line is, a lot of these teachers are not coming out prepared, knowing the law and understanding the disabilities," she said. "Over the years, it hasn't been a focus for a lot of higher institutions of learning."

The lack of teacher training means that special education students are often labeled troublemakers, advocates say. They are watched more closely and, as a consequence, they are caught acting out more frequently than the average student, said Linda Rammler, a special education consultant. And when children with disabilities act out, she said, teachers mistakenly believe that they can be disciplined like any other disobedient student.

"Teachers don't realize that when they give a certain look, or raise their voice, they've lost the kid," said Rammler, the parent of two children with disabilities. "The kid is not thinking."

The state education department is looking at the rate of suspension, whether some educators are punishing children for behavior related to their disabilities, which in some cases is illegal. The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, limits the number of days a special education student can be suspended before educators and parents meet to discuss a change of placement. A change of placement is essential for some special education students whose behavior depends on the environment.

Several parents of special education students said that the suspensions had frustrated their children, made them more aggressive and taken a serious toll on their self-esteem. In some cases, the children did not understand why they were being punished.

Such was the situation with Anthony Henry, who was suspended a number of times before being transferred. His behavior has worsened.

"He had a disability, not a behavior problem," said Henry, whose son was sent to a school for children with serious emotional problems. "Now he has a disability and a behavior problem."
Copyright 2002, Hartford Courant
 
Feeling a bit...

...vindicated.

I'm alarmed at what's going on in US schools now all in the sake of producing well-behaved children. Suspending an 8 year old because she said she hoped someone would explode? Expulsion for playing cops and robbers on the playground?

Go home and watch TV? Die Hard? Terminator? Bugs Bunny? Violence and euphemisms for violence pervade American society so it's perverse to punish kids and expect them to be different in a classroom at school.

My son was diagnosed as ADHD when he was seven. Psychiatrist confirmed it so it wasn't just some teacher playing doctor. But, above average IQ and what did the public schools want to do? Put him in classes for those with learning disabilities. Schools don't have time for the truly gifted, the disadvantaged, or the ones who don't fit the mold.

Instead we homeschooled him. Sheesh...what a nightmare. It's not easy and it's something you can't walk away from. It also blurs the boundary between being a parent and being a teacher (who you're allowed to hate and think is unfair).

He's nineteen now. Has a high school diploma. Took his first job over a year ago and has kept it. It can be done and, in his case, it was probably the best choice. Moved out as soon as he got his job as well so he's learned about being on his own.

BTW, went to my first high school reunion after over 20 years. The kids who "fit the mold" and were voted most likely to succeed--didn't. Almost all of them ended up unexceptionally average--or worse.

'Spose that sounded a bit like a rant.
 
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Closet Desire said:

...Go home and watch TV? Die Hard? Terminator? Bugs Bunny? Violence and euphemisms for violence pervade American society so it's perverse to punish kids and expect them to be different in a classroom at school.

It's hard to be a parent or a school administrator/teacher. It's harder than you realized when you started down that road.

It's fair to set up rules, even if they seem arbitrary to the youngster(s), such as "no weapons." It's crucial that they be well explained, and consistently enforced, and that the punishments be truly proportional when any rules or policies are violated. It's ridiculous to forget that they are children, with energy, imagination, and have individual needs and idiosyncracies.

Expulsion doesn't help the expelled student, and I doubt most who invoke it think it does even if they spout some trite bullshit about the desired effect. It signifies only that the school system isn't up to dealing with that student. It signifies the failure of individuals working within the system to cope - and although I don't have the solution handy, I do empathize with those involved.

In an ideal world kids would not play cops-n-robbers, or army, but it's unrealistic to think they aren't aware of the violence in the world we actually do live in. If we did, somehow, succeed in misleading them about that, in the name of protecting their childhood or their school experience or their innocence, who would have been there to bring down the plane that crashed short of the terrorist's goal on September 11? Our strength doesn't flow from conformity, it is our diversity.
 
sigh, I got a chill up my spine reading that article.

As you know, my son is also autistic. He has made incredible progress this year in school and I credit it entirely to the fact that I was able to get him into an integrated kindergarten class. 20 regular ed kids and 10 spedical ed.

