What turns you off?

[bottom boy]

I hope this sparks some interesting conversation.

Many of us GLBT people are turned on by a wide variety of things. But, what turns you off?

What I'm looking for is:

a) a sexual act/position that you dislike
b) a personality trait that you despise
c) a body/body part size/shape/color/etc. that makes you lose your appetite for sex
d) sex related item that you do not like

and why do you not like it.

As always in my threads, please include age/sex/sexual orientation for reference.

Thanks,
bb

 

[bottom boy]

I'll go first again.

35/m/bi

Hairy backs. I hate 'em.

 

[College_geek]

18/f/straight

Let's see...turn offs...assholes are turn offs...unfortunately all the nice guys my age see the assholes with girlfriends and therfore think that all girls want the bad boys...NOT true...

Sexual act wise, I feel that I'd be experimental, but as soon as it goes into the most dom/sub sado/maso one can be, using bodily functions, if you know what I mean, that gets me naseous.

There really isn't any part of the body that will really turn me off, but I have preferences.

Mostly it's bad personality that turns me off...but the number one turn off for me is...


SMOKING! ARG! It's disgusting!

 

[Sweetevil]

28/F/Bi


Well I guess I have a "few" turn offs....I don't like a partner who rushes thru sex, ex. no foreplay, no kissing etc...I like to enjoy the moment, savor it, make it last!

I don't like kissing an "ashtray"..if you smoke at least brush or use mouthwash..something! Nothing I hate more than kissing someone with bad teeth or bad breath!

I am pretty much game for most sexual acts, although I do not like anal sex. That is an exit only for me...lol (not descriminating against anyone who likes it, cuz I know many do!)

I don't like arrogant, self centered, egotistical, assholes!..lol That is a turn off!

And I should stop now cuz I said I only had a "few"...

Sweet

 

[Netzach]

30/F/omniverous slut

Aggressive butches, butches who get all in your face and "my bitch" and act worse than any of the totally asshocular men I won't tolerate. Like, duh, I don't like it when it has dick, I sure don't like it when it's got pussy. I'm so not impressed.

Not a sexual turnoff but gay guys who have the girl germ syndrome, who absolutely have a freak out if any female anything gets near their sacred sanctums, give it a rest. You came OUT of a giant gaping PUSSY, ok???? Jesus.

I'd say that I'd add lesbians of the "I never even penetrate myself with my fingers, it's too male-oriented" school to that list, but I don't know any anymore.

Smoking is gross, but the least of my worries. Body hair can be charming on the right individual as can total lack of it.

People who put "no bis fats or fems" or better yet "no bis or drugs" in an add....that always amuses me. It's fine if bis aren't your thing, just don't equate me to a needle full of heroin.

Dependent whiny people...total turnoff. People with a persecuted "why do they have it in for me..." air? Immediate disqualifier. Scary.

 

[madmanmike]

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2 words. they ruin the what could be the best sex ever. those words are anal leakage.

 

[webber1998]

Bigots.....

 

[Magnolia Wind]

23/f/bi

Men:

Who can live without showering for years
Who are lazy to look after themselves in general
Yellow teeth LOL
Bad breath
Hairy chests



Women:

Yellow teeth and bad breath again. That's just disgusting... A female with a charming white-teeth smile will make my day.

 

[LadyIsis]

22, female, lesbian.

My big turn offs are extremely large breasts and women who don't keep their pubic hair groomed. I like it either neatly trimmed or completely shaved. And, as others have said, smoking is a huge turn off.

 

[MissIntrigue]

arrogance
bad breath
non hygienic habits

that's it for now

 

[brinkeedinkee]

31/f/bi

I prefer curvaceous figures to skinny twigs...larger breasts...shaved or trimmed well...
Good hygiene a MUST, goes w/o saying. No smoking.

I prefer someone that knows themselves well enough to KNOW WHAT THEY WANT...and what THEY DO NOT...what they won't accept.

I dunno...and maybe ~mean bitches for no reason.


Brinky

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

a) a sexual act/position that you dislike
b) a personality trait that you despise
c) a body/body part size/shape/color/etc. that makes you lose your appetite for sex
d) sex related item that you do not like

and why do you not like it.

hmmm 31/f/bi

The things I despise are all personality related. People who lie. People who judge. People who act like they must have things their way ALL the friggin TIME!! Racists idiots.

Being a social smoker and drinker, I can say that smoking does not offend BUT someone who does not keep care of their mouth (brushing 3 times a day, mouth wash etc) makes me want to vomit!!

I also dislike hairy people..EWWWW!!! I am completely hairless except for the hair on my head. I do not expect everyone to have that same thought process but DAMN clean it up a little!!!

I am sure I will think of more but that is all for now!!

 

[glamorilla]

Lying is at the top of my list too. The whole racism/bigotry issue is a major turn off for me too.

As far as sex goes I hate it when a man lies about enjoying anal sex. Just about every guy whos ever hit on me has been a bottom in bed even though prior to the actual event he'll state and act otherwise.

My preferance is cleancut beefier guys. I dont really care for very thin and i dont even find most advertising images of men all that attractive. I dont like twinkies.

