Ok... but don't be a puss. I've had many women friends and it's aggravating to see them let people walk all over them.
Boundaries!! Put em up!!
That's an order!
I love it when you get bossy.
I know it's because you care.
And
You're bossy.
Ok... but don't be a puss. I've had many women friends and it's aggravating to see them let people walk all over them.
Boundaries!! Put em up!!
That's an order!
It took me many years to do so. One of my high school best friends whom I watched slide farther and farther down the alcoholic, going to die if I don't stop, hole. I cut her out of my life and told her that I'd be here if she got herself clean. Haven't talked to her now in over a year. So kind of shocked to see her call. Then her boyfriend call. Didn't answer either call. She still sounds drunk her in voicemail though. So I don't want to talk to her unless I know she is clean.
I know you have to fight the instinct to help.. and it's hard not to feel shitty sometimes for refusing to be someones emotional tampon.. But that behavior will continue til you put a stop to it.. even if it means telling them straight up that's no longer ok. Better they get mad and walk than for you to deal with someone elses crap.
Another thing to ask yourself.. would they listen to all your drama over and over? Or is it always about them?
So put on those big girl balls!!
There is a fine line between helping and enabling. People have got to want to help themselves and if you dont think you can help dont enable
It took me many years to do so. One of my high school best friends whom I watched slide farther and farther down the alcoholic, going to die if I don't stop, hole. I cut her out of my life and told her that I'd be here if she got herself clean. Haven't talked to her now in over a year. So kind of shocked to see her call. Then her boyfriend call. Didn't answer either call. She still sounds drunk her in voicemail though. So I don't want to talk to her unless I know she is clean.
I know you have to fight the instinct to help.. and it's hard not to feel shitty sometimes for refusing to be someones emotional tampon.. But that behavior will continue til you put a stop to it.. even if it means telling them straight up that's no longer ok. Better they get mad and walk than for you to deal with someone elses crap.
Another thing to ask yourself.. would they listen to all your drama over and over? Or is it always about them?
So put on those big girl balls!!
Lol... thanks.
I really should charge more.
Hey, you only get one night a week to be in charge!
It's all I can take! Yall are exhausting!!
