When I'm Bad

[~Amanda~]

When I am bad I will have to publically describe my punishments from Master.

Let us pray I'm a good sub most days.

Please, my fellow subbies...share your experiences with me too. (I won't tell your Master's, I promise!)

 

[amasterfound]

One time I kept a secret from him. When he found out he stood me in the corner with my panties around my ankles. he then spanked me VERY hard then stood me back in the corner again with m,y panties around my ankles. I have NEVER kept secrets from him since!

 

[~Amanda~]

One time I kept a secret from him. When he found out he stood me in the corner with my panties around my ankles. he then spanked me VERY hard then stood me back in the corner again with m,y panties around my ankles. I have NEVER kept secrets from him since!

So far, no secrets have been kept. I haven't felt the need to hide anything from him. Now, depending on if I've done something I should not have and that he does not know about....I might be tempted to keep a secret. I'm not sure what his reaction would be to that.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

So far, no secrets have been kept. I haven't felt the need to hide anything from him. Now, depending on if I've done something I should not have and that he does not know about....I might be tempted to keep a secret. I'm not sure what his reaction would be to that.

Amanda .......I would be interested to know providing it does not breach a trust you have with your Master, what consitutes bad ? Also how will the degree of posting revelation compliment the intial indiscretion on your part. Its wonderful you have established trust and that you have nothing to hide from him. I learnt that no matter how difficult the admission, lack of honesty is worse. Quite a freedom to me. I did not learn that from my parents, I learned that from my Master at the time.In fact I do not recall him ever punishing me when I came to him sincerely and confessed a mistake I had made. My parents in fact taught me very well how to lie and to cover up things that may be difficult, to preserve the appearances to others that our family was sucessful, normal, happy etc etc etc.....good luck Amanada

 

[amasterfound]

So far, no secrets have been kept. I haven't felt the need to hide anything from him. Now, depending on if I've done something I should not have and that he does not know about....I might be tempted to keep a secret. I'm not sure what his reaction would be to that.

It was an unintentional secret about my bipolor, BUT i learnewd to NOT hide anything no matter how little.

 

[~Amanda~]

Rebecca,

Bad is such a relevant term, isn't it? It means different things to each D/s relationship. In our relationship BAD is whatever disrespects or dishonors my Master. It can be something as blatant as cursing at him or back talking him to my behavior and attitudes in public. Any action done by me to dishonor His training of me, His guidance of me. Everything I do, in public and private is a reflection on Him. He only makes ONE demand of me...that I behave like the Lady I am.

The public postings are an addendum to my punishments. A safe, anonymous humiliation to me. A reminder to me to behave, or else..... He doesn't leave visible marks of punishment. He doesn't humiliate me in front of family and friends. He encourages me to hold my head up high and be strong and confident.

He is a wondeful Master. He completes me. And I love him more than my life itself.

 

[Nightbird]

Happy Holidays everyone.. And have a great Yule!

 

[~Amanda~]

Happy Holidays everyone.. And have a great Yule!

Happy Holidays NB. Coming to see what trouble I've found myself in today?

 

[shy slave]

Lots of things I say or write could be seen as disrespecting Andante.

I have pm's to prove some lurkers find my humour errrr... interesting. They tell me if I were their slave etc etc etc Yawn Yawn.

I could not be with someone who did not have a sense of the ridiculous at times.

I have tried conversations with a view to a potential relationship with Doms who take themselves very seriously. I was told off so many times it became our only conversation

I have only been seriously punished once by Andante, and in fairness I deserved it.

I have had the crop or a spanking for odd incidents where he thought I needed a reminder about what he expects from me.

But I confess I still laugh, not at him, but at the incident that led to having the crop.

Examples of Incidents:

1. When he said if I did not stop trying to find excuses to get out of future exercise he would stop the car and take the crop to my bare ass in the open air.
I commented it would be almost worth persuing the subject to see if he would carry out his threat.
On that comment he stopped the car, and used the crop on my bare ass in the open air. Another car pulled up and we both ended up laughing as we got back into the car.

2. Using his hand to cover my mouth when I belched. Yes it is and was disgusting, but it was funny to see the look on his face. So funny that I have actually done it twice, although not too sure I will risk on a third time lucky basis.

I don't disrespect him ever. I do have a sense of humour that pushes some peoples sense of who they think they are.
I am lucky to be with someone who is very sure of who they are and does not have self-esteem issues, therefore he can allow me to be myself.

Uninhibited and free to express all aspects of my personality

 

[graceanne]

Lots of things I say or write could be seen as disrespecting Andante.

I have pm's to prove some lurkers find my humour errrr... interesting. They tell me if I were their slave etc etc etc Yawn Yawn.

I could not be with someone who did not have a sense of the ridiculous at times.

