What do women want?

[Trionyx]

An interesting article about women and their fantasies. They polled far too few women IMHO, but if the trends hold, there might be some fodder for writers on this site.

Women’s Top Five Fantasies

 

[Chloe_Harper]

An interesting article about women and their fantasies. They polled far too few women IMHO, but if the trends hold, there might be some fodder for writers on this site.

Women’s Top Five Fantasies

Agreed, I would be interested in seeing a new poll done with much higher numbers. I think those "top 5" would look mightily different.

However, it is interesting for writing fodder, so thank you for sharing

 

[StillStunned]

Too few women, and not a representative sample (as the article mentions).

That said, I have a sample size of one woman at my disposal, so it's better than nothing.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Too few women, and not a representative sample (as the article mentions).

That said, I have a sample size of one woman at my disposal, so it's better than nothing.

I mean, I'm sure there's a thread, or someone could create one, on Lit to get better broader numbers and responses. In which case, your sample size is much greater

 

[lovecraft68]

Two and three seem obvious to me. My wife's gripe with most porn is she calls it "hole to hole' where the woman does everything and is lucky to get a boob squeeze from the guy, even in MFM's there are two guys, and the women is usually playing with herself.

Who says porn is unrealistic. Heh...yes, shot at men.

I'd think foreplay and just being slower can fall under the same. Kissing, undressing, etc. There are sites that focus more on that X-Art and PassionHD come to mind.

But no worries on the small sample size because through long experience here any 'what women..." thread is a magnet for a lot of men to show up here to tell women what they fantasize about and why.

Ready the popcorn.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

No worries on the small sample size. Through long experience here any 'what women..." thread is a magnet for a lot of men to show up here to tell women what they fantasize about and why.

Ready the popcorn.

Oh, thank the gods, I've been waiting my entire life for a group of men to tell me what my fantasies are and why.

 

[lovecraft68]

Oh, thank the gods, I've been waiting my entire life for a group of men to tell me what my fantasies are and why.

Funniest thing about your comment is the fact some men will think you're serious. Be prepared My Lady, because you are about to learn all about what you really want from some of Literotica's premiere experts on all things womanly.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Funniest thing about your comment is the fact some men will think you're serious. Be prepared My Lady, because you are about to learn all about what you really want from some of Literotica's premiere experts on all things womanly.

Gosh, I should really think before I type... I forget how many people can't read sarcasm. Well, hopefully it will be entertaining if nothing else

 

[SimonDoom]

Very interesting. It doesn't surprise me much, and it's consistent with other polls and books I've read and conversations with partners I've had in the past. A few questions, which women in this forum maybe can answer:

1. Regarding threesomes: I assume in the case of a hetero woman this means being serviced by two men. Is that correct? I remember a partner of mine once telling me one of her biggest fantasies was being with two or three men at once. It knocked me over because on the surface she was one of the most demure and seemingly proper women I've known.

2. Oral sex between women: Do women fantasize about giving as well as receiving? Which is a bigger turn on? I imagine most men are rather clumsy and not quite on the mark in performing cunninlingus. Is that so?

 

[SimonDoom]

Oh, thank the gods, I've been waiting my entire life for a group of men to tell me what my fantasies are and why.

I don't see it as for your benefit, but for ours. As a man and a male erotica author it's useful to know this stuff. The more information, the better.

 

[TheLobster]

Straight women were the least likely to share their group sex fantasy, the least likely to act on it and have the least positive experience when they do.

This is from the article, and that’s despite the fact that it lists threesomes as the most common fantasy. Given that arrow-straight women are anywhere between 50 to 90 percent of the population, them not sharing the penchant for the alleged “top” fantasy confirms what many here pointed out already.

This sample is fantastically biased, the results are meaningless, and considering it’s HuffPost I wouldn’t be surprised if they are trying to push some weird agenda.

 

[lovecraft68]

This is from the article, and that’s despite the fact that it lists threesomes as the most common fantasy. Given that arrow-straight women are anywhere between 50 to 90 percent of the population, them not sharing the penchant for the alleged “top” fantasy confirms what many here pointed out already.

This sample is fantastically biased, the results are meaningless, and considering it’s HuffPost I wouldn’t be surprised if they are trying to push some weird agenda.

The HP will never pass up a chance to denigrate straight people. Surprised they didn't add 'white'

But the key here is these are fantasies. Lot of men fantasize about a threesome with their wife either another woman for him or man for her, but few act on it, and with good reason. Out of the world of erotica and porn these things have ramifications in real life.

The survey wasn't what you've done, after all. But never let facts get in the way of HP

 

[NotWise]

Women's fantasies seem like a pretty common topic for "study" and conjecture.

Honestly, if you want to know what a woman's fantasies are, you should get her comfortable and ask her.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

HuffP ‘info’ should almost always be judged with a fine set of scales, but these results are actually consistent with quite a few others I’ve read.

 

[Pabiporffor]

Threesomes make sense, most guys are lucky to make it past foreplay without ruining the sheets. Having a spare cock could be handy.

Females receiving oral? Let's be honest most guys only go down on you to get a quick biology lesson and remind themselves where the hole actually is. Millions of hours clocked up watching porn and half of you still need help to find it in the dark.

