What's your pain or pleasure?

[PlayDoe]

This has been rattling around in my brain for a while now. I have been wondering about the relationship of pain to pleasure. Here goes:

Do you think that pain is an integral part of giving pleasure? Does some form of pain need to be incorporated into a scene for it to be really rewarding?

If you regularly participate in some form of pain/pleasure routine, why?

Does anyone here have a relationship that doesn't involve some form of pain/pleasure?

 

[MissTaken]

My favorite play is nipple torture.

In truth, it no longer is painful for me and is pure, unadulterated pleasure.

It isn't necessary for me, but when it happens, nirvana!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Pain for me is a limit.....real pain I mean....like bruising and such.

However, sensations are a whole new ballgame. By this I mean a well place clamp, or strike of a flogger, will send this subbie to heaven in a heartbeat. Is it necessary? Nope.

But if it gets into the pain realm, I will safe word out. I have before, and will again, because its what I have a right to do.

What some think of as pain, others think of as sensations. What's right for one won't be for another.

Just MHO.

dixi

edited because my rambling didn't make sense even to me.....lol

 

[cymbidia]

Do you think that pain is an integral part of giving pleasure? Does some form of pain need to be incorporated into a scene for it to be really rewarding?

I am a masochist. Masochists experience sensual/sexual "pain" as intrinsically and inherently erotic.

I eroticize pain. I need it in my lovemaking, though not every time, of course. I'm a human and woman before i'm a pain slut and, so, i crave tenderness and soothing sensuality in lovemaking, too. However, i eroticize pain, make no mistake about that.

I crave the rush of heat and intensity that overtakes and swamps my senses at the application of exquisite, perfect, just-almost-too-much amounts of pain. I need it, that pain. I want it. It's my drug and my addiction.

This sounds overly melodramatic, i know. However, it's the literal truth. Those who've been around a while have seen some of the pics i've posted over the last year+ and they know: i'm not exaggerating at all.

I'm a sexual masochist - and while i don't need it in my every-time lovemaking/scening/fucking/whatever, i definitely want to know it's gonna be a big part of the sexual energy between my dominant and me. Otherwise, it's deal-killer. If my would-be dominant doesn't have a strong sado side, then no amount of matching-in-other-areas will be enough: we won't fit.

If you regularly participate in some form of pain/pleasure routine, why?

Why should i not? It's my sexuality. It's what i need and want and crave and have to have. It makes me wet. It makes me pant. It makes me beg and scream and writhe and thrash about and, ultimately, it makes me orgasm over and over and over, each orgasm riding the back of the pervious one and infused with the pounding pulse of the endorphines crashing through my system.

Why should i deny myself my most basic primal pleasure if i have a partner who needs to give to me what i need to take, and who wants from me what i need to give? Isn't that what we're all looking for - someone with whom we fit in all/most ways? Why should someone like me be different in this matter from someone who doesn't want some pain with thier pleasure?

I'm a masochistic submissive. I know who and what i am beyond that, but that's my basic sexual identity. It's harder then you might know to find someone who can "play" to my level, too. Most dominants are kinda wussie (~smirk~) about the application of real pain, the kind i want, even within the context of a fully SSC relationship.

 

[Desdemona]

I adore nipple torture. In fact, I enjoyed some of that a few hours ago while reaquainting myself with a former play partner. A little pain is a good thing.

 

[tassie]

I'm getting there. I like hot wax, but that is more of a sensation than a real pain (like falling down the stairs would be ) i like not knowing when it's going to happen, the little sting as it hits my skin and gets rubbed in.

I'm getting to like a few thwacks too, more thuddy than stingy for me though. I like the heat that comes from my buttocks very much.

why do i do it? same reason I like my toes sucked. it's N-I-C-E!!!!! well, to me anyway

 

[SierraMoon]

Re: Re: What's your pain or pleasure?

I am a masochist. Masochists experience sensual/sexual "pain" as intrinsically and inherently erotic.

I eroticize pain. I need it in my lovemaking, though not every time, of course. I'm a human and woman before i'm a pain slut and, so, i crave tenderness and soothing sensuality in lovemaking, too. However, i eroticize pain, make no mistake about that.

I crave the rush of heat and intensity that overtakes and swamps my senses at the application of exquisite, perfect, just-almost-too-much amounts of pain. I need it, that pain. I want it. It's my drug and my addiction.

This sounds overly melodramatic, i know. However, it's the literal truth. Those who've been around a while have seen some of the pics i've posted over the last year+ and they know: i'm not exaggerating at all.

I'm a sexual masochist - and while i don't need it in my every-time lovemaking/scening/fucking/whatever, i definitely want to know it's gonna be a big part of the sexual energy between my dominant and me. Otherwise, it's deal-killer. If my would-be dominant doesn't have a strong sado side, then no amount of matching-in-other-areas will be enough: we won't fit.Why should i not? It's my sexuality. It's what i need and want and crave and have to have. It makes me wet. It makes me pant. It makes me beg and scream and writhe and thrash about and, ultimately, it makes me orgasm over and over and over, each orgasm riding the back of the pervious one and infused with the pounding pulse of the endorphines crashing through my system.

Why should i deny myself my most basic primal pleasure if i have a partner who needs to give to me what i need to take, and who wants from me what i need to give? Isn't that what we're all looking for - someone with whom we fit in all/most ways? Why should someone like me be different in this matter from someone who doesn't want some pain with thier pleasure?

