What do you fall for in a persoon?

[Hatsjikkiedee]

Hi all,

I've been on this site for a loooong time, first as a lurker, then as a poster. I see some people really find a nice partner on this site..which is of course awesome! It does make me wonder...since you only have the written word at your disposal at the start, what do you guys and girls look for? Do you search for anything specific in the texts of someone, do you just go with the flow? Do you shoo a guy or girl away immediately if you read something you dislike, or do you push through the bullshit some people write in their horny minutes/hours?

Would love to hear from you!

 

[Dragonmeade]

I can only say what I fell for

The first time I looked on the personals I found one polite, articulate posting that made me want to respond. When he messaged me back he was indeed the kind, intelligent, mild mannered and funny person he'd portrayed himself to be. That's what made me fall for him within 24 hours. We've been emailing daily for two and a half years, along with frequent flaming hot chats. We didn't jump right into the sex chat, we got to know and like each other first. I think that's the key, at least for me.

 

[Hatsjikkiedee]

Thank you for the response! It wasn't exactly what he said, but how he made you feel. I love how simple text can bring up an emotion.

 

[bouquiniste]

Not simply kindness, but kindliness - the sort which comes from a Heart made worthy by being able to Love. Unlike the animals whose Hearts are made noble and worthy from the start, people are born with Hearts as dark as the world around them, and they must teach themselves that they're worthy of being Loved by dint of being able to Love. Most of us never do.

Sexually? Everything, plain and simple. A woman who's absolutely honest with her Partner and with herself, and who is both incredibly sexual and wildly romantic - but whose Heart is ruled not by the former, but by the latter. I've known only one such woman in the whole of my Life, but having known her was a Blessing, pure and simple. See the end of Virgil's Tenth Ecologue for the answer: "omnia vincit amor."

 

[Lord Pmann]

The first thing that catches my eyes is wit. However, I often post in only a few threads, so my exposure to a variety of people is limited. The things I notice most are wit, class and the ability to have fun. I’ll search through old posts and if someone ever misses a joke that they should have gotten, then I’ll move my happy ass right along, no matter how big her boobs are.

Secondly, I like classy girls. I’m not saying I don’t want them to be able to laugh at my crude humour or whatever, but there is a dignity with which some girls exude that is just so attractive to me. If you’re constantly crass and classless, I won’t be paying her any mind; I don’t care how huge her tits are.

Third, and this goes with class, but man... desperation is an immediate no no. I like girls who have me do the pursuing. They’re confident. They’re smart. They know their value. Your boobs can be bigger than melons, but desperation is stinky.

And probably the most important thing, next to breast size, is if she can capture my attention with her words. Would I have fun talking with her? Can I see myself three or four weeks down the road enjoying talks with her? Honestly, sometimes you just know. It clicks right away.

All that to say, in summary, big boobs and a pretty face.

 

[Sundayschild]

I'm a sucker for a nice smile. I don't have a type, but if she lights up the room I'm doomed.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

When all you have to go on is the written word, I definitely look for someone who is witty and funny and who is interested in me as a person. I look for someone who is real and sincere. Someone who can keep up with me in a flirty back and forth exchange. I look for a spark and that rare, elusive hot connection...the kind that keeps you refreshing your browser impatiently waiting for their next message. I have been fortunate to find this a time or two, but you gotta kiss a lot of frogs as they say.