What is Wrong With Us?
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DustyWolfe
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Ummm.. I almost have a BA in Psychology. *hug* sorry your hurting Dilly man
ksmybuttons
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Don't you think hurt just comes with living?
Now, me, I just got out of the hot tub with the husband and son. We are all warm and rosie. Had a nice conversation and played the "abc under the water" game. (I do not get my face wet, son does.)
That is my therapy.
Isn't this an on-line support group?
Now, me, I just got out of the hot tub with the husband and son. We are all warm and rosie. Had a nice conversation and played the "abc under the water" game. (I do not get my face wet, son does.)
That is my therapy.
Isn't this an on-line support group?
Dillinger
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Sometimes it is an online support group, yes... *smile*
And my friends here have always been supportive...
It just seems many of us are hurting now... at the same time...
And we come here for escape... for support... for many reasons...
And my friends here have always been supportive...
It just seems many of us are hurting now... at the same time...
And we come here for escape... for support... for many reasons...
Hamletmaschine
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I've felt this way before....
O! that this too too solid flesh would melt,
Thaw and resolve itself into a dew'
Or that the Everlasting had not fix'd
His canon 'gainst self-slaughter! O God O God!
How weary, stale, flat, and unprofitable
Seem to me all the uses of this world.
O! that this too too solid flesh would melt,
Thaw and resolve itself into a dew'
Or that the Everlasting had not fix'd
His canon 'gainst self-slaughter! O God O God!
How weary, stale, flat, and unprofitable
Seem to me all the uses of this world.
Dillinger
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Fie on 't, and fie, 'tis an unweeded garden
That grows to seed, things rank and gross in nature
Possess it merely. That it should come to this -
But two months dead, nay, not so much, not two -
So excellent a King, that was, to this
Hyperion to a satyr, so loving to my mother,
That he might not beteem the winds of heaven
Visit her face too roughly. Heaven and earth,
Must I remember? Why, she would hang on him
As if increase of appetite had grown
By what it fed on, and yet within a month -
Let me not think on 't - frailty, thy name is woman.
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Couldn't resist... Mr. Hamletmaschine....
But... still... why is it... so many that I know - right now - all seem to be down...
That grows to seed, things rank and gross in nature
Possess it merely. That it should come to this -
But two months dead, nay, not so much, not two -
So excellent a King, that was, to this
Hyperion to a satyr, so loving to my mother,
That he might not beteem the winds of heaven
Visit her face too roughly. Heaven and earth,
Must I remember? Why, she would hang on him
As if increase of appetite had grown
By what it fed on, and yet within a month -
Let me not think on 't - frailty, thy name is woman.
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Couldn't resist... Mr. Hamletmaschine....
But... still... why is it... so many that I know - right now - all seem to be down...
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Silverlily
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what doesn't kill us, blah, blah, blah
Hurt comes and it goes. It's part of life, but you're right, it's nice to have a place where we aren't alone.
*hug*
Hurt comes and it goes. It's part of life, but you're right, it's nice to have a place where we aren't alone.
*hug*
I think there's always someone hurting. Maybe someone talking about it gets others talking and thinking about our problems too.
And I wouldn't want to be a therapist in this place, could you imagine the amount of PM's they would recieve? And if I was, would I work for free? In my off time?
I do think that we have a very good online support group here though.
And I wouldn't want to be a therapist in this place, could you imagine the amount of PM's they would recieve? And if I was, would I work for free? In my off time?
I do think that we have a very good online support group here though.
unclej
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dillinger, i'm always sorry to hear when anyone has been or is hurting...and we all have been at one time or another...i went to a psychologist for a few sessions some years ago and the experience was healing..but here's what i learned...a good psychologist is a good listener and someone that has learned to put you at ease and allows you to talk and basically draw your own conclusions...they seldom offer iron clad "rules to live by"...just a little advice and an opportunity to explore your feelings...
this place amazes me on a daily basis...not just the support and the cyber hugs but the down to earth, ususally pretty good advice..how many times have you read "pm me if you need to talk"? i suppose that if there were a mental health professional here they might start a counseling program in chat but i can't imagine what they'd be able to supply that your friends here can't...
i'm not real sure what could be offered in a group like that other than an opportunity to do just what i said above so in the meantime i would encourage everyone to keep doing what they do here every day, vent, cuss, cry and enjoy the support of everyone here...
in the meantime let me make it official...if anyone ever needs help all you have to do is ask....
this place amazes me on a daily basis...not just the support and the cyber hugs but the down to earth, ususally pretty good advice..how many times have you read "pm me if you need to talk"? i suppose that if there were a mental health professional here they might start a counseling program in chat but i can't imagine what they'd be able to supply that your friends here can't...
i'm not real sure what could be offered in a group like that other than an opportunity to do just what i said above so in the meantime i would encourage everyone to keep doing what they do here every day, vent, cuss, cry and enjoy the support of everyone here...
in the meantime let me make it official...if anyone ever needs help all you have to do is ask....