Guys who don't buy me things. I mean really. I'm going to go to all this trouble to go out with you and you arent even going to bring me a present?


People who are late.

There isnt a single part of the male body i dont like.

If my cat doesnt like you you're out the door.

 

[Quint]

20/f/bi.

Physical turnoffs: for men, the chest needs to be bigger than the stomach. Teensy men won't turn me on. Any total lack of physical self-respect will keep me from enjoying myself. I'm much more open about women but I am more attracted to feminine types. I like all parts of the human body when they are made well.

Habitual turnoffs: smoking, drugs of any sort, addiction of any sort. Interests are good, obsessions are bad. Uncertainty of where they might be in 10 years is okay, uncertainty of where they are now is bad.

Personality turnoffs: submissive men, lack of creativity, lack of sadism, lack of self-esteem. Need to be intelligent and talented at what they do. I have too much water in my nature and I tend to gravitate towards people who have a good healthy serving of wood, if ye ken. Angst, airs of suffering and indecision and persecution, unbreakable self-pity, and other high school traits will destroy my libido and my patience.

 

[theoneadd2]

22/bi/m
a) A sexual act/position that you dislike: rimming I just can't see myself doing it to a guy or getting it done to me.

b) A personality trait that you despise: Guys that let me push them around. Men who have strong female traits and who talk too much.

c) A body/body part size/shape/color/etc. that makes you lose your appetite for sex: The only thing that I don't like is body piercing.

 

[deezire1900]

29/F/Lez

I hate it when women have the pubic hair running wild. Down their legs, up their stomach...ugh. I understand not wanting to shave, but warn a girl...I could get lost in there.

 

[Guest]

a) a sexual act/position that you dislike
b) a personality trait that you despise
c) a body/body part size/shape/color/etc. that makes you lose your appetite for sex
d) sex related item that you do not like
and why do you not like it.

Female/27/bi

a) Any position involving me having to bend over backwards. I'm not an acrobat, and my spine has feelings. Anything requiring me to tie myself into a knot or do a back bend is just not enjoyable.

b) I hate arrogance. I don't care how good the person looks-- if the body language and the stuff he/she says is obviously arrogant I won't even go near the person.

c) Anorexic women, women or men who are soft and flabby. I don't mind extra fat, and I get turned off by overly buffed, gorilla type body builders. But there's got to be some muscle/strength there somewhere, otherwise there's not much point in groping and touching.

d) Vibrators with partners. If I'm by myself then I don't mind using one, but nothing kills the romance and excitement faster for me than when I'm kissing and groping someone and suddenly I hear *click* *buuzzzzzzzzzzzzzz* That's what hands, tongues, and other body parts are for, otherwise what's the point of being with someone?

 

[sexnthelibrary]

Well.....

30/m/bi

Off the top of my head, I really hate those pics of huge-chested women tonguing their own nipples while maintaining eye contact with the camera. I've always considered that so contrived, tacky....and patently unsexy.

 

[innocentone]

Bad Hygene is the biggest issue....


Anal retentiveness.... I happen to like my aptartment some what disorginized thank you...its the only way i ever find anything

Men holding my head while I give oral, hands in my hair ok, pressue on the head wanting to make me gag not so fun.... me puking while giving you oral is not a turn on for me...lolol

 

[serpentofthefog]

19/f/bi

I can't stand bad oral hygine, its like brush your goddamn teeth!

Also really big breasts, and big nipples. Oh yeah, fake breasts too.

And I really hate it if a guy cums in my mouth, uhnnnn, sick. A woman's cum though is okay in my books!

 

[innocentone]

control freaks

some one who thinks they can go pee, shake it off and I will give them head---ewww

Backhair

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

People who smoke would probubly be number one on the list. Coming in second would be dirty, unwashed hair. I love beautiful hair and looking at it being mistreated..... ewwwww.

Not really a turn off but something that really bothers me are the people with bad body image, get over yourselves people! Someone will find you attractive, so don't wallow in misery your whole lives or the person who DOES find you attractive might decide it's not worth there time to convince you.

-Zergplex

 

[lizzie anne]

turn me off?

any one thinks they are god and set rules someone can not post messages under 20 seconds apart.....

THAT i call a damned turn off!!!!!!!!!!!..(hint)

lizzie

 

[mellian]

a lot of things turn me off, but not in the mood t list them all. too long anyway.

-mellian

 

[sdedalus]

What I'm looking for is:

a) a sexual act/position that you dislike
b) a personality trait that you despise
c) a body/body part size/shape/color/etc. that makes you lose your appetite for sex
d) sex related item that you do not like

a) rape fantasy... just can't get that into it... i can do it, but i hate doing it... doesn't feel normal.. doesn't feel sexual... too violent to me...

b) people who think they are too good to associate with you. idiots.. i'm too good for them... HA!

c) waifishness.... being too skinny can be disgusting, especially if you can see bones all over them....

d) tongue ring.... and penis ring.. just don't see the point... nor do i feel it... it's distracting more than anything.

peace,

SD