What attracts you to another person

[tn_8tiv]

What attracts you to another person?

If you are a guy, what attracts you to a woman? Her body, her breasts, her ass, her mouth, her eyes, her sense of humor, her intelligence, her mouth (lips)?

If you are a woman, what attracts you to a man? His physique, his butt, his intelligence, his sense of humor, his eyes, mouth, conversation?

As I have gotten older, I find myself attracted more and more to the non-physical attributes of a woman. Intelligence, sense of humor, conversationalist…I find extremely attractive. But, I must admit, initially I am drawn to some physical traits - eyes and smile. It's almost as if I can see a person's soul through their eyes and a smile says so much about that person.

What about the rest of you?

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

What attracts you to another person?

If you are a guy, what attracts you to a woman? Her body, her breasts, her ass, her mouth, her eyes, her sense of humor, her intelligence, her mouth (lips)?

If you are a woman, what attracts you to a man? His physique, his butt, his intelligence, his sense of humor, his eyes, mouth, conversation?

As I have gotten older, I find myself attracted more and more to the non-physical attributes of a woman. Intelligence, sense of humor, conversationalist…I find extremely attractive. But, I must admit, initially I am drawn to some physical traits - eyes and smile. It's almost as if I can see a person's soul through their eyes and a smile says so much about that person.

What about the rest of you?

At first glance...it is a person’s mouth I notice. Their lips, they way they smile, be it shyly or cocky. How they make shape around words they first use to speak to me.

I also go for eyes ... I like it when someone makes contact and isn't afraid of it. To be a little shy is one thing ... but nervous shifty eyes scare me.

After getting to know someone my attraction is sold on the mind ... If I like what they have to say, how they think ... I can form an attraction easily. And then I am draw back to the lips...wondering just how they might feel against my own.


Morgy

 

[VanB]

Eyes
Ass
Self confidence

The when you get to know soeone a whole raft of things about their personality

 

[Summery]

It's definitely the eyes that will first attract me, then the mouth. I am weak for soulful eyes and sexy mouths....kissable lips...Mmmm.
Personality and a nice ass that I can grab is on my list too!
*ah, chemistry and intensity*

 

[Aphrodisiac]

If you are a woman, what attracts you to a man? His physique, his butt, his intelligence, his sense of humor, his eyes, mouth, conversation?


Yes all that and them some... * evil laugh*

O' ...


I meant to say that I am attracted to a man's thick bulging wallet... looks don't do anything for me unless they come with a big fat wallet filled with benjamins ! Its all about the BENJAMINS!


Wha ?!


No, but seriously ... in order for a man to capture my attention he has to be honest , sincere, and have an excellent sense of humor and be intelligent.

 

[Flower Petals]

For me, what attracts me first, is purely physical, I am so shallow to admit. The eyes, the smile, the way one carries themselves... But, to keep my intrest peeked, the brain has be very attractive as well.


I like the way a guy can touch my cheek just the right way, and smile to make things all better. I like the way a woman can hold my head to her chest when I am upset. I like the way soft small lips feel against my nipples, and the way small delicate hands touch. I like the way a guy can make me feel safe, sheltered, and protected, just by lying next to me at night. I love to wake next to the warm smooth body of a lover. That's what keeps me happy.

 

[alltherage]

Eyes, definately eyes. Eyes betray confidence and fear. I like confident eyes but not arrogant eyes. I love softness there and just a hint of uncertainty. I love butts too. There is nothing better than watching a nice butt moving away from you, especially if its naked.

 

[NoRegrets]

I am drawn to people that share a similar sense of humor
and feel comfortable in their own skin. As to the superficial,
everyone has something worthy of appreciation.

 

[bluemuse]

The eyes have it.....

I'm drawn to the eyes as well...

I don't have a "type" that I'm attracted to......for me it's the whole package.

I may be drawn to the boyish charm of one guy......and the "Alpha maleness" of another.

The one thing that is an abdolute must is a sense of humor. If you can make me laugh....I mean REALLY laugh.......I'm a goner.



Bluemuse

 

[Drifter014]

well at first sight i would have to say a womans eyes, and i know it sounds silly, but well kept hair....i think everyone knows what i am talking about. I've seen some women with knotty, ratty hair....just a complete turn off for me.

I also like a lady who isn't afriad to walk up and talk to someone if she is interested.