Dillinger
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Thank you unclej... just talking is good - I've talked to friends, the other people I know who are hurting right now have talked to me or to others. Usually one on one...
Just seems - so many in a bad place at the moment - that a group thing might be of some help - however I understand that posting too many details in public is not what most people are going to do, myself included.
Lavy - silence - yes... but not just of words. Silence of emotions. Silence of desires. Silence of the heart.
Just seems - so many in a bad place at the moment - that a group thing might be of some help - however I understand that posting too many details in public is not what most people are going to do, myself included.
Lavy - silence - yes... but not just of words. Silence of emotions. Silence of desires. Silence of the heart.
Debbie
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Quote by unclej,"this place amazes me on a daily basis...not just the support and the cyber hugs but the down to earth, ususally pretty good advice..how many times have you read "pm me if you need to talk"? "
I agree, lit is a great place. To rant, rave, laugh, frolic.
I hear what you are saying Dillinger. There are a few
hurting at the moment. I can only hope that they know
they are cared for here at lit and that in real life they will
be ok.
"When one is troubled
silence is not peace
but words unspoken."
I agree, lit is a great place. To rant, rave, laugh, frolic.
I hear what you are saying Dillinger. There are a few
hurting at the moment. I can only hope that they know
they are cared for here at lit and that in real life they will
be ok.
"When one is troubled
silence is not peace
but words unspoken."
GreenEyedGirl
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Perhaps we are too far from the moon? Or too close?
Perhaps we are feeling the effects of a change in the elctromagnetic pull of our gravity.
Perhaps the ozone layer was more important than we all thought.
Perhaps we need to hear than damn REM song "Everybody Cries" one more time.
Perhaps perhaps perhaps perhaps.................
Perchance we shall find our friends, find our tears, and find some solace between the two.
Take care of yourself and selves.
Perhaps we are feeling the effects of a change in the elctromagnetic pull of our gravity.
Perhaps the ozone layer was more important than we all thought.
Perhaps we need to hear than damn REM song "Everybody Cries" one more time.
Perhaps perhaps perhaps perhaps.................
Perchance we shall find our friends, find our tears, and find some solace between the two.
Take care of yourself and selves.
MissTaken
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I do believe lit is a great place to come for support and comaraderie. We find others here who have had some of the same or similar experiences and survived. Others feeling pain reaching out to comfort the anonymous person on a "Help me" thread is always amazing.
I have used lit as an escape and for support. Many times, no one except for my closest friends realized I was struggling in real life.
Lit has gotten me through some tough times and I hope to offer whatever bits of comfort I can.
I also must add, from experience, that when we are hurting, we need to be careful about how the internet plays into our healing. Are we escaping too far into the cyber world to address the stressors in real time? I worry about some with this issue as well. In moderation and with a healthy perspective the cyberworld and especially lit provide a safe haven and comfort zone. But, when we lose ourselves in the internet, it exacerbates the problems by helping us to avoid what needs our attention most. Please, my friends, be careful.
Hugs for all who are hurting....
I have used lit as an escape and for support. Many times, no one except for my closest friends realized I was struggling in real life.
Lit has gotten me through some tough times and I hope to offer whatever bits of comfort I can.
I also must add, from experience, that when we are hurting, we need to be careful about how the internet plays into our healing. Are we escaping too far into the cyber world to address the stressors in real time? I worry about some with this issue as well. In moderation and with a healthy perspective the cyberworld and especially lit provide a safe haven and comfort zone. But, when we lose ourselves in the internet, it exacerbates the problems by helping us to avoid what needs our attention most. Please, my friends, be careful.
Hugs for all who are hurting....
T.H. Oughts
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Wow, I just logged in after going hammer and nail at the kids cause they have really been pissing me off this afternoon...
My life line to sanity is not here so I can't get my "soul healing" fix..
But after I read this thread I feel much more relaxed....
Thanks everyone..
My life line to sanity is not here so I can't get my "soul healing" fix..
But after I read this thread I feel much more relaxed....
Thanks everyone..
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I'm one of the nuts ie. mental health professional. But even more importantly, I have an empathetic ear and a yearning to do anything I can to help another. Please, please feel free to contact me.
Laurel
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I think we're all victims of our own poor choices. That is, I think much of the world's unhappiness is self-inflicted. Yes, people hurt our feelings. Yes, circumstances beyond our control happen that negatively affect us - layoffs, deaths, etc. But I think the things that make us unhappy on a day-to-day basis are things that we do to ourselves - how we react to what life throws our way. I know this is true of myself. When I look at the admittedly few things that cause me grief or irritation in my life, it's all things that I do to myself. MY insecurity. MY poor decision making.
