What makes somebody attractive?

[Flyin_Free]

The very first time you see somebody that you’ve never met before--what about them makes them initially attractive to you?

For me it’s a few things—Of course the normal physically pleasing to my eyes but other things can make somebody attractive to me as well (even somebody who I didn’t initially find “good looking” at first glance):

Hands—I love men with rough, “working” looking hands. Someone who, by looking at their hands, you know they’re not afraid to work. (Long, skinny, smooth, feminine looking hands on men usually turn me right off—no matter what he looks like otherwise)

Smell—I love the smell of musky cologne on a man

Accents—I love accents, all accents, but especially Southern ones.

Eyes and Smile and the way they look at you when they talk to you.

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

The very first time you see somebody that you’ve never met before--what about them makes them initially attractive to you?

For me it’s a few things—Of course the normal physically pleasing to my eyes but other things can make somebody attractive to me as well (even somebody who I didn’t initially find “good looking” at first glance):

Hands—I love men with rough, “working” looking hands. Someone who, by looking at their hands, you know they’re not afraid to work. (Long, skinny, smooth, feminine looking hands on men usually turn me right off—no matter what he looks like otherwise)

Smell—I love the smell of musky cologne on a man

Accents—I love accents, all accents, but especially Southern ones.

Eyes and Smile and the way they look at you when they talk to you.

I'm attracted to a man who can hold an intelligent conversation and can look me in the eye the whole time and not let his eyes wander and linger on my boobs while I am talking.

 

[kiba]

For me ,confidence in who she is. on the physical side- warm inviting eyes .

 

[Flyin_Free]

I'm attracted to a man who can hold an intelligent conversation and can look me in the eye the whole time and not let his eyes wander and linger on my boobs while I am talking

Oh I agree with you there. Sometimes even if somebody is initially "pleasing" to your senses, if they open their mouth and can't hold any sort of intelligent conversation, all attractiveness can just fly right out the window.

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

Oh I agree with you there. Sometimes even if somebody is initially "pleasing" to your senses, if they open their mouth and can't hold any sort of intelligent conversation, all attractiveness can just fly right out the window.

Yes and it's not just the men either

 

[Xenolan]

Assuming you're looking for physical characteristics, here's what attracts me, in the order of what I would notice first if I met someone on the street.

(1) Figure. Naturally this is the first thing I'd see, since it's the most obvious characteristic that one can notice from a distance. I like tall women (I am 6'6" myself, so there's a reason) and I like them to be slim with large breasts. This is hardly a shocking revelation, I know, but I'm being honest here.

(2) Hair. I like it when there's something different about it, something noticeable. For instance, I could never for the life of me figure out what was supposed to be so damn special about Jennifer Aniston's hair; it was so ordinary! If she'd dyed it platinum blonde and worn it three feet long over one shoulder, that would be sexy.

(3) Eyes. Emerald green is best; ice blue is a close second. Actually, if this list were in order of most important, this would be at the top.

 

[Cockyfox]

The older I get, the more a personality effects my attraction.

 

[silverwhisper]

CF: just imagine i said something snarky. :>

ed

 

[Flyin_Free]

Oh I agree, personality is definately a big part of attraction--but when you first see somebody you don't really know what their personality is like. There's just something about some people that makes your stomache do that little flip-flop.

 

[silverwhisper]

o, right: to answer the original question, i tend to find eyes and good bone structure attractive. that, and i'll admit to being really partial to women's asses.

ed

 

[bobsgirl]

Intelligence, an ability to hold an interesting conversation that doesn't involve sports, and a sense of humor. Definitely a sense of humor.

 

[someplace]

Quiet strength mixed with intelligence and humor.

Penetrating eyes and a good laugh.

Get me everytime.

 

[done_got_old]

The first thing that attracts me to a man would be his eyes. The cliché that says the eyes are the window to the soul is, to me at least, true. If I get close enough to actually talk to someone, and they won’t look me in the eye, that’s a definite turn off. It doesn’t matter where their eye wanders, I want them to look me in the eye during that initial conversation.

Then of course is intelligent conversation. A man who can not hold a conversation in standard English should keep going. I’m not too interested in physical good looks as I am in brains. It’s not something that developed with age, I’ve always been attracted to the geeks, so to speak.

 

[Vixandra]

Instant attraction- a pair of eyes that catches my attention or a cute butt coupled with a personality I feel at ease with.

Though I'm not a person of many instant attractions- can think of one really and I married the man, lol.

I would have to say personality is the biggest factor. My husband is not the most physically attractive person I've ever known. However he is one of the most open and friendly. He makes friends wherever he goes.
Throw him in a room of strangers and he's at home in a few moments.

I like that in a person, that open friendlyness, probably because I don't have it to any large degree myself.

 

[~Dacendaran~]

On a woman, first and foremost is the personality, no point going for a woman who looks good but is vile on the inside, sure may be good for a one night stand, but I'm well past that stage thesedays, I want someone I can actually talk too aswell and loose track of time with..


to sum up persona always....a fun and caring persona always attracts me

 

[wally2450]

Intelligence, an ability to hold an interesting conversation that doesn't involve sports, and a sense of humor. Definitely a sense of humor.

Ain't that the truth!

 

[Munachi]

I think, one of the first things for me are eyes. Usually dark eyes, though not always...

Also lips - if I find someone's mouth unattractive that'd be a real turn off.

Intelligence and sense of humour are very important as well of course...

Else, someone has to have something that gets my attention - that could be something in their looks that differs them from others, could be just something they say, could be a hobby they have that interests me, whatever. They have to stand out, somehow.