 

[SimonDoom]

Women's fantasies seem like a pretty common topic for "study" and conjecture.

Honestly, if you want to know what a woman's fantasies are, you should get her comfortable and ask her.

That's just one woman's point of view, though. It's useful if I'm in a relationship with that woman and I want to please her. It's of limited use if my interest is in writing erotic stories that appeal to a broader audience of women.

 

[Nay_Nay01]

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/f8/56/e8/f856e896b5b8e8931906d7660471f046--what-women-want-horror-movies.jpg

 

[Erozetta]

Fuck whatever the article says, we want pockets big enough to hold our phones and keys.

What we want sexually is varied to such a degree there will never be a consensus, but I think the pocket thing is the majority of us.

 

[StillStunned]

Threesomes make sense, most guys are lucky to make it past foreplay without ruining the sheets. Having a spare cock could be handy.

That's why I always have a back-up ready in the freezer.

Fuck whatever the article says, we want pockets big enough to hold our phones and keys.

What we want sexually is varied to such a degree there will never be a consensus, but I think the pocket thing is the majority of us.

No chance of it ever happening. Big Handbag has its fingers deep in the clothing industry.

 

[NotWise]

That's just one woman's point of view, though. It's useful if I'm in a relationship with that woman and I want to please her. It's of limited use if my interest is in writing erotic stories that appeal to a broader audience of women.

Not sure that can really be a very useful strategy. I've tried it before (Her Dream House), but I think it's like trying to write any erotica to reach a broader audience. Readers tastes are enormously varied, and there's hardly anything you can do to please one reader that won't offend another.

Maybe if we had categories that were more tuned to women's fantasies, then the audience would be more predictable. Would that look different from what we have?

 

[gunhilltrain]

Not sure that can really be a very useful strategy. I've tried it before (Her Dream House), but I think it's like trying to write any erotica to reach a broader audience. Readers tastes are enormously varied, and there's hardly anything you can do to please one reader that won't offend another.

Maybe if we had categories that were more tuned to women's fantasies, then the audience would be more predictable. Would that look different from what we have?

I've had stories with female narrators. I just "winged it" (improvised) at how they might see things. Yet such stories seem to have done pretty well in the existing categories. Both of these have women in their forties who get involved with younger men.

https://classic.literotica.com/s/ellie-and-joshs-kinky-adventure

https://classic.literotica.com/s/trucker-mom-1

 

[AG31]

By "porn" do they mean visual things? Videos and such? My understanding is that women, as a group, are not much into that sort of thing anyway. But, hey. Maybe whoever decided that fact was no better pollster than the HP.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Maybe if we had categories that were more tuned to women's fantasies, then the audience would be more predictable. Would that look different from what we have?

Um, I suppose it would depend on the newer categories introduced.

I'm honestly thinking the bigger pockets thing is definitely high up in our fantasies. Love when I have a pair of leggings with pockets that fit my phone with room to spare.

I'm curious, if we introduced one extra category that was aimed for women, what category would do best...

 

[Bramblethorn]

This is from the article, and that’s despite the fact that it lists threesomes as the most common fantasy. Given that arrow-straight women are anywhere between 50 to 90 percent of the population, them not sharing the penchant for the alleged “top” fantasy confirms what many here pointed out already.

I agree with the concerns people have voiced about sample size and representativeness, and it's irritating that Huffpo doesn't provide any link to the Bloom survey results or other information. But here you're criticising the HuffPo article for something it never said, based on a misreading of the words you quoted.

"Straight women were the least likely to share their group fantasy" is implicitly a statement about the subset about straight women who do have such a fantasy, not about all straight women. Taking that quote in isolation, that nuance might easily be missed, but the context in the HuffPo article should've made it pretty clear:

For sex researcher Justin Lehmiller’s 2018 book, “Tell Me What You Want,” he surveyed more than 4,000 Americans about their fantasies and found that group sex — threesomes in particular — were indeed one of the most common turn-ons. But there was some variation in how likely people were to voice this fantasy, how likely they were to act on it and how likely there were to enjoy the experience if they did.

Straight women were the least likely to share their group sex fantasy, the least likely to act on it and have the least positive experience when they do. Women with any degree of same-sex attraction (lesbian, bisexual, queer or pansexual) were more likely to talk about these group sex fantasies, more likely to act on them and more likely to have a positive experience when compared with straight women.

In that context, it's clear that "least likely to share their group sex fantasy" is a statement about willingness to disclose those fantasies, not about "sharing" in the sense of having such a fantasy. The link provided in that passage confirms this.

(Also, even without that distinction between "having" and "disclosing", "straight women are least likely to do X" wouldn't have been the same statement as "straight women don't do X".)

 

[Bramblethorn]

That's why I always have a back-up ready in the freezer.

No chance of it ever happening. Big Handbag has its fingers deep in the clothing industry.

I remember reading an account of a young lady who was hired by a fashion mag and who proposed that they should campaign for more pockets in women's clothing. The editor immediately hauled her aside to ask "do you know how much advertising money we get for handbags?" and that was the end of that :-/