KillerMuffin
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Do you generally believe them?
Why or why not?
Why or why not?
When someone says "I love you"
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Silverluna
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I generally believe that they believe what they are saying....but I don't often believe what they say is the truth....how can someone know what love really is? Or beauty? Or Joy? Peace? You can't because it is different for every person....
tulip2lipservice
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tough question Killer...
There are so many types of love out there. I suppose it is all on where the relationship is at and when and how the person says it. It is lovely to hear those words from a person you feel the same about, however as I have gotten older I believe more in actions than words.
When I was a teenager those three words would make me swoon. I think some guys felt it was a pre requsite to get in my pants. What did they know I stayed a virgin til almost 20. Still it made me ga ga. Now those words mean nothing unless there is something to back it up with.
Now based on on-line relationships that develop I do not buy into them anymore. I have been there, done it and have many t-shirts for it. I have learned my lessons and believe that seeing is believing.
When all is right with the world those words can mean a whole lot.
Peace,
Tulip
I hope I did not add more confusion to this quesion.
There are so many types of love out there. I suppose it is all on where the relationship is at and when and how the person says it. It is lovely to hear those words from a person you feel the same about, however as I have gotten older I believe more in actions than words.
When I was a teenager those three words would make me swoon. I think some guys felt it was a pre requsite to get in my pants. What did they know I stayed a virgin til almost 20. Still it made me ga ga. Now those words mean nothing unless there is something to back it up with.
Now based on on-line relationships that develop I do not buy into them anymore. I have been there, done it and have many t-shirts for it. I have learned my lessons and believe that seeing is believing.
When all is right with the world those words can mean a whole lot.
Peace,
Tulip
I hope I did not add more confusion to this quesion.
bknight2602
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I can't give you an answer. no one has told me that in so long. I suffer from CRS you know! 
Lost Cause
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It's 50/50....
I am flattered, but I know that people are taught to say that along with, "have a nice day" sometimes. I have a different definition of love, it's more of a demonstrated emotion, like a partnership helping each other strive to be the best in what they want to achieve. That's a tough requirement to some people who assume love is a possessive relationship, with a dominant/submissive partnership.
I am flattered, but I know that people are taught to say that along with, "have a nice day" sometimes. I have a different definition of love, it's more of a demonstrated emotion, like a partnership helping each other strive to be the best in what they want to achieve. That's a tough requirement to some people who assume love is a possessive relationship, with a dominant/submissive partnership.
april-wine
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I love you.....
Those three little words...Easier for me to say than to believe....I think we all go through moments, days, weeks, years of feeling who in their right mind could love me....Everyone has their own personal demons of why they can't, shouldn't, wouldn't be loved....It took me a long time to register those words, to feel them....I have and what a feeling it is.....
Those three little words...Easier for me to say than to believe....I think we all go through moments, days, weeks, years of feeling who in their right mind could love me....Everyone has their own personal demons of why they can't, shouldn't, wouldn't be loved....It took me a long time to register those words, to feel them....I have and what a feeling it is.....
ksmybuttons
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I have qualifiers.
My son came up to me yesterday while I was reading. He put his hand on the side of my face, looked at me and quietly said, "I love you." I believe him.
My husband climbs into bed and cuddles me and says, "I love you." I believe him.
My dearest friend smiles at me while we are in the kitchen, laughs and says, "I love you." I believe her.
Someone I barely know says "I love you." I automatically want to ask "What do you want?"
Three very true forms of love and one "What will you give me?"
I don't think that's bad odds.
My son came up to me yesterday while I was reading. He put his hand on the side of my face, looked at me and quietly said, "I love you." I believe him.
My husband climbs into bed and cuddles me and says, "I love you." I believe him.
My dearest friend smiles at me while we are in the kitchen, laughs and says, "I love you." I believe her.
Someone I barely know says "I love you." I automatically want to ask "What do you want?"
Three very true forms of love and one "What will you give me?"
I don't think that's bad odds.
A Desert Rose
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KillerMuffin said:
No, I do not believe them. I have been lied to too many times.
But last night someone said it to me and I know he meant it. It took him 2 years to finally utter those words.
When I say it, count on it.... I mean it.
Jim_Henson
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Never said:
you bought dinner for a guy?
Bidin~Time
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Those are 3 words I never use lightly. I just can't. They stick in my throat unless that is an emotion I truly feel. With the exception of my family, with respect to relationships, I can count on one hand the men I have truly loved and told.
Bearing this in mind, if someone is too quick to say "I love you.", no I won't take it seriously. Ultimately, love is more about actions than words, even though hearing the words is very important.
Bearing this in mind, if someone is too quick to say "I love you.", no I won't take it seriously. Ultimately, love is more about actions than words, even though hearing the words is very important.
superlittlegirl
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Depends on who those words are coming from, and how much I want that person to love me.
Those words coming from the wrong person can be devastating.
From the right person, devastating, but in a good way.
Those words coming from the wrong person can be devastating.
From the right person, devastating, but in a good way.
calypso_21
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KillerMuffin said:
If someone backs up their words with actions that prove them true then why should I not believe them? However if they are merely empty promises, well...time only proves them to be what they really are.
MissTaken
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KillerMuffin said:
As has been covered, I believe they believe they love me at the moment.
But, it all depends on who is saying the words, what their track record is and yes, actions speak far louder than words.
The words come with great difficulty for me, so I would like to believe what I hear, but I am a bit of a skeptic.
Kitte
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In all my life I was never able to beleive someone would love me. I always doubted their intentions, their motives. Til now. Someone said to me
"I will not use words to prove my love and devotion, but I will use actions....and I will prove to you beyond any doubts, that you are my heart and you are everything to me."
He has always stood behind that. He has, since our first interaction acted in a manner consistant with his words. When he tells me he loves me. I have no doubts.
"I will not use words to prove my love and devotion, but I will use actions....and I will prove to you beyond any doubts, that you are my heart and you are everything to me."
He has always stood behind that. He has, since our first interaction acted in a manner consistant with his words. When he tells me he loves me. I have no doubts.
Freya
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No, not usually. Unless it's family or my friends.
I've had those words said to me twice by men - once I was 16, and it meant diddly, and once not too, too long ago, and it turned out to mean diddly. So I'd have a hard time believing anyone would love me, and I'd have an even harder time saying them to another person.
I've had those words said to me twice by men - once I was 16, and it meant diddly, and once not too, too long ago, and it turned out to mean diddly. So I'd have a hard time believing anyone would love me, and I'd have an even harder time saying them to another person.
curious2c
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If I know them...yes. If they are total strangers...no.
In my past I have told four women (other than family) that I loved them and I did, and still do. Even if we are not together or 'an item' anymore. If I give my heart to someone...it stays given. (so far anyway.)
In my past I have told four women (other than family) that I loved them and I did, and still do. Even if we are not together or 'an item' anymore. If I give my heart to someone...it stays given. (so far anyway.)
