What is your definition of a "Player" ?

[Devilish1]

I would like to know what your definition of a player is.

Im getting a gut feeling the guy im dating might be playing me.
He doesnt look or even act like the normal players ive had to deal with in the past. But that doesnt mean hes not playing me for what ever reason he has.
My feeling is he might be playing me to keep me around and do things with him that i normally would never had done on my own.


I just know that my gut feeling is usually 95% always right.

 

[KillerMuffin]

A player is one person playing a game of some sort. I generally see "Player 1" when I play. I have a Playstation and the StudMuffin bought me the Dukes of Hazzard game for Mother's Day.

 

[Siren]

A player is someone that.......

 

[Devilish1]

Re: A player is someone that.......

......lies to you Notthat i know of ... yet

cheats on you--- No, hes always at my house.. or on the phone with me.

takes money from you--- No no job no money to take.

makes you do things you dont really want to do--- Sometimes

makes you feel obligated to him--- Hes to nice to me. just when im about to break up with him, he starts telling me all he wants is someone to love him.


makes you feel bad after being with him


manipulates you

and

plays with your head............ That hes been doing that with me the whole time we have been dating.


does he do these things?

then he is a player.

 

[Siren]

mmmmmmmm

 

[Nora]

I'd vote user over player.

What does he do when you *do* try to assert yourself, D1?

 

[Devilish1]

When he feels i might be about to break up with him, he gives me no one loves me. why am i even on this earth?
He gives me this poor pityful me story and i stay with him.
He tells me CONSTANTLY how beautiful i am and how much he loves me and my son.

He says hes not a jealous type but i know he is.
He took me to VA almost a month ago now to meet one of my closest internet friends( a guy). He even told me to get some time on my calling card so when i got back to the hotel room we could talk as long as we wanted.
So. i did. After a while he started giving me attuide and i got all pissed off and gave him a cussing for telling me i could do one thing cause he didnt care and done another thing.

A friend of mine told me hes trying to control me.

Now im starting to get a gut feeling hes playing me and im trying to prove it.

 

[Nora]

Um. If you're not happy, just stop seeing him. You don't have to prove anything..it's not a courtroom or a divorce case.

One of the points of dating is to see if you suit. You don't. Why waste time on someone who's not making you happy?

 

[Siren]

 

[Devilish1]

I agree with what Nora said.


he sure sounds like a controlling manipulator to me.


I would move on if I were you.

Thats what a friend of mine said also.

Its so hard to break up with him when hes been SOOOOOOO good to me and my son.

He buys grocerys for us when he knows im low on money... he takes me on trips, Hes even offered to pay my house payment if i needed some help.


He knows im looking for a job and its hard to find a job around here on a day shift only and hes told me not to worry about me losing my home he can pay my payments.
My parents, my son think he cant do any wrong.



Im so lost.

 

[Northern Lights]

He sounds waaay too needy, to me. His actions are speaking louder than his words. Go with your instincts, dear.

 

[Siren]

He sounds like a nice guy

 

[Devilish1]

He sounds waaay too needy, to me. His actions are speaking louder than his words. Go with your instincts, dear.

Needy is the word that best describes him!


He crys if i need some space or want a weekend alone and makes my weekend alone shitty.

Im just about to lose it.