When does it start to look desperate

[eastern sun]

I couldn't decide if he meant he was the master of geeks-- in which case he might qualify as master of me-- if he were female, which he isn't-- or if he were a geeky type master, in which case the same applies.

If you're playing online only, each word you post counts. The potential submissive is going to look at every word they can find for signs of character and style, because it's all they have to go on.

I've heard "horny net geek" used as an insult for unattached men more often than I can count. If you want to use "geek" in your persona, you've got to ooze self-confidence of one sort or another.

(MasterSir was a wonderful example of someone who undersold himself to great effect. We loved him.)

 

[His_pet_slut]

Ok, I'm sure this is going to bring down the shitstorm of all shitstorms, but I've bitten my tongue as long as I can. It was the "I don't need your advice" that did it, for the record.

How do you call yourself a "master" when nearly all your year and a half's worth of experience has been online? I have been switching for TEN YEARS--the entirety of my adult life (*sob*)--and it has all been in real life, yet I would still never presume to call myself a "mistress."

I'll go ahead and get the wood and nails out now for my crucifixion.

No wood and nails from me. I'd be serenading you with 'Hallelujah' for bringing it up, but my singing voice violates all tenants of the Geneva Convention. So....guess that means they can hang me on the adjacent cross from yours.

 

[Etoile]

I've heard "horny net geek" used as an insult for unattached men more often than I can count. If you want to use "geek" in your persona, you've got to ooze self-confidence of one sort or another.

Wait, really? Does that mean I can't call myself a geek anymore?!

 

[HottieMama]

No wood and nails from me. I'd be serenading you with 'Hallelujah' for bringing it up, but my singing voice violates all tenants of the Geneva Convention. So....guess that means they can hang me on the adjacent cross from yours.

Make that a trio of crosses because I completely agree with BiBunny...

And geekmaster24... Since you quoted me and then stated that you weren't looking for advice, I feel compelled to respond... You misread what I wrote as advice. It wasn't. It was my opinion on the real or implied desperation evident in your ad. If I was to give advice, I would tell you to drop the "master" from your name and entire vocabulary, turn off the computer, and actually GO OUT and do some of the kinky things you write about IN REAL TIME. Because, for now, you are just another person role-playing on the internet. BDSM... World Of Warcraft... Halo... Hey, it's all the same shit, right?!?!?!?!

(I probably just lit my cross on fucking fire...)

 

[eastern sun]

Wait, really? Does that mean I can't call myself a geek anymore?!

Maybe we need to pull the "geek" out of the dismissive "horny net geek" insult.

As things are, I'm on my way to conclude that a number of the "cool kids" here are "horny net geeks" if you take the words literally.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Make that a trio of crosses because I completely agree with BiBunny...
(I probably just lit my cross on fucking fire...)

Those are three sexy crosses!

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Those are three sexy crosses!

I feel like if we made some lively background music and spot lights whirling around, they could become a musical number.

 

[StrayKat]

Those are three sexy crosses!

Oh God yes I want to take them home. ES and you too

(MasterSir was a wonderful example of someone who undersold himself to great effect. We loved him.)

You mean MisterSir? I definitely agree, I could never understand why half of the (younger) board wasnt chasing after him. Whatever happened to the kid?
I remember now I promised to make him his birthday thread but I was gone and missed it and I feel so bad about it

 

[His_pet_slut]

Those are three sexy crosses!

Oh God yes I want to take them home. ES and you too

*blushes* Why thank y'all. You just made my morning.

 

[barelytrained]

I'd say about the time you start a thread entitled When does it start to look desperate

funny

 

[waaitg]

For the record while it does not say it, the pic is not required. I am not the much of an idiot.

What can I say? I have never been a guy to go halfway with anything.

./sigh and I did say I was not really looking for advice.

Before responding I did some checking.

Your first post in this site was on Jan 15 (a personal ad). You then bumped it 3 more times in the next 9 days before realizing that it wasn't working.

After interacting for a full 2 days, you posted this thread.

In 6 hours, you received 7 responses to this thread, but none to your personal ad, so how did you respond?

./sigh and I did say I was not really looking for advice.

Really?

My one and only piece of advice I would offer you (Even though you clearly aren't looking for it], is to behave online as you would in the real world. In your case:

After a year of going to 3 different bars, you walk into Bar Lit, and find out that no one wants to be picked up by you when you say you are available. So you start up a conversation with some of the regulars at the bar, and 3 of them offer you (some pretty good) advice.

So you respond by telling them "No thanks, I know what I'm doing" ... W.T.F!

This is the most feedback you have received from the dozen or so threads you have posted in, which has been mostly constructive, and you choose to get defensive about it?

Since you don't want any other advice, maybe you might want to ask yourself some questions instead and draw you own conclusions from them:

* Does this sound like the behavior of someone mature or someone with an insecure ego?
* Do you think after this thread, people will think better or worse of you?
* Just like the real world, people talk with each other even when you are not around. What do you think people will be saying about you after this behavior?

Then again, I've been here less time than you, so what do I know?

W~

 

[StrayKat]

So you respond by telling them "No thanks, I know what I'm doing" ... W.T.F!

* Does this sound like the behavior of someone mature or someone with an insecure ego?

Actually it very much sounds like 24 yo from Tatooine

 

[MisterSir]

You mean MisterSir? I definitely agree, I could never understand why half of the (younger) board wasnt chasing after him. Whatever happened to the kid? I remember now I promised to make him his birthday thread but I was gone and missed it and I feel so bad about it

I toddled off for a bit. Now I'm toddling back.

(MasterSir was a wonderful example of someone who undersold himself to great effect. We loved him.)

'Was' nothing, I'm still doing it.

 

[Corbal]

Post one in regards to subject. I've never thought putting out an ad for a person was becoming. This however, is just my opinion on the matter.

 

[Primalex]

My question has always been at what point does it start to look like one is desperate to find someone through bumping your ad.

I would say after the second time.

After the first time it just looks like you were either not creative enough to write a new ad or too lazy.

 

[VulnerableSubmissive]

To the OP, I actually kinda feel bad that you have been "beaten up" on this thread so badly. Seems like you are a very sensitive person judging by your defensive language. Plus the initial "approval seeking" post.

For those reasons, I would not play w you as a sub. Does not make me feel safe or uninhibited. (I know you didn't ask, just being honest and exploring my own wants/needs via this forum.)

I also would never send a pict but would be 100% accurate in description and expect the same. Mutual trust is important... yet you never know how long it will last....