What makes somebody attractive?

[mrbaddaddy]

Pheromones

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[ladyadonia30]

attraction

A person is attractive when they hold themselves high...their demeanor, and attitude about themselves makes it more appealing for others.

 

[sexualbeing]

the thing that attracts me to a man is his ability to carry on a intriging conversation. I love a sense of humor, if you can make me laugh your halfway to my heart. I also find a man being honest and openly romantic to be unresistable.

 

[Flyin_Free]

I'm not sure I really believe in pheromones, but I do think that I respond to something that certain people "give off" which hits me underneath my conscious senses. Not a smell, or some sort of new age aura, but I think there must be something that makes me go all achy for someone who's not particularly more physically or intellectually attractive than the woman she's sitting next to.
What ever it is, I just THINK it's there, but I can't put my finger on it. And (here's where I really go out on a limb) I think it can even come across when cybering with someone.
Maybe I'm crazy, whattya think?

Hmmm interesting. There Are certian people that you just "click" with right away aren't there? And sometimes you're right, if there are 2 people there, even if you find one of them more physically appealing, the other one could be the one you find more attractive. Interesting too about the cyber thing.

 

[Straight-8]

In truth, it is looks first and foremost. Not any particular 'look'. I like tall and slim or short and round and everything in between BUT it has to be a look that appeals to me. That is the usual 'initial attraction'.

Much less frequently, I will meet a woman who makes little or no impact on me at the time but who I later begin to find very attractive. I am not reflective enough to say whether this is because I like her 'personality' or exactly what it is. I think it is a combination of things.

Unless I was looking for a very 'brief encounter' I would never act on looks alone. Before I'm really attracted I have to form an opinion about the woman's personality, character and intellect. Many women who I find physically attractive initially quickly lose their attraction when I get better acquainted with them (and I am sure there are many who feel the same back). And that brings up one of the most important things: I have to feel that my attraction to her is reciprocated to at least some degree.

And there are some things that are (or are close to) deal breakers. For example, if a woman smokes she would have to have some really spectacular other qualities for me to still find her 'attractive'.

 

[Beco]

The very first time you see somebody that you’ve never met before--what about them makes them initially attractive to you?

For me it’s a few things—Of course the normal physically pleasing to my eyes but other things can make somebody attractive to me as well (even somebody who I didn’t initially find “good looking” at first glance):

Hands—I love men with rough, “working” looking hands. Someone who, by looking at their hands, you know they’re not afraid to work. (Long, skinny, smooth, feminine looking hands on men usually turn me right off—no matter what he looks like otherwise)

Smell—I love the smell of musky cologne on a man

Accents—I love accents, all accents, but especially Southern ones.

Eyes and Smile and the way they look at you when they talk to you.

lips, legs and vagina

 

[taolanes]

To me, it is all common sense. When a girl in a club looks amazing everyone knows she looks amazing. Being attractive is not rocket science, it's all in effort. If you decide to take the effort to eat healthy, be friendly and personable, and have a good sense of style, anyone could be super attractive

 

[tbs230]

The voice...I have a thing for deep voices, I never even have to meet the person face to face...as long as I can hear him talk...*shiver*

 

[CheekyLady]

The song by Meredith Brooks, "Bitch" is so very positive to me...give me a woman that shows all aspects of her personality...please!

I wonder why I love the sound of that ...


As for my personal preferences,

On the superficial side I have a weakness for blue eyed boys - without age restinctions. Also a man who is still able to blush like a boy, rarely fails to make me smile.

Digging deeper: I'm attracted to humor and creative ways of thinking, to men who can hold their own in a conversation without feeling intimidated by my opinions and the way I express them. I've found always those men most attractive - very much regardless of age, social status or looks - whom I could respect AND admire.

Confidence, a friendly attitude, sizzling conversationalists and flattery get to me big time - but in the end, it's always going to be the man I have committed my heart to whom I will find the most attractive! I'm not very objective here, I know, but happy.

ChL

 

[DAZZED48]

the mind

For me its all in the mind.I have known some really nice looking people who were ugly inside.

 

[Flyin_Free]

Originally Posted by Flyin_Free
The very first time you see somebody that you’ve never met before--what about them makes them initially attractive to you?.......

lips, legs and vagina

The very first time you meet you're attracted to their vagina heh? Well I guess on Lit that IS possible...in real life...not so much I don't think LOL

 

[boobwitched]

Assuming ...

If they are farther away than across the room, then it will be physical attractiveness, but assuming they are at least as close as "in the same room", then the parameters changes dramatically.