I'm a masochistic submissive. I know who and what i am beyond that, but that's my basic sexual identity. It's harder then you might know to find someone who can "play" to my level, too. Most dominants are kinda wussie (~smirk~) about the application of real pain, the kind i want, even within the context of a fully SSC relationship.

oh my, cym... i knew i liked you for a reason!!!
i'm a definate "pain slut" (that's what my Dom calls me... funny)... i need the sharp sensations as he's whipping me, or attaching clamps to my nipples, to make the orgasm complete and satisfying....

 

[lilfrk]

What cym Said...

Except I'm kinda new(only been doing this about 3 years) to the whole pain/pleasure thing so I may not play as hard as her...Yet. I think I'm working on it though. I sport some serious friendly reminders sometimes. I like the ones that last about a week.

 

[petrel]

Re: Re: What's your pain or pleasure?

I am a masochist. Masochists experience sensual/sexual "pain" as intrinsically and inherently erotic.

I eroticize pain. I need it in my lovemaking, though not every time, of course. I'm a human and woman before i'm a pain slut and, so, i crave tenderness and soothing sensuality in lovemaking, too. However, i eroticize pain, make no mistake about that.

I crave the rush of heat and intensity that overtakes and swamps my senses at the application of exquisite, perfect, just-almost-too-much amounts of pain. I need it, that pain. I want it. It's my drug and my addiction.

This sounds overly melodramatic, i know. However, it's the literal truth. Those who've been around a while have seen some of the pics i've posted over the last year+ and they know: i'm not exaggerating at all.

I'm a sexual masochist - and while i don't need it in my every-time lovemaking/scening/fucking/whatever, i definitely want to know it's gonna be a big part of the sexual energy between my dominant and me. Otherwise, it's deal-killer. If my would-be dominant doesn't have a strong sado side, then no amount of matching-in-other-areas will be enough: we won't fit.Why should i not? It's my sexuality. It's what i need and want and crave and have to have. It makes me wet. It makes me pant. It makes me beg and scream and writhe and thrash about and, ultimately, it makes me orgasm over and over and over, each orgasm riding the back of the pervious one and infused with the pounding pulse of the endorphines crashing through my system.

Why should i deny myself my most basic primal pleasure if i have a partner who needs to give to me what i need to take, and who wants from me what i need to give? Isn't that what we're all looking for - someone with whom we fit in all/most ways? Why should someone like me be different in this matter from someone who doesn't want some pain with thier pleasure?

I'm a masochistic submissive. I know who and what i am beyond that, but that's my basic sexual identity. It's harder then you might know to find someone who can "play" to my level, too. Most dominants are kinda wussie (~smirk~) about the application of real pain, the kind i want, even within the context of a fully SSC relationship.

what she said

but I am nowhere near at Cym's level yet!
I am finding more and more often that I need, I want, that rush from a spanking or flogging, its pain sure but it gives me the same endorphin rush and slow lazy smile that an orgasm does.

When I'm already in or getting close to 'subspace' I love breast and nipple torture but when I am only partially aroused I find that far to painful and somehow invasive. however even when I am not thinking about sex, a slap (and I do mean a hard one) to my ass will nearly always 'get me going' its like a distillation of everything I enjoy and fantasise about in my sexuality.

 

[Desdemona]

I've decided to crown myself Ms Junior Pain Slut

As I showered this morning, I noted all the newly tender spots on my body as well as a few remaining marks. As I remember how I obtained the marks and tender places, all I can think is:

I want more! Soon!!

Yep, I'm on the rebound, but I wasn't made for celibacy. Thank goodness for fuckbuddy Doms!

 

[cellis]

It is never the same for me twice....

There are times like this past weekend where I had hard time getting into the whole thing... and in the beginning everything hurt... nothing felt good... that changed gradually as I let myself begin that slow slide into my space...

There are things I love... the feel of the clamps on my nipples as he tightens them just so tight... the first strike of the flogger... or crop on my skin...

I need those things... I need the sensations to feel complete...

It is hard to explain unless you need the same sensations...

It is not all about the pain.... I need the contrasts... the softness of his touch to sooth the sting of the cane...

Oh I need and want it all.

 

[PlayDoe]

Any Dom perspectives???

It would be interesting to get a few of the Doms out there to comment on this subject. By the way, are males a minority around here?

 

["angel" eve]

males are indeed a minority

yep, it seems to be true PlayDoe check out "gay/lesbian/bi/dom..." or "dom space" if you need further proof that females are in the majority here. it think maybe females need more affirmation? more comapnionship typically.
that's just my guess, because i can't think of any other reason.

 

["angel" eve]

cym... you're amazing

thank you cym for that fantastic post about your masochist desires. you write beautifully. more than anything i just wanted to thank you for sharing your thoughts.

no, i don't go as far as you do. but i think i push my limits as much. and i believe i feel a bit of what you spoke about. the articulation of your feelings, much like my own, make mine seem somehow more valid.... it seems silly. but it's true.

 

[PlayDoe]

Inspired

After reading through this thread, I was moved and inspired to a write story. I tried to rush through it, to get it done before the weekend, but didn't make it. It isn't as good as I had hoped and I had a lot of typo's, but it was fun. It has a bit of female nipple and clit torture.

Cymbidia may like the name:


"ToxicoSalix"