What Would You Do?

[rosco rathbone]

I was going to say what Betticus said, but he beat me to it.

 

[Chiara_searches]

Just wanted to update this a bit... We talked last night, and while that conversation went fairly well, I WON'T be going down there to visit. I got real curious about a discrepancy in something he was saying and I googled him. Let's just say, pot smoking is the LEAST of his issues.

*motherfucker...What the fuck????*

I was also going to agree with Betticus.

Additionally, I was going to comment that if the guy is smoking and drinking that much, he was likely hiding from something, consciously or unconsciously. Good for you for listening for discrepancies and googling him when you heard something that indicated he was hiding the truth. I get weirded out feeling "cyber-stalker-ish" when I've googled two different guys this year...one was caught in lies and the other was confirmed as honest and forthright. But I think it's an important tool these days in being safe.

Sorry for the off topic safety rant...back to the point. My brother self medicates in this way and has for probably over half his lifetime. He can't function without pot, although he can sort of function without the alcohol. I think you just protected yourself, your kids and your future by deciding to stay away from this kind of thing.

There really are more fish in the ocean. Yeah, I know, damn cliche'. But I think the search for a quality person that fits much better will eventually result in a home run for you. I had no faith I'd hit a home run...but so far I seem to be. I'm sending you hope for a similar outcome.

 

[BiBunny]

I don't know a LOT of bipolar people, but all the ones I know (who aren't on their meds) smoke pot as a form of self medication

Not I. Even when I wasn't on meds.

Just wanted to update this a bit... We talked last night, and while that conversation went fairly well, I WON'T be going down there to visit. I got real curious about a discrepancy in something he was saying and I googled him. Let's just say, pot smoking is the LEAST of his issues.

*motherfucker...What the fuck????*

I'm so glad you found this out now, rather than later.

 

[TarevaChine]

Just wanted to update this a bit... We talked last night, and while that conversation went fairly well, I WON'T be going down there to visit. I got real curious about a discrepancy in something he was saying and I googled him. Let's just say, pot smoking is the LEAST of his issues.

*motherfucker...What the fuck????*

HM: I know you don't know me, but I agree with Bunny! It is better to find out now. Since you were not sure what you were going to do, I believe that fate has stepped in and given you the best answer.

I am sorry that things didn't turn out as you might have hoped, but I believe that it is probably best that it didn't.

Here's hoping the "right" one is around the corner!

 

[HottieMama]

Oh...TRUST ME...I am VERY relieved I found out now.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Oh...TRUST ME...I am VERY relieved I found out now.

I'm relieved for you. Thank god for the internet, eh?

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

VERY glad to hear this turned out ok. My best advice is to always go with your gut. It tends to be right.

 

[Betticus]

I'd like to combine my post with DVS' post but remove my blatant grammatical error.

 

[HottieMama]

I'm relieved for you. Thank god for the internet, eh?

No shit. Funny thing is, I don't normally google someone. Like itw said, my "spidey sense" was just going off big time, and I couldn't help myself. I'm very glad I did, because this could have had MAJOR ramifications for my life. Given that he knew what I do for work, and about my family, I am actually really pissed that he wasn't decent enough to admit it himself. (Then again, assuming decency is giving this fucker WAYYYY too much credit.)

I'd like to combine my post with DVS' post but remove my blatant grammatical error.

Perhaps I am being blind, but I didn't notice an error...


He has attempted to call/message me several times. I haven't answered. I am hoping that he gets the hint and moves on, so I don't have to discuss this with him.

 

[shy slave]

I am sorry you went through this.

I too would have quoted Betticus, he seemed to have his head screwed on about this situation.

On the plus side, you have had a sharp reminder that not everyone on the net is as they say they are....Which I know you knew, but sometimes it's easy to forget when they seem to tick the right boxes.

It also reminded you just how strong you are and where your own sense of self lands in the scheme of things.

Lets hope the next one who crosses your path is not such an idiot

 

[Betticus]

Safecalls and never give out your real info, unless after the safecall meets it goes well.

No one ever got hurt from being too paranoid.

 

[RunningJib]

Good luck

Not necessarily, on either count. I will NEVER "use" with this guy. I am as firm in that as I am that my name is Nicole. I won't throw away 13.5 years clean for anyone or anything.

I hope it goes very well for you

 

[HottieMama]

I hope it goes very well for you

I take it you didn't read through the rest of the posts, huh?!?!

 

[Que]

I'd suggest that you go and meet him and see if there's something chemical in the air, anyway.
If there is you seem to be strong enough to tell him to quit or leave him alone.

I'd call that 'straight'.
And you would give him at least a chance to get done what it needs to clear a path for the two of you. Even if he doesn't get it...

Im pretty sure the chemical in the air is called delta-9-tetrahydrocannabinol (not that of necessity theres anything wrong with that....)

I hear a lot of talking yourself into something that YOU already have the answer to....what we think doesnt really matter, the next 13 years of your life does.

I have a friend who says he never had a problem with alcohol per se, but he won;t drink now a dozen years sober because when he drank it tended to make him want to get high....you already associate cannabis with sex...you are obviously finding him sexy....a little toke wont hurt will it? thats what you are asking, and really only you can answer it

I think I already scanned through all the posts here but somehow I missed where you are with this, it seems you decided not to? not sure but I offer generalized support...be well and happy.

edit the third...finally saw the post i somehow missed about googling him...good call obviously...i know its still a loss though so im sorry for that...

note to self...get reputation-make-me-look-better-than-i-am-ifyer! stat!