Once i get to know them, i love a good sense of humour and good personality is a must.

 

[Desdemona]

Its all about personality. A well developed sense of humor, the ability to play as well as be serious, compassion for other people, self confidence, kindness, honesty, intelligence. He also needs to be a Dom.

Fortunately, I just happen to know someone who posesses all these qualities.

 

[SimplySouthern]

what attracts me to a man or a woman

First and foremost there has to be that "something". There's a "spark" something with people and I simply require that from my potential lovers. If you have to work really hard at making a connection, I don't think it's meant to be.

 

[Laurel]

Magnets.

 

[Guest]

Eyes, eyes, eyes....

Next is the smile - as in, the have TO smile - no sourpuss...

 

[Allexus_TN]

The eyes and the smile. Then if he can hold my attention in a conversation. A guy can be stunningly handsome, but if he can't carry on a conversation...its wasted.

 

[nasty]

Good sense of humor, a nice smile, eyes, and, hair. I know what ya mean. Personality is very important.

 

[Nigel]

What attracts you to another person?

If you are a guy, what attracts you to a woman? Her body, her breasts, her ass, her mouth, her eyes, her sense of humor, her intelligence, her mouth (lips)?

Sense of humor, intelligence, and personality are musts. If she laughs easily (but not too easily) and makes me laugh....mmmmm..... Ditzyness...not so much. Not fun. Must be able to have a reasonably intelligent conversation. Personality goes a long way with me - having one is important!!! A certain kindness and gentleness mixed with a bit of outgoing personality...and I'm a goner.

Physically, the eyes. It's all in the eyes. Soulful, sparkling eyes full of life get me every single time. An easy smile works. Lips are important, but mostly when we get to the kissing stage. Soft, relaxed lips are important. Went out with a woman once with very tense lips - not fun.

The bod - not as important, really. If all of the above fall into place.....and the chemistry is there.....a body is a body. Not too skinny, though.......a bit of padding is preferred......

Qualified women please apply! LOL

Nigel

 

[zantac666]

I like eyes and lips they are the sexyist part of a women.

 

[juicylips]

What attracts you to another person?


If you are a woman, what attracts you to a man? His physique, his butt, his intelligence, his sense of humor, his eyes, mouth, conversation?

In r/l it would be his attitude. Someone who isn't physically as attactive, but has a self confidence about them will get noticed over someone who is more physically attractive. I want him to look at me when he talks. Be comfortable with me. Show interest.

Online, all you have are words. Humor, intelligence, charm, and of course blatant sexuality. This will catch my eye in a post, pm or email.

Cassidy

 

[scylis]

short skirts and loooooooooong, looong jackets.

nah-nah nah-nah-nah nah

 

[miles]

juicylucy

Wanna fuck?

 

[Vivacia]

The first physical attraction is normally because of the eyes.. To me they are the "window of the soul" (yes a cliche I know) but thats what I believe, you can tell alot from someones eyes...

After that though it is the personality, without a that there is no hope! I like a man that will talk "to" me rather than "at" me, and isn't afraid to show his true feelings.

 

[Ishmael]

Attraction

When I was young, the fact that she was breathing was generally sufficient. There never was one specific part of the body that attracted me, the closest would have probably been the eyes.

Now that I have matured I require a bit more. Like tn_8tiv, I look for a mind. Humor is a plus, and a sense of responsibility.

Body shape and tone is less important now. Being able to carry on a conversation is a LOT more important. After making love I'm less inclined to pack my shit and leave. Would rather stay and talk, cuddle, etc these days.

Ishmael

 

[tn_8tiv]

Thanks for all the replies. Women responded 2:1 so I guess us guys are all drawn to the sexual side of things.

So eyes seem to be the dominant trait that attracts both men and women initially. Wonder what all the psychiatrists would think about this?

 

[Wave_Rider]

posted by Wave_Rider


For me, its always been about the "CONNECTION". I can feel it intstantly......the way her eyes are telling me a story. Those eyes have to draw me in to her.....is there that extra sparkle to them....is she creative, sensual; do those eyes know 'how to laugh" or do they "lock" on mine.......letting me look inside her soul.

From there, would be her "style". The manner in which her body talks to me. Body Language---running the full gamet from "style and Class" to "TAKE ME NOW"........always captures my attention...