What to submit. How do I chose?

[KellyRed]

I am in a committed, long-term relationship and we are begining to explore my thus far undiscovered submissive side. She has given me my first assignment. “Come up with five things that you want to lose control of. That you’re willing to give up control of.” Easy enough, one would think. However, I am getting so caught up in the thought process and trying to chose, and overanalyzing what the signifianct of each is, that I don't have a list. I realize that this is the point, but I still need to have a list by tomorrow at noon.

So my question to those with more experience, from either side of the D/s, what are some acceptable "first things" one could give up?

I first explored "what do I really control now?" Yeah, pretty much eveything in my life... that would be my way of not letting anyone really in...

Thank you for your help.
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[satindesire]

Something simple and easy to manage would be things like:

What you wear when you go out together

How much sweets/junk food you're allowed

How often you get online or use the computer

What you do in your 'leisure' time

How often you have sex/are intimate

How you wear your hair/makeup

Where and when you can go shopping

How much TV time you're allowed

When you cook/clean/do household chores

How often you can use the phone

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After that I think anything else in your life would be harder to give up, because these things can be relatively small compared to other things we do.

Good luck to you.

 

[myinnerslut]

other things you could give up control over:

eating habbits: i am required to have fruits and vegtables several times a day, every day. i am also not allowed to drink soda, for example.

the color nail polish you can wear.

the use of a certain toy if you own any.

the possibilities are multiple, you just have to think. and the things you chose dont have to be big, especially not in the begining of your submission.

 

[amadaun]

For myself, in what's currently a purely sexual D/s relationship, I'd not be super down with the boyfriend exerting control over my appearance or daily activities (like online time) in a more than occasional and/or casually suggestive way (which he does do). Too TPE for my taste just yet, but your mileage will probably vary.

Some pretty common ones are giving up control over when and how you can orgasm (in masturbation or sex),when you will have sex and what will happen during said sex. (that's pretty much everything I've personally given up control over on a full-time basis). It seems like a bigger thing, but if you're sexually submissive already it might actually be easier initially (and perhaps more rewarding?) to lose control of that sort of thing than something you're quite attached to controlling (such as your personal appearance).

... course, chances are pretty dang not bad that she'll want that sexual control eventually anyway, or that you're already doing this.

 

[marieR19]

It's definitely better to start with small things first. I haven't had much experience at all in this area, but things I've given up control over (for however brief a time) were:
Where to sit in a restraunt
What to order in said restraunt
....... Crap. Now I can't think of anything else.


Heather

 

[MasterPhoenix]

You are taking your first steps in what will be a marathon. Don't start big, start small and let it grow.

This is a marathon NOT a sprint.

 

[Kailey_86]

I am in a committed, long-term relationship and we are begining to explore my thus far undiscovered submissive side. She has given me my first assignment. “Come up with five things that you want to lose control of. That you’re willing to give up control of.” Easy enough, one would think. However, I am getting so caught up in the thought process and trying to chose, and overanalyzing what the signifianct of each is, that I don't have a list. I realize that this is the point, but I still need to have a list by tomorrow at noon.

So my question to those with more experience, from either side of the D/s, what are some acceptable "first things" one could give up?

I first explored "what do I really control now?" Yeah, pretty much eveything in my life... that would be my way of not letting anyone really in...

Thank you for your help.
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Areas that are controlled for me:
-i don't decide anything when it comes to all things sexual.
-i am not allowed to initiate a conversation in public unless it would be akward not to.
-i always walk on His left.
-i can't buy things over $50 without His consent.
-When W/we are together He decides when i eat.
-When W/we are together i ask for permission to use the restroom.
-i have to ask permission before doing anything that would change my basic physical appearance (tatoos, piercings, haircut, etc).

Other ideas:
-He decides what You wear.
-you ask permission to go out with friends.
-He tells you when to go to bed.
-If you have a bad habit, give up your right to do whatever it is.