Unfortunately, here in Reno, integrated classrooms start and stop at the kindergarten level.

I'm terrified about what will happen next year when he is thrown in a regular 1st grade classroom with a teacher who is not trained to deal with special needs children.

Hugs to you, sweet woman.

p.s. Did you read the Time Magazine article on autism disorders out this week?
 
And while teachers try their best to work through problems with special education students, using suspension only as a last resort, that preferential treatment sometimes seems unfair to other children whose misbehavior may be sanctioned more severely.

It's this quote from the article that I struggle with the most. I'm not a "my kid is right and it's everybody else's fault" kind of mom. I'm a realist. I know better than anyone how my son can disrupt lives. The notion of fairness to all is so difficult.

A wise and now sadly retired speech therapist that my son had when he first entered the public school system as a preschooler gave me the best advice on this. She said that fair doesn't mean that everyone gets the same thing. It mean that everyone gets what they need.
 
And this is fair?

In the state of Georgia, by law, no student with a diagnosed disability of any kinds can be suspended for more than 10 days in a school year. AND if the actions that warrant disability are "directly a result" of the disability, the child cannot be suspended at all.


Last year, i had a student who had been diagnosed with two separate disorders. He had already been suspended for six days when he came to me at the end of September. Those remaining four days were all that was left. He was suspended by the administration in one instance that i felt could have been handled through other means.

Then after he'd been suspended for the 10 days (The last four of which occurred due to his behavior in PE and lunch), he disagreed with my instructions one day and picked a chair up and threw it at me. I had a bruise on my arm for two weeks.

What happened to the child? He was taken to the office, talked to and returned to my room within 30 minutes.

That was fair to me? Every child in my class saw him throw a chair at me, and return to the classroom. They all learned a very big lesson that day. You can get angry, hurt someone, and after you say "I'm sorry" (you don't have to mean it, just say it), you come back to class.

Sometimes i have to wonder why anyone is insane enough to be a teacher. We obviously do nothing right, are always wrong according to the public. Oh and we get to dodge flying chairs.
 
Morninggirl, I appreciate your position, really I do. We're all caught in this whirlwind where we're forced to take sides and each side falls back on the same rhetoric, the same bitterness and in the end it's the children who are failed. And I'm talking about all children, not just those with special needs.

The ten days of suspension law you're talking about isn't just in Georgia. It's federal but it doesn't say that a special needs child can't be suspended more than ten days. What it says is that IF a child does cross that ten day limit that there must be a manifest determination review where a moderator comes in to consider a change in the child's placement. The manifest determination also happens to be the required first step in a due process hearing which is where lawyers and judges get involved and a lot of money gets spent. Some school districts are choosing to not cross the ten day suspension limit simply to avoid manifest determination because what they really want to avoid is a possible lawsuit. It's precisely because of that limit that I took my child out of school after nine suspensions. I'm not ready to go that route either.

It's significant that the child you're referring to was suspended mostly for incidents during PE and lunch. Those are the times of least structured activity. Children with special needs are lost at these times. They're under immense stress because they don't understand the rules that the rest of the world takes for granted and to them recess is chaos. There's a book by Carol Gray on this subject. She refers to it as the recess jungle. We all need to learn these things. We need to understand that these children aren't malevolent. My son is a sweet child with a great deal of love in his heart. He's also a very confused child with a verbal IQ of roughly 67 and a nonverbal IQ of 111. Try to imagine yourself with that discrepancy. Try to realize that in school he's both bored and incredibly frustrated at the same time. On the surface he appears to be severely retarded and yet his cognitive abilities across the board place him above the gifted.

Morninggirl, I really don't know what to say to you except to assure you that I'm not the enemy. I can spout facts and figures with the best of them and rail on about the inequities of life but please believe me when I say that I fully understand that not only are teachers being faced with special needs kids for the first time because of IDEA, but that the number of special needs children is growing at an astronomical rate and nobody really knows why. To a large degree it's the regular classroom teachers that bear the brunt of this. These kids aren't going away. They're flooding every school system in the country. We need to find a way to deal with them, not only in school but in life itself.