 

[MisterEdMe]

Of course, good looks does play the initial attraction. But sexyness in a woman outranks it real quick, regardless of looks. I'd take a plain looking woman w/humour and common sense any day over a 'Miss America" type.

For me, I like a woman who has penetrating eyes, can talk about simple things w/out TRYING to make an impression (be herself).

Friendliness, honesty, and not afraid to get her hands dirty. A woman who allows me to be a man. Open doors for her, be chivalrous, pick up the tab, but doesn't expect a 'sugar daddy'. A lady in public and a tigress in the bedroom (or out of it).

A woman who can be a friend above all else. The less a woman 'demands' of me, the more she will get out of affection and gratitude. Give me the chance to appreciate her in an old fashioned sense and ingage in wild, kinky sex at times. Mutual satisfaction and an unselfish lover.

Communicating w/out words is a major turn-on too.

 

[Cathleen]

For me it would be his smile and laugh. Laughter is important in life, at least in mine. I've worn glasses full time since mid-college years so prior to that time I couldn't see a man's looks unless very close up so it's never been part of what I find attractive.

The most attractive is a good mind.

 

[pagangirl]

just last weekend i was out with a group of girlfriends at the local pub when i spied the most beautiful looking man i have seen in a while. He was just that, beautiful! Thinking of the question asked in this thread, I think immediately of him.. He had a round face, baby smooth and slightly olive skin. He had gorgeous blue eyes and a smile to die for, big sensuous lips that when he did smile, his whole face 'lit up'. He looked a little feminine, without looking 'girlie' - if that makes sense.

I watched him for the remainder of the night, I couldn't help it...he was just simply stunning to watch. The thing that made him so attractive to me other than his looks, was also the way he interacted with everyone else in the room - he could hardly walk five paces before stopping to chat heartily with someone new. He met every new person like they were his best mate, smiling generously, touching them gently, laughing out loud, looking them in the eye. He had an energy about him that was quite, intoxicating....
oh dear.......can you tell i was infatuated!!!!! *makes mental note to go back to pub soon* phew.....pant pant pant......

 

[Hooper_X]

For me it's full lips, perfect teeth, dark eyes and hair (regardless of ethnicity), round lips and a nice protuberant bubble-butt.

 

[sensationseeker]

As far as the first impressions go: eyes, smile, the expression on somebody’s face. I tend to go for ‘cute’, rather than ‘handsome’. Figure and clothes play a role, but I don’t have any specific criteria for these. I usually decide on the spot if it is a ‘pass’ or a ‘fail’.

The ability to hold intelligent conversation is not high on my priority list, since this is a talent that I lack. It would even be a minus because I would probably feel intimidated. The ability to make me laugh, on the other hand, is essential.

I am also drawn towards outgoing and talkative people, even though I am neither talkative nor outgoing.

 

[tidalpulls]

Attractiveness evolves over time

I think what makes a person attractive is what's inside....cliche yes, but hear me out...

As a relationship continues...what doesn't change is how we look...her face may age a little, or she may be 10 pounds lighter or heavier....but fundamentally what keeps me wanting to be with someone is who they are inside. Having a sense of humor, singing, dancing, and yes, conversations about things other than sports is very important (even to a guy ). But what really attracts me is someone who changes over time...doesn't statically stay the way they were when you met them...if we don't grow and change, we stagnate and wither inside. The song by Meredith Brooks, "Bitch" is so very positive to me...give me a woman that shows all aspects of her personality...please!

 

[Flyin_Free]

I think what makes a person attractive is what's inside....cliche yes, but hear me out...

As a relationship continues...what doesn't change is how we look...her face may age a little, or she may be 10 pounds lighter or heavier....but fundamentally what keeps me wanting to be with someone is who they are inside. Having a sense of humor, singing, dancing, and yes, conversations about things other than sports is very important (even to a guy ). But what really attracts me is someone who changes over time...doesn't statically stay the way they were when you met them...if we don't grow and change, we stagnate and wither inside. The song by Meredith Brooks, "Bitch" is so very positive to me...give me a woman that shows all aspects of her personality...please!

See, I think THAT kind of attraction comes a bit later on. As you get to know somebody things that have nothing to do with their looks can completely make your attraction to them grow. (And somebody who you thought was gorgeous when you first saw them can become ugly, or somebody who you didn’t find all that attractive at first can become gorgeous) Seeing how they are with their kids(or others kids), seeing how they treat other people, how they treat you, what they do in certain situations…all of these things can make somebody either much more or much less attractive…. to me anyway. Not one of the things on my “list” would make me stay with somebody who didn’t attract me emotionally too. (Hmm, so maybe it was a dumb list then eh? ….I guess those things would just be “bonuses” in the end LOL)

 

[Flyin_Free]

just last weekend i was out with a group of girlfriends at the local pub when i spied the most beautiful looking man i have seen in a while. He was just that, beautiful! Thinking of the question asked in this thread, I think immediately of him.. He had a round face, baby smooth and slightly olive skin. He had gorgeous blue eyes and a smile to die for, big sensuous lips that when he did smile, his whole face 'lit up'. He looked a little feminine, without looking 'girlie' - if that makes sense.

I watched him for the remainder of the night, I couldn't help it...he was just simply stunning to watch. The thing that made him so attractive to me other than his looks, was also the way he interacted with everyone else in the room - he could hardly walk five paces before stopping to chat heartily with someone new. He met every new person like they were his best mate, smiling generously, touching them gently, laughing out loud, looking them in the eye. He had an energy about him that was quite, intoxicating....
oh dear.......can you tell i was infatuated!!!!! *makes mental note to go back to pub soon* phew.....pant pant pant......

Well what are you doing home? Get back to that pub girl! Just kidding--but I hope you manage to run into him again!