(I am presuming I can see and hear them ... )

IMNSHO, it is almost all about "attitude."

I think about 75% of attractiveness (and, indeed, SEXINESS) is all in how a person "carries themselves" ... their personality, their attitude ... joie de vivre ...

When a person *THINKS* they are sexy ... when they "feel sexy" ... then they *ARE* sexy. I really believe that.

After that first 75%, I'd say another 15% (apologies for being so 'mathematical') is in how they "present" themselves ... do they dress & otherwise manage their appearance in such a way that shows they care how they look? (And I am not really talking about physical fitness ...)

After that, I would say the last 10% is physical features/looks ... but that is very subjective depending on your taste. But I can honestly say I have met all sorts of people of every shape, size, color, etc. who were *VERY* sexy ... and I have also met people who would score a "10" on most peoples' scale, yet who were so un-attractive due to their attitude and personality.

 

[xcobrax]

If they are farther away than across the room, then it will be physical attractiveness, but assuming they are at least as close as "in the same room", then the parameters changes dramatically.

(I am presuming I can see and hear them ... )

IMNSHO, it is almost all about "attitude."

I think about 75% of attractiveness (and, indeed, SEXINESS) is all in how a person "carries themselves" ... their personality, their attitude ... joie de vivre ...

When a person *THINKS* they are sexy ... when they "feel sexy" ... then they *ARE* sexy. I really believe that.

After that first 75%, I'd say another 15% (apologies for being so 'mathematical') is in how they "present" themselves ... do they dress & otherwise manage their appearance in such a way that shows they care how they look? (And I am not really talking about physical fitness ...)

After that, I would say the last 10% is physical features/looks ... but that is very subjective depending on your taste. But I can honestly say I have met all sorts of people of every shape, size, color, etc. who were *VERY* sexy ... and I have also met people who would score a "10" on most peoples' scale, yet who were so un-attractive due to their attitude and personality.

I agree with you 100%....People I went to school with are now married and they look like shit... They where beautiful in school and just let there self go.

 

[Curious_Red]

I'm generally only "attracted" to a person once I get to know them. If somebody is physically attractive, then that's great to look at but I know "hot" people that suck and people "not so hot" that I'd much rather go out with, if I were single of course.

 

[L_homme]

Aside from the most obvious and visually appealing things the strength of their parting look and whether it left an impression for at least a year.

 

[privyjo]

The very first time you see somebody that you’ve never met before--what about them makes them initially attractive to you?

A certain kind of smile can hold my attention all night long - can't really describe the smile - I just know it when I see it and it is what attracts me to the person.

 

[AboutFace]

Well - for me - it depends on the situation......
on the net - it is the words and the way they are used. THAT is incredibly attractive to me.

in person - it is the PERSON. I am immediately attracted to beautiful eyes - but if there is nothing behind them - well, then I have no use for them. I am attracted by beautiful lips and a nice smile. Mostly though - it is the personality. If someone has no personality - I want nothing to do with them. Plain and simple.

 

[Flyin_Free]

When a person *THINKS* they are sexy ... when they "feel sexy" ... then they *ARE* sexy. I really believe that.

I completely agree with this.

 

[sweetgirl666]

For me it is the charisma a person has around them. Might have a different name. But when you look at him you just see his personality in everything, the way he moves, acts, holds himself, smiles, speaks...

I am kind of dating this incredible man right now. He is not that attractive I think. But when he is really happy he has a glow on him that made me fall in love the first time I saw it. He is cute outside of that glow too, lol, that helps. Oh, and he smells increcdible. Very slight only, but I love being so close to him that I can acutally smell him....it just smells like him...

 

[redneckgirl]

For me, it is the personality. I couldn't care less what someone looks like on the outside, it's what they look like on the inside that counts. My husband, for example, is not all that attractive if you were to judge him from his appearance, but I love him for his attitude and the way he carries himself, that's what makes him handsome to me

 

[silverwhisper]

is it shallow to find someone else's attraction to you attractive?

ed

 

[wicked woman]

is it shallow to find someone else's attraction to you attractive?

ed

No. Actually it's quite powerful sometimes.

 

[sister76]

The attraction can be a "right away" thing. It doesn't happen very often, but it's awesome when it does.

Confidence, looking me in the eye, physical posture, and sense of humor all play into this.

 

[Flyin_Free]

is it shallow to find someone else's attraction to you attractive?

ed

I think that knowing somebody finds you attractive can be a huge turnon.

 

[WildAce]

For me it would have to be a woman who can hold an intelligent conversation and also have a beautiful laugh. Laughter always helps to enhance any conversation.