When did you first know?

[jamper57]

I guess this is the place to ask. When did you first know that you enjoyed rougher sex? For me it was at around 19 . Being aggressive , spanking ,hair pulling cock slapping makes me harder than anything else. Just woundering,

 

[bound]

I knew almost immediately after I lost my virginity (14).

 

[BrightFlower]

It took that one special guy who finally did it the right way
(early 20's)

 

[Phaedraa]

I've known that I liked it in theory for quite awhile, but it didn't become an actual part of my life until about 6 months ago...

It's a shame that it took so long, but there are still a lot of years left to make up for it...

 

[_krista_]

Just like bright flower when the right guy came along, and did it right....I was 15

 

[Kaldaka]

In theory, since I was about 15. In practice, since my gf I lost my virginity to when i was 18 (yes, 18 is late for guys, i know). We slept together quite a bit for a few months and experimented alot.

 

[Xelebes]

Still in theory but 17~18. Never had a chance to experiment yet.

 

[littleg~rl]

It took a special man for me too.

I don't think he had a name for it either; he was an Arab man and with one look could turn my whole soul.

Before then I had mistaken my feelings and taken partners whom were more on the abusive side and being confused by the feelings.

Now I know what I like and understand my feeling better. It’s a natural expression for me of whom I am as a woman, makes me feel alive.


Stephanie

 

[AttentionWhore]

When did you first know that you enjoyed rougher sex?

I think I first knew when I was about 16. I just didn't have a word for it until I was about 23, didn't play until I was 25.

My Partner, He first knew probably about 18, but he was a VERY late bloomer and didn't loose his virginity until he was 27 (I think) and at 30, I was his first non-vanilla relationship.

It's been an amazing 4 years, and I know we have many more amazing years to go...

 

[sugarpussy]

I just figured it out this month......... and I'm 29. Wasted my time trying to keep myself content with vanilla sex......... and not even realizing what I needed until a library book came along............. I am pleased that the local library hasn't yielded to too much censorship or I would never have known the desire to be collared.

 

[cremebrulee]

Early Start

I first knew when I was (believe it or not) around 12 years old.
I took a boy into the woods and made him show himself to me then forced him to stand there, hands at his sides~ fully exposed, for quite some time. It proved especially exciting when someone else was coming near and he got nervous.


Shame on Me





Creme

 

[Phoenix Stone]

I've had some form of force fantasy as my only masturbation fantasies since the first time I took myself in hand, (well, pillow), which was a good ten years younger than we're supposed to say on these boards. (Could barely read when I came across a story in a hidden box in the garage....)

But didn't actually 'know' until just recently. Thought it was just a stage I was going thru. Seriously, thought I could change those fantasies even after all this time, and only recently decided to join rather than fight, and try to make rl closer to fantasy.

So when did I know? At eight... er, teen. Or not until 44.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

and not even realizing what I needed until a library book came along............. I am pleased that the local library hasn't yielded to too much censorship or I would never have known the desire to be collared.

What library book?

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Though I have always gotten off on power play and have always been the one in control in my G/G relationships, it wasn't until I was 21 (or thereabouts) that I even learned what it was I had been doing.

So, then the short answer, 21. The truthful answer..15 or so, when I became involved in my first lesbian relationship.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

I knew almost immediately after I lost my virginity (14).

ITA, except i was 15

 

[SexiSade]

I pretty much always knew
I was attracted to strong dominant men......many I dated
if they didnt make decisions or guide me I was done with them.

 

[AvaAdore]

I do like rough sex...I can't pinpoint an age when i started liking the idea, probably sometime after 15. I had not experienced any until I was 18 though.

My BDSM kink first surfaced when I was 7. My best friend and I played a game called "slave" very often at the time. I was nearly always the slave. She was some rich lady. I would have to do thinks for her like pour her milk and sneak out cookies from the kitchen and do other slave-like things. When I was bad I would be spanked.

