What's wrong with me?

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I do think that also contributes to it. He only showers every other day because he says he doesn't like it. I think he's just being lazy. But I'm fairly sure the meds have an effect also. I have no idea how to tell him about this without hurting his feelings. He takes what people say so strangely sometimes.

Gross. So the guy is a scumbag and you're worried about protecting his feelings?

I'm a germ freak. I know someone who only showers twice a month or so but "washes up". The guy doesn't even wash his hands after he goes to the bathroom. He smells and covers himself in cologne. I skeeve the guy.

A lot of personality disorders make people take things so "strangely". Regardless, you shouldn't have to give oral to someone that physically disgusts you. Your thread title is asking what is wrong with you when it's NOT you. It's him. If he cleaned himself better than you wouldn't be repulsed by him.

 

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kinkymuse quoth:
thanks, i have a tendency to blame myself in an illogical way. if i can't fix it, i go into apology mode and assume it's all my fault. which i know is silly.

this is a classic example of taking ownership and trying to establish some measure of control and influence over something that isn't necessarily going to lend itself to be influenced by you.

while i'm glad that you've hit this milestone, please be aware that this too may be an issue in your dynamic with your bf.

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