when a friend dies...

[redheadedtxn]

I lost a dear friend. I spent last weekend with him, and he passed Wednesday. Juzt found out yesterday.

I do not know how to process this.

Have you ever had this happen?

I can not stop thinking about him and our time together.

How did you cope? I am having a very hard time.

 

[Saint Peter]

It gets easier.

 

[renard_ruse]

I lost a dear friend. I spent last weekend with him, and he passed Wednesday. Juzt found out yesterday.
...

Did you kill him?

 

[LadyVer]

 

[fgarvb1]

I lost a dear friend. I spent last weekend with him, and he passed Wednesday. Juzt found out yesterday.

I do not know how to process this.

Have you ever had this happen?

I can not stop thinking about him and our time together.

How did you cope? I am having a very hard time.

It gets better with time.

There was a female friend of mine named Lisa... we were engaged once, That woman sure could line me out!

I was the only man that she really trusted and that didn't happen easily.

Every so often I visit her grave. Yeah I know she not really there.

I remember us talking about out hopes and dreams and plans for the future.

Kind of like John Wayne in She Wore A Yellow Ribbon...I report in.

 

[BlueElf]

I'm sorry for your loss. Just let yourself grieve and process things with friends. Remember the good times that you had with him and celebrate the difference he made in your life and others' lives.

 

[CandiCame]

I've been through it... and the only advice I can give is to keep living. Just keep going on, day by day, and eventually the ache fades.

So sorry to hear about it.

 

[neci]

ashes and stardust, with you forever.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

You never really get over it so, there's that. Anyone that tells you differently is lying or has never experienced it. Fortunately the human brain gets tired of dwelling on one painful subject, so it will traipse around looking for something else to do, and then when you think things are all better, the brain will stab you in the fucking heart.

Drink lots of alcohol. That's what I do.

 

[gotsnowgotslush]

 

[StephenHawking]

i am sorry for your loss.

if you want to feel better, and help the immediate family, may i suggest that you prepare a meal and deliver it to them. recently, i did up some swedish meatballs, au gratin potatos and a tossed salad for a family. they really appreciated and i felt a lot better too! no one immediately impacted feels like cooking for weeks. your kindness in this regard is huge!

death surrounds me. suicides, ods, car crashes, disease...so, i am use to it.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

This turns ugly in 5..4..3..2

 

[BossMan62]

I lost the love of my life back in october of 2011. Its gotton easier as times gone by, but i still miss and think about her every single day. Wish you the best, Red.

 

[RjThoughts]

I'm so sorry.

They say time heals all wounds. For me, it has, but I'm not you.

In time you may process what happened, how cruel reality and life can be. For now, lean on close friends for support.

 

[glynndah]

 

[McKenna]

You never really get over it so, there's that. Anyone that tells you differently is lying or has never experienced it. Fortunately the human brain gets tired of dwelling on one painful subject, so it will traipse around looking for something else to do, and then when you think things are all better, the brain will stab you in the fucking heart.

This ^^^. You never forget, you just stop remembering so often. As trite as it sounds, I think the only way out is through. Embrace the pain. Own it. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until the day you realize it's been ## of days since you last thought of him, then rinse and repeat.

 

[thør]

How did you cope?

I always get high, on the mountainside, where I can see the world.

It helps me.

 

[waffen4threich]

Fuck 'em. They're dead and your not. Get your head in the war soldier.

 

[thirty]

2 of my high school classmates died of cancer during the past 1 year... I didn't be with them before they passed away and I didn't attend the funerals either since they were 1000 kms away from me.

It saddened me very much too.

 

[parodyluvr75]

I do not know how to process this.

Have you ever had this happen?

How did you cope?

Sorry for your loss.

It never makes sense even when you know it's coming.

Yes.

Doing things in their memory.

 

[pointless]

i had an old friend kill himself the same day i saw him, but didn't even attempt to talk to him. it wasn't my fault and i knew that even then, but it still sucked. he wasn't a bad guy. we just weren't on very good terms at the time and i never expected him to die.

oh well.

 

[gravyrug]

Still dealing with this one myself. You go on with life, do what you need to do, and grieve when it hits you. Eventually it doesn't hit as often.

It would probably help if we could finish getting her stuff out of the house. She had quite a lot that we've got to deal with.

 

[redheadedtxn]

thanks. i am in disbelief.

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

The shock is as hard to deal with as the grief sometimes. When you don't expect it at all, it seems to hurt much more.
The shock will fade and so will the grief. Cry when you need to. I found crying alone helped more than crying with other people.

 

[Liar]

I lost a close friend not too long ago. What helped me was to put it in perspective and find a purpose. I had to bury a friend. His parents had to bury a son. Was there anything I could do to help them? That helped me process my own grief, as well as to not face it alone.