What I have learned at Lit/BDSM

[cellis]

"It's a zen thing..." now there's a knee slapper! I almost peed my pants when I read that.

Thank you Cellis.

*Bows for the applause!*


So glad that I could provide a little levity!

 

[James G 5]

And you felt you needed to report the obvious to us?

I'll alert the media on this one, James.

LMAO

It's just truth in advertising babe
I may be a sadistic, lecherous, womanizing scoundrel but I'm always up front about it

 

[BrightFlower]

It's just truth in advertising babe
I may be a sadistic, lecherous, womanizing scoundrel but I'm always up front about it

Oh, I don't know about that James, all we see is your BACKside right now.....

 

[Never]

Re: This is just for me, okay?

RisiaSkye:
"#6 Never is usually right."

It's nice to know people remember me while I'm away.

 

[wolf2002]

I have learned that Lit really is a ladies forum. We men are merely tolerated to hang around, as long as we behave, and we are supposed to be grateful for it every day...

 

[esclave_PP]

Great thread! Yes there is always stuff like everyone has mentioned already going on at some point or another on the boards -- any bbs board community you go to actually. And while I might be new here, I am not new to bbs' and bbs posting culture.

There are always going to be the passive-agressive posts, agressive posts, mean -- not mean posts, judgemental private -- not private posts. Even the ones where folks say, "I can't take you people anymore I'm leaving pout pout." Those are always fun to read and provide lots of drama.

Probably the key is upfront communication as best as one can and trying to keep an open mind about posters -- all posters unless it is really obvious someone is a hit and run troll. We all know what type of member that is and that isn't worth really getting into.

While lots of folks come and go, often it is the new posters in a clicky type community that are judged immediately and are not believed simply because they are not "friends" yet with everyone or their "facts" aren't verified by whatever system is in place.

I personally haven't lied once here, or made anything up. I love all the different things I've done, and while some might be strange to some, or seem to stretch reality they are 100% above board. Truth is often times a lot stranger than fiction. I am just a really open person and love to share.

Lots of us here come from different backgrounds, experiences, genres, likes, dislikes, but what is important is learning from one another, enjoying one other and having meaningful conversations which I've tried to start in a few threads. And while I may have ruffled a few feathers, I hope that it doesn't mean I'm thrown to the wolves so to speak. I rather enjoy everyone here even the ones who have private messaged me, completely skeptical of what I post. While I don't think it is right to judge a person you don't know, I understand that folks have their own sense of security and reality they like to maintain.

I would love to schmooze or get to know any of you better. I really do love meeting new people, especially those in the same lifestyle as myself.

peace

 

[wolf2002]

I hope that it doesn't mean I'm thrown to the wolves so to speak.

Mmm, did anyone call me?

Sweet, I don;t know how it is on other boards, but I think here it works like this that every newcomer is regarded with a little reserve, since there are a lot of fakers out there. Especially newcomers who make a lot of noise, cause mostly they are the ones that don’t last long...
I wouldn;t worry about it. As a relative newcomer myself I have learned that it takes a while to settle but that the vast majority on this forum is really very gentle and helpful. Perhaps that’s why everyone is so cautious about it...

Peace to you, sister

:rose
Wolf

 

[esclave_PP]

Very true. I am vocal because I have a lot on my mind and I am insatiably curious and want to know what others have on theirs. Master always gets on me about my curiousity but it helps me to learn and discover new things.

I have found that for the most part this community is very welcoming and sure, I totally understand being reserved about new folks. I do know that sometimes when a new person is vocal folks regard that as, "oooo they want atten," or "ooo they are a flash in the pan," or "oooo they can't possibly be for real." Yes sometimes that is true. But I can only speak for myself who is just really happy to have found a community of like-minded folk, where I can let my hair down and enjoy a cup of java and read some good posts at the end of the day, or middle of the day, or whenever Thanks wolf!

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have learned that Lit really is a ladies forum. We men are merely tolerated to hang around, as long as we behave, and we are supposed to be grateful for it every day...

Now, now, are you having a bad day?!! I personally would welcome more male input, and have seen others voice the same, even employ methods of coaxing such as directing questions to the males here, alas it seems many just want to lurk and see what is being said and done.

Catalina

 

[wolf2002]

Thanks wolf!