I have tried conversations with a view to a potential relationship with Doms who take themselves very seriously. I was told off so many times it became our only conversation

I have only been seriously punished once by Andante, and in fairness I deserved it.

I have had the crop or a spanking for odd incidents where he thought I needed a reminder about what he expects from me.

But I confess I still laugh, not at him, but at the incident that led to having the crop.

Examples of Incidents:

1. When he said if I did not stop trying to find excuses to get out of future exercise he would stop the car and take the crop to my bare ass in the open air.
I commented it would be almost worth persuing the subject to see if he would carry out his threat.
On that comment he stopped the car, and used the crop on my bare ass in the open air. Another car pulled up and we both ended up laughing as we got back into the car.

2. Using his hand to cover my mouth when I belched. Yes it is and was disgusting, but it was funny to see the look on his face. So funny that I have actually done it twice, although not too sure I will risk on a third time lucky basis.

I don't disrespect him ever. I do have a sense of humour that pushes some peoples sense of who they think they are.
I am lucky to be with someone who is very sure of who they are and does not have self-esteem issues, therefore he can allow me to be myself.

Uninhibited and free to express all aspects of my personality

Yeah, K too. He knows when I'm being disrespectful, and when I'm being silly. Normally I'm being silly. If I stopped being silly he'd worry about me. LOL

Their are lotsa masters/mistresses who like smart asses. Netzach is among them. M can be pretty smart alecy himself.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yeah, K too. He knows when I'm being disrespectful, and when I'm being silly. Normally I'm being silly. If I stopped being silly he'd worry about me. LOL

Their are lotsa masters/mistresses who like smart asses. Netzach is among them. M can be pretty smart alecy himself.

LOL, and F is another. With the changes we are traversing in our relationship, he has on more than one occasion made it blatently clear he will find it unforgiveable if I lose my sassiness.

Catalina

 

[Aragorn22]

Amanda this is a great thread and you've done very well I am proud of you.

As I am the Dom in question however I feel slightly compelled to put in my 2 cents worth.

Amanda and I are currently working on improving some parts of herself that she freely admitted to me she did not like.

Say what you will about how easy going your Master's are, I do not like being told to Fuck off by anyone and not by my Sub. She is a Lady and vulgarity does not become her.

The definition of "Bad" or "Good" is very relative to each person, and each relationship. I do have a sense of humour and am light hearted but I have limits like everyone else.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Amanda this is a great thread and you've done very well I am proud of you.

As I am the Dom in question however I feel slightly compelled to put in my 2 cents worth.

Amanda and I are currently working on improving some parts of herself that she freely admitted to me she did not like.

Say what you will about how easy going your Master's are, I do not like being told to Fuck off by anyone and not by my Sub. She is a Lady and vulgarity does not become her.

The definition of "Bad" or "Good" is very relative to each person, and each relationship. I do have a sense of humour and am light hearted but I have limits like everyone else.

I think if you bring this (your punishments etc.) into a forum, you are basically opening up your private life and therefore others views of it to public comment and differing points of view, and a very lighthearted view of the whole thing. I got the impression (though it could just be a misconception due to the difficulty of interpreting feelings behind words on a screen) your sub was taking it all tongue in cheek herself, even relishing the idea of punishment. For us, punishment is usually a private thing and treated with much seriousness and remorse, and not something brought into public forums unless it comes up as a point of discussion relevant at some future date. Posting publicly what I had done and what had been my punishment would not humiliate me because I am not moved or concerned by how others view it, only how he does, but we are all different and that is what makes life interesting...but you will find some will vary and speak of their views invited or not because this is a public forum, not a private blog.

Catalina

 

[shy slave]

Amanda this is a great thread and you've done very well I am proud of you.

As I am the Dom in question however I feel slightly compelled to put in my 2 cents worth.

Amanda and I are currently working on improving some parts of herself that she freely admitted to me she did not like.

Say what you will about how easy going your Master's are, I do not like being told to Fuck off by anyone and not by my Sub. She is a Lady and vulgarity does not become her.

The definition of "Bad" or "Good" is very relative to each person, and each relationship. I do have a sense of humour and am light hearted but I have limits like everyone else.

Andante is NOT easy going, I have no idea how he would respond to 'Fuck off' nor do I plan to find out.

Thankfully I am not a lady and I use profanities a great deal, just not at him.

I am glad your proud of Amanda, it was a brave of her to open up this thread and therefore allow comment. Other pyls have fell at the first post and been laughed off.
It shows the respect Amanda has gained from the group that this did not happen.

Andante and I have clearly defined areas of what is acceptable, of course I push them at times, just as, at different times, he pushes my limits.

To us, punishment is not a game. I arrived at our relationship with very clear ideas about what 'punishment' was and was not. I have spoken about them in threads here prior to meeting Andante. I am happy that he shared my views. It would have been a difficult relationship otherwise.