She remembers much more of it than me. Apparently we used to do lots of, er, probing. I don't remember any of it, but she does. I would be on the receiving end of most things, and she said that I enjoyed it. It was really wierd, because we never talked about it until it came up when I was 16. At first she wouldn't tell me what we did because I didn't remember (still don't), but then she told me the next day. I don't think she made it up, because looking back, she made a number of references to it at various points in time, things like "oh, we did a lot worse things than that, hehe" and I just wouldn't get it.

 

[Kaldaka]

My BDSM kink first surfaced when I was 7.

You know, thinking about it, I used to do the same little games when i was around that age. Totally forgot about that...I'd do it at recess at school and with this girl who lived next door to my grandparents who was my age. I'd always be the slave.

 

[angelgothgirl]

I still haven't had rough sex, but I've fantasised about it since I was tiny - like Kaldaka and AvaAdore I always had a BDSM side to me. I remember once in this caravan on holiday (I can't have been older than 8) I played a game with the kids next door where they captured me and tied me up, then we pretended that they were going to do horrible things to me. And I always used to make-believe that I was forced into being a slave by my friends, or that someone made me into their pet dog.

But it wasn't until around 15 or 16 that I realised there was a name for it. I read some interview in a magazine (FHM or similar) with these girls who were into BDSM. There was a link to www.londonfetishscene.com and I was delighted to find out that there were other people like me.


~Angelgothgirl~

 

[Etoile]

I'm pretty sure I've answered this question somewhere here before, but I'll come up with it again.

I was pretty late in having any sexual interest. I had a couple of crushes in high school, and a very short-lived relationship with a boy two years older than me when I was 14, but it wasn't until my first year of college (at age sixteen) that I actually got interested in sex. I was always aware of things like queerness and kink, and when I met my girlfriend at 17 we had a lightly kinky relationship. We had a friend (who had actually helped us meet each other, playing the middle-school style go-between) who was a known top in our circle of friends, and would often tie me up at parties just for fun. Then one day we ended up going a little bit further, and when I realized that this is a very important part of who I am. That friend is now my Daddy.

 

[Ms_Kat]

I was 23 and had been married 5 years. I had no idea what I was doing. Thank God, I was scared enough about it that we took it slow and found a safe ground to build upon.


Hugs,


Kat

 

[landcruisergal]

Always. Have had fantasies about rape/pillage/plunder since puberty. I used to goad my partners into being rough, and deliberately picked them because they were "bad boys". Now I take the safer road and have chosen a bdsm partner, with a strong base of trust and consent, with a man who wears a suit. (not that my attraction for a hard body in jeans and biker boots has lessened).
He likes to make me suffer, and does so with full intent and meticulous attention to detail.And I still get to smell the leather.

 

[Severette]

Always. Have had fantasies about rape/pillage/plunder since puberty. I used to goad my partners into being rough, and deliberately picked them because they were "bad boys".

Reminds me of myself. As I grew older, I experimented wth boyfriends, but I've only been in one long-standing relationship with a dominant man. It turned from heaven to hell in the course of seven years or so, and now I'm in a 'vanilla' marriage. The lifestyle really is just a fantasy for me now, but I'm grateful for it.

 

[twiggy_the_spider]

i knew when i was pretty young too, possibly, 8 or nine, i used to think about the things i would do when i got married (or whatever. i was young, naive about relationships) i used to think about being bent over and having my ass smacked. i didnt know the name for it but it made me feel good, so.

in practice, when i was 17, i'd been seeing the guy on and off for a couple of years and we started to discuss fantasies then took it from there. im now nearly 19, with the same guy and getting off from having my nipples tortured. as we brits say, its a funny old world.

x

 

[CasusCoiti]

I had very bizarre medical dream when I was 8 - being strapped down, with a catheter inserted, and two nurses taking turns pumping something into me. The next day I started masturbating in the bathtub (and wound up almost infecting my urethra) before I figured out better ways.

By the 5th grade I was having bondage fantasies of being tormented by my teacher, who was the first attractive woman I noticed. And so it went, through most of childhood and adolescence. By the time I got around to losing my virginity, I was pretty sure I was a submissive. Which was not the case, for the most part, once I found myself on the other dealing end of a few good knots. Being bound does little for me now (except for the enduring fantasy of forced orgasms).