Folks, when my child was diagnosed I was quoted a statistic that 1 in 15000 children is born with autism. That was just seven years ago and now that number is estimated to be as high as 1 in 200. If you don't know someone with autism now, you will soon.
 
Rubyfruit said:
sigh, I got a chill up my spine reading that article.

As you know, my son is also autistic. He has made incredible progress this year in school and I credit it entirely to the fact that I was able to get him into an integrated kindergarten class. 20 regular ed kids and 10 spedical ed.

Unfortunately, here in Reno, integrated classrooms start and stop at the kindergarten level.

I'm terrified about what will happen next year when he is thrown in a regular 1st grade classroom with a teacher who is not trained to deal with special needs children.

Hugs to you, sweet woman.

p.s. Did you read the Time Magazine article on autism disorders out this week?

Here the integrated classrooms ended after preschool. I know it's scary, Ruby. I know.

I remember Aaron's first day in kindergarten. I stood at the edge of the schoolyard, just out of sight, and listened for his screams all day long. I was shaking and drained and thoroughly exhausted by the afternoon. At the end of the school day I met his teacher on the playground and without a word we exchanged a hug. I think we both saw that the other needed it.

Some of my best friends are people I met in the school system who did everything they could to help my son succeed there. When I chose to bring him home they took it as a personal defeat because they'd tried so hard. Find those people, Ruby. Nurture their friendships and try to understand their points of view. Yes, your son is being thrown in, but from his teacher's point of view she's being thrown your son. It's not easy for anybody.

Bring food. Offer smiles. Teach them how to help your son. It all helps.
 
sigh, you're making me cry.

Not all in a bad way.




I think you should move close to me.
 
Rubyfruit said:
I think you should move close to me.

That's a damned tempting offer, love, but my mom lives nowhere near Reno and I'd miss her so much.

Besides, if I moved close to you and not april-wine, she'd kill me.
 
sigh said:
And while teachers try their best to work through problems with special education students, using suspension only as a last resort, that preferential treatment sometimes seems unfair to other children whose misbehavior may be sanctioned more severely.

It's this quote from the article that I struggle with the most. I'm not a "my kid is right and it's everybody else's fault" kind of mom. I'm a realist. I know better than anyone how my son can disrupt lives. The notion of fairness to all is so difficult.

A wise and now sadly retired speech therapist that my son had when he first entered the public school system as a preschooler gave me the best advice on this. She said that fair doesn't mean that everyone gets the same thing. It mean that everyone gets what they need.

That phrase struck me, too, sigh. I used to get the same comment always from adults - teachers and parents, "It's not fair on the other kids if one is treated differently." and "If you give time and energy to him, then it's not fair on the others who are all getting on on their own."

In the end, in my firm conviction that each relationship is unique between any two people, I gave a questionaire to every pupil in my school, near the end of the school year. One of the simple questions folowing a re-statement of our behaviour policy
"The policy of the school is that we have no sanctions and no exclusions. All behaviour is communication; communication is not something we punish."

Do you feel your education has in any way suffered this academic year because of this school policy?

There was a scale from 1-5. Only two pupils answered "a little" and the other 456, said "NO."

The policy in the end was unacceptable to the catholic clergy and the board of governors who thought a few kids were giving their school a bad name even though the school was heavily over-subscribed.

For me it is a question of whether we are inclusive within our community of those who have special needs or whether our collective "zone of intollerance" is such that we exclude kids who need extra time and energy.

I should add that within the "normal" schooling we had special provision for pupils who were violent, -so I suppose there were grey areas in the policy


Morninggirl5, I'm not suggesting that the chair throwing pupil was properly cared for, nor you either after the incident you describe. There are many management issues in that situation and all sorts of constraints in practice, I know.

I would suggest that every incident like that is taken as a core curriculum matter and no further subject teaching attempted until those involved move from a position of "reaction" to a position of "relation". Teaching in the "reactional" is difficult learning in the "reational" is impossible. Not many schools accept this becasue they believe it's better to get on with the teaching, cover the syllabus, finish the lesson...
To my mind it's better to have one day a year of teaching the subject matter in a relational way and 199 working on our emotional needs, than 200 days a year teaching in an emotional battlefield.
 
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