Indeed, it is true each to their own, but please do not assume that any person who posts on Lit is easy going. Many are dealing with complex lives, why would they want their BDSM life to be full of complications as well?

My views on Dominant people are as follows.
If he does not have the balls to stand up to me, remind me I wanted this relationship and all it entails; which includes his perception of good and bad then I need to move on.

I have met Doms and Dommes who are playing at being strong and in control. Frankly I have little time for that. My life is too short. I can easily understand that no-one is strong all of the time, that does not make them weak it makes them human.

Andante does put me in my place, its not a game. A word or look is an effective way of making me stop and consider what and why I am doing something.

Perhaps it is the current threads currently being posted in that give you the impression people here do not have limits or understand when it is time to put humour aside and be another aspect of their personality.
The library is full of evidence to the contrary.

I hope you and she both achieve the changes you desire, but in a public forum they are going to be commented on if you offer them up for scrutiny.

 

[graceanne]

Amanda this is a great thread and you've done very well I am proud of you.

As I am the Dom in question however I feel slightly compelled to put in my 2 cents worth.

Amanda and I are currently working on improving some parts of herself that she freely admitted to me she did not like.

Say what you will about how easy going your Master's are, I do not like being told to Fuck off by anyone and not by my Sub. She is a Lady and vulgarity does not become her.

The definition of "Bad" or "Good" is very relative to each person, and each relationship. I do have a sense of humour and am light hearted but I have limits like everyone else.

I gotta agree with shy. I wouldn't tell K to fuck off.

But if cussing makes me not a lady . . . . well I cuss like a drunken sailor. I'm actualy trying to oliberate the word fuck from my vocabulary. It'd work better if I didn't have to drive with the assholes of the world.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, not sure I would call F easy going either, but as said before, impressions through the written word on a PC screen can be very deceptive.

Catalina

 

[amasterfound]

Same here Master is not always easy going only. When it calls for it he can be VERY hard.

 

[Netzach]

Yeah, K too. He knows when I'm being disrespectful, and when I'm being silly. Normally I'm being silly. If I stopped being silly he'd worry about me. LOL

Their are lotsa masters/mistresses who like smart asses. Netzach is among them. M can be pretty smart alecy himself.

Yeah but you gotta be there. He drops his little bombs with such a pussyboy little meek sense of timing that it's just cute. Or maybe I'm one of those people who would think their cat was cute even if it was peeing on the potted plants.

 

[graceanne]

Yeah but you gotta be there. He drops his little bombs with such a pussyboy little meek sense of timing that it's just cute. Or maybe I'm one of those people who would think their cat was cute even if it was peeing on the potted plants.

I think you gotta be there for most of our smart alecy moments. Most things, taken out of context, would seem disrespectful. Plus it's difficult to convey the mood in writing. A lot of the things I say, that K laughs at, if I tried to write them down people would be like 'omg, and he didn't beat your ass for that'?

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think you gotta be there for most of our smart alecy moments. Most things, taken out of context, would seem disrespectful. Plus it's difficult to convey the mood in writing. A lot of the things I say, that K laughs at, if I tried to write them down people would be like 'omg, and he didn't beat your ass for that'?

LOL, some people make the mistake of taking the porn images too seriously and thinking that is the reality 24/7, they forget that first and foremost people are human with a myriad of personality traits that make them unique and real....I'm just glad I have one who knows the difference and when a strong hand is really needed.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

LOL, some people make the mistake of taking the porn images too seriously and thinking that is the reality 24/7, they forget that first and foremost people are human with a myriad of personality traits that make them unique and real....I'm just glad I have one who knows the difference and when a strong hand is really needed.

Catalina

Yep, me too. If K actually expected me to act like the chicks in those stories I read sometimes he'd be sorely disappointed. Not to mention - he'd get bored fast. lol

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yep, me too. If K actually expected me to act like the chicks in those stories I read sometimes he'd be sorely disappointed. Not to mention - he'd get bored fast. lol

LOL, I always think perfection gets very boring very quickly, or should I say perceived perfection as I don't really believe it exists except as an illusion.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

LOL, I always think perfection gets very boring very quickly, or should I say perceived perfection as I don't really believe it exists except as an illusion.

Catalina

Not to mention tiring. It's gotta be exhausting to try and be perfect.

 

[Joe Schmoe]

LOL, I always think perfection gets very boring very quickly, or should I say perceived perfection as I don't really believe it exists except as an illusion.

Catalina

You mean I have been searching in vain? Now you tell me. That might explain why the search never ended.

 

[~Amanda~]

You mean I have been searching in vain? Now you tell me. That might explain why the search never ended.

But if you found perfection, you might never get to wield your cane......