What makes men sick of dating, and the proper remedy

[LJ_Reloaded]

This article will never get old because the truths it speaks are timeless.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201204/why-are-men-frustrated-dating

Essentially, many men report that they find modern dating a primarily punishing affair. Changing social norms has allowed few avenues by which they can be both acceptable as a relationship partner and attractive as a sex partner. As a result, at least half of their needs are unfulfilled, regardless of the decision they make.

If men choose to follow social norms and become compliant as "good guys," they may get a "relationship partner." However, due to women's social vs. biological double-bind, these compliant men may also not be "attractive" to those same relationship partners (Buss & Shackelford, 2008). As a result, they may be punished by their girlfriend's/wife's lack of sexual interest, being cheated on, or disrespected as a "pushover." These men may further be regarded as "just friends"—expected to pay for all of the costs of a relationship, without the physical and intimate benefits (see here).

And he offers the most ageless solution imaginable for men seeking to escape the dystopia of modern dating

What Some Men Do About It

3) Holding High Standards. Yet other men continue to hold high standards for both themselves and their partners. They invest in their own attractiveness, value, and success. They also treat partners equitably according to their behavior, worth, and contributions to the relationship. These men further qualify and screen partners well, not selling themselves short for less than they deserve. This approach takes constant effort though—both in the man maintaining his own standards, and in his motivating and inspiring others to do so too. It also requires patience in searching for someone who can live up to those desired standards. However, these efforts are often met with a partner who is attracted to them, respectful, and attractive for them too.

Men who do this will be a hundred times more successful than any male feminist ever will be. That includes you, RoryN.

 

[SpeareChucker]

I just don't see you as a Psychology Today reader...

 

[Biggs_Darklighter]

Stop whining about life not being fair. Nut up and take what you want. It's the only way.

Fucking pussies.

 

[rae121452]

And he offers the most ageless solution imaginable for men seeking to escape the dystopia of modern dating

Quote:
What Some Men Do About It

3) Holding High Standards. Yet other men continue to hold high standards for both themselves and their partners. They invest in their own attractiveness, value, and success. They also treat partners equitably according to their behavior, worth, and contributions to the relationship. These men further qualify and screen partners well, not selling themselves short for less than they deserve. This approach takes constant effort though—both in the man maintaining his own standards, and in his motivating and inspiring others to do so too. It also requires patience in searching for someone who can live up to those desired standards. However, these efforts are often met with a partner who is attracted to them, respectful, and attractive for them too.



you could do that....only it would be more fun to check into the nearest gay bath house and spend the next 24 hrs. on your knees or with your legs in the air. you'd lose all desire for pussy, wouldn't have to bother dating AND you'd meet the nicest guys.

 

[Liar]

And he offers the most ageless solution imaginable for men seeking to escape the dystopia of modern dating

Date each other?

 

[silver gurl]

Date each other?

That is what I was going to suggest!