I've spent a bit of time grousing, but I think what I'm going to start doing now is owning up to my own unhappiness. Fix the things I can fix, and the things I can't (or more accurately, refuse to) fix, I'm going to realise that I myself am choosing to not fix these things rather than shake my fist at the universe. I'm going to start taking responsibility for my own feelings, and realise that the universe I live in is one I create - we all create our own reality.
That's the plan, anyhow. We'll see how it goes.
I've spent a bit of time grousing, but I think what I'm going to start doing now is owning up to my own unhappiness. Fix the things I can fix, and the things I can't (or more accurately, refuse to) fix, I'm going to realise that I myself am choosing to not fix these things rather than shake my fist at the universe. I'm going to start taking responsibility for my own feelings, and realise that the universe I live in is one I create - we all create our own reality.
That's the plan, anyhow. We'll see how it goes.
Svedish_Chef
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Re: Re: What is Wrong With Us?
Drives you nuts, and is keeping me sane.
Fucked up world
lavender said:
Drives you nuts, and is keeping me sane.
Fucked up world
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Dilly Dilly Dilly....
Well, you're gonna laugh , Dilly, BUT I'm one of those fucked up mental health professionals....... Um, yeah. Seriously. And based on my recent posts, you know how I've been doing.....
All I can say is thank GOD for Lit. And Paxil. Special people, whether I realized it at the time or not, are everywhere. You're one of them for me.
Well, you're gonna laugh , Dilly, BUT I'm one of those fucked up mental health professionals....... Um, yeah. Seriously. And based on my recent posts, you know how I've been doing.....
All I can say is thank GOD for Lit. And Paxil. Special people, whether I realized it at the time or not, are everywhere. You're one of them for me.
Dillinger
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Thank you all. I didn't post this thread just for myself - I know too many people here who I care about more than I can say who are hurting. I don't know why... so many of us... all at once... maybe its just the perspective I have at the moment.
Laurel - well said. I know. I agree - its my own choices... choices I've made that I've stuck by, no matter what. But day aftter day, year after year... after a while. Well... its time to do something about it. My own choices put me here, my own choices will change things. And that goes for us all.
Naudiz... thank you - I'm more than... its a hell of a gesture...
Raindancer - likewise... I'm thankful.
storm1969 - hey, none of us are immune. I can't tell you how good it feels to know that my posts mean something to you.
Cheffie... *grin* it is.
T.H. - my lifeline IS here... I'm not saying I'd be lost without Lit... but thank goddess for the friends I've made here.
MissTaken - I'm not escaping... I'm coping. My friends here make that an easier process, but I do know what you mean.
GreenEyedGirl... *hug* Perhaps is a wonderful word... there is a hell of a lot of hope in perhaps.
April - *smile*
debbiexxx - well said... too many things unspoken... but they will be.
lavy.. *HUG* lots of them.
unclej - THANK YOU!
Wiggles - It is... good place, good people.
roxie - I'm glad I found this place too.
KittenEyes - not being along - means a lot. *hug*
Hamletmaschine - you make me smile.
Again - I'm not saying I'm in a great place - I've been better... but I'm ok - it just seems there are so many - who deserve more - deserve better and its just not there for them right now...
Laurel - well said. I know. I agree - its my own choices... choices I've made that I've stuck by, no matter what. But day aftter day, year after year... after a while. Well... its time to do something about it. My own choices put me here, my own choices will change things. And that goes for us all.
Naudiz... thank you - I'm more than... its a hell of a gesture...
Raindancer - likewise... I'm thankful.
storm1969 - hey, none of us are immune. I can't tell you how good it feels to know that my posts mean something to you.
Cheffie... *grin* it is.
T.H. - my lifeline IS here... I'm not saying I'd be lost without Lit... but thank goddess for the friends I've made here.
MissTaken - I'm not escaping... I'm coping. My friends here make that an easier process, but I do know what you mean.
GreenEyedGirl... *hug* Perhaps is a wonderful word... there is a hell of a lot of hope in perhaps.
April - *smile*
debbiexxx - well said... too many things unspoken... but they will be.
lavy.. *HUG* lots of them.
unclej - THANK YOU!
Wiggles - It is... good place, good people.
roxie - I'm glad I found this place too.
KittenEyes - not being along - means a lot. *hug*
Hamletmaschine - you make me smile.
Again - I'm not saying I'm in a great place - I've been better... but I'm ok - it just seems there are so many - who deserve more - deserve better and its just not there for them right now...
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