What Is With Cuckolding?

[Hansdrexler]

As a sub male, I can totally understand some aspects of this kink. It goes hand in hand with the D/s dynamic, the tease/denial and chastity fetish, and the humiliation fetish. Feeling like your own sexual prowess is not enough to satisfy your partner, yet you have a physical crush on your partner, and you DO wish to see her satisfied in a way that you cannot give her- that, to me, is HOT!

From a domme's perspective, it is the right to seek the physical and sexual gratification that her sub cannot give her, and her power (as well as her right) to sleep with anyone she pleases, not being limited to one partner, and enjoying total sexual freedom. While denying that same right to her submissive(s) (or any right of orgasmic release at all) plays into the power exchange dynamic.

However, the whole racial aspect of it that some porn sites and fetishists have, I do not like at ALL, for reasons I need not go into.

And, it is clearly not for everyone.

How would you like a stronger better man dragging you off her whilst you're trying to make love to her then taking your place to fuck her like a real man?

 

[S3xSlav3]

Why do most sub males want to be cuckolded? And why don't most sub women? What's up with that?

I have no interest in this at all. I hate thinking about anyone else with my wife.

 

[PaxNurgle]

@hansdrexler: That scenario isn't quite what I envision; it would have to be her in control and her calling the shots; if some man came up and tried to pull me off of my wife/GF, I would feel obliged to fight back. UNLESS it was clear that she had scripted it and had ordered him to do so.

 

[Kira2489]

There are many facets to BDSM.
Cuckold in modern terms refers to a sexual fetish in which the fetish is stimulated by their committed partner choosing to have sex with someone else.
The need of the man to have another man please his wife (significant other) and her wanting it.*

That is the basis of most cuckold fantasy, the extras can include but are not limited too: a another man with a large penis, acts of humiliation, chastity belt, pleasing the other man ....etc.

What's one persons kink is not the others.......

 

[Hansdrexler]

@hansdrexler: That scenario isn't quite what I envision; it would have to be her in control and her calling the shots; if some man came up and tried to pull me off of my wife/GF, I would feel obliged to fight back. UNLESS it was clear that she had scripted it and had ordered him to do so.

Of course it would be at her instructions and her Bull stud would be interested subjection to her when he dominates you. It would only in following her orders.

 

[policywank]

There is a consistent premise in the discussion of cuckoldry that the woman seeks a "better" man or the husband seeks to see his wife experience that man. Little notice is given to the premise of a woman that needs (and can satisfy) more than one man - her procilivities not a reflection on her husband or lovers but on her true sexual nature.

In that context her husband is not the weak loser but first among men. Not being exclusively the "be all and end all" shouldn't be confused with being weak and last in line. Most "other men" would never measure up to the "main man". It's not that the wife needs a better man so much as another man. In fact, the standard for the other man is lower because he can be tossed aside at any time.

 

[PaxNurgle]

That is actually a good, insightful way of looking at it that a lot of people don't think about. Sure the cuckold/husband can certainly have the typical cuckold fantasy, but if the wife's sexuality desires more than one partner, then both can experience mutual satisfaction in different ways. I personally would love to be monogamous with one woman- a dominant woman- and if she sought other partners and it made her happy/satisfied, then I certainly would be okay with that.

 

[SlutAddicted]

For me the appeal of being Sub is being freed of the obligation to decide and the opportunity to receive clear approval for obedience. It is the opposite of my professional work life. The actions that my Dom requires me to perform are largely incidental to the experience except that the further they deviate from accepted norms, the greater the sense of submission and accomplishment/acceptance I glean from obedience. Accepting the role of cuckold is something I regard as outside the norm and therefore a more intense part of our experience.

I am submissive to her - not the other man unless at her behest and as an element of her overall authority. She is usually neutral or moderately dominant towards him. If she were submissive to him it would undermine my desire to please her and detract from the experience. I know this is sometimes different when she is alone with her lovers but she takes the initiative to isolate that from me so as to maintain her position of authority with me.

Her role involves quite a bit of careful attention to my needs. I believe it is far more difficult to lead than to follow even with the perks that come with power. Her ability to lead me is a source of gratitude and admiration. And casts her in my eyes as the ultimate sexual being that I would never expect to control or keep to myself.

 

[richard_daily]

Why do most sub males want to be cuckolded? And why don't most sub women? What's up with that?

You just haven't met the right sub women yet.

 

[MilkFountain]

Each woman is the center of the universe

Why do most sub males want to be cuckolded? And why don't most sub women? What's up with that?

Simple: while woman know they are the center of the universe, men not so much.

 

[Hansdrexler]

Wife with a lesbian who is a better lover than me

I would love for a woman to seduce my wife and make me her cuckold. I would to role play this and have it happen. I would love my wife to enjoy sex with another woman and for them to let me know just how better my wife's new lover makes love to my wife better than I can. I wish I could find a female lover for my wife. I want to be cuckolded a lesbian who shows my wife just how superior lesbians are to me as lovers.

 

[Queen_Raynor420]

Where you located? I'm surprised your wife isn't reaching out herself!! Silly little boy, don't you know that only women know what other women want!! We Know how to take care of each other!! Hehe, I bet I could make your wife scream my name, while she squirts all over the place!! Hmm, this is gonna be messy.. You just need to make sure that all of your wife's sweet pussy juice either sprays into something, or I'm gonna need you to be ready with your mouth opened, like a good boy!! Well I hope your wife realizes how much more fun she would have with me then with you, an hits me back up!!!