You;re welcome. I think I like you with your hair down

 

[esclave_PP]

lol well if I can ever post my avatar will be of me. lol

 

[wolf2002]

lol well if I can ever post my avatar will be of me. lol

Only 15 posts away... I’d be glad to help

 

[catalina_francisco]

Very true. I am vocal because I have a lot on my mind and I am insatiably curious and want to know what others have on theirs. Master always gets on me about my curiousity but it helps me to learn and discover new things.

Have to vouch for the value of curiousity and thought. Seems one of my favourite words is 'why', or so Master says?

Catalina

 

[esclave_PP]

Yes! The why lol Master teases and often says, "What no "Why" today? giggles. But perhaps it is just because I enjoy learning so much. Don't really know You know what I love most about curiousity is that there is good and bad to it. Good, because you learn, bad because sometimes there are things you don't want to learn about smiles.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Now, now, are you having a bad day?!! I personally would welcome more male input, and have seen others voice the same, even employ methods of coaxing such as directing questions to the males here, alas it seems many just want to lurk and see what is being said and done.

Catalina

I am still learning who I am and therefore am in the information gathering stage. I would post more, but I have always felt that one should not talk about that which they do not know. Or to put it another way, better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and prove it.

I will comment on that which I feel competent discussing, but as those times seem few and far between on this board, I am afraid I will just be another annoymous lurker.

Good day to all.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am still learning who I am and therefore am in the information gathering stage. I would post more, but I have always felt that one should not talk about that which they do not know. Or to put it another way, better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and prove it.

I will comment on that which I feel competent discussing, but as those times seem few and far between on this board, I am afraid I will just be another annoymous lurker.

Good day to all.

Can understand your feelings on this, but as many will tell you, most of us have found our thoughts and the way we experience things have changed, and for the better, since coming to the board and participating in the discussions. Is a great way to explore your own concepts as well as those of others, and often surprises even yourself when you find you have to do more than think, but articulate what it is you think....often you find what you thought you were thinking is not always as it is in the depths of your being.

Not everyone here is experienced, some are still in the looking phase of the lifestyle, but each have their own unique thoughts and perceoptions to share which are always as valid as the next. Even those more experienced, often will find they change through the evolving experience. I think it is a journey which is a continual learning process, so don't be shy.

Catalina

 

[A Desert Rose]

I am still learning who I am and therefore am in the information gathering stage. I would post more, but I have always felt that one should not talk about that which they do not know. Or to put it another way, better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and prove it.

Wise words.

I will comment on that which I feel competent discussing, but as those times seem few and far between on this board, I am afraid I will just be another annoymous lurker.

Again, more wise words. Only you know what you feel you can contribute. But do keep in mind that the more who contribute here, the more informative and yes, entertaining this place is.

Good day to you, too. ;-)

Good day to all. [/B]

 

[esclave_PP]

Catalina you are very wise I couldn't have said it better -- in fact was working on something similar! I agree, it is so nice to be able to speak your mind openly and even if someone disagrees, there is always something to be learned or talked about that benefits someone!

 

[James G 5]

Oh, I don't know about that James, all we see is your BACKside right now.....

Aren't I enough of a dick without actually showing one?

 

[James G 5]

I personally would welcome more male input

I doubt Francisco would be too happy about that

 

[James G 5]

Now, now, are you having a bad day?!! I personally would welcome more male input, and have seen others voice the same, even employ methods of coaxing such as directing questions to the males here, alas it seems many just want to lurk and see what is being said and done.

Catalina

And as a serious reply, do you think mebbe this comes down to the established fact that women are more verbal & so more likely to yak yak yak devil: ) while men say much less?

 

[catalina_francisco]

I doubt Francisco would be too happy about that

Now you just might be surprised. http://users.pandora.be/eforum/emoticons4u/crazy/349.gif

C

 

[catalina_francisco]

And as a serious reply, do you think mebbe this comes down to the established fact that women are more verbal & so more likely to yak yak yak devil while men say much less?

No, I just think men sometimes have a problem verbalising their thoughts, while others like that air of secrecy lurking gives them.

Catalina

 

[esclave_PP]

There was actually a study just done, where apparently, women's brains are more symmetrical, leading to a greater ability to express feelings. Here is a link to the article I saw:

http://www.she-net.com/modules/news/article.php?storyid=246

 

[James G 5]

Now you just might be surprised. http://users.pandora.be/eforum/emoticons4u/crazy/349.gif

C

LOL

You kill me with those emoticons