What Are You Thinking? Continued 2

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Ok... but don't be a puss. I've had many women friends and it's aggravating to see them let people walk all over them.


Boundaries!! Put em up!!


That's an order! :D

I love it when you get bossy.

I know it's because you care.

And

You're bossy. :D
 
Ok... but don't be a puss. I've had many women friends and it's aggravating to see them let people walk all over them.


Boundaries!! Put em up!!


That's an order! :D
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It took me many years to do so. One of my high school best friends whom I watched slide farther and farther down the alcoholic, going to die if I don't stop, hole. I cut her out of my life and told her that I'd be here if she got herself clean. Haven't talked to her now in over a year. So kind of shocked to see her call. Then her boyfriend call. Didn't answer either call. She still sounds drunk her in voicemail though. So I don't want to talk to her unless I know she is clean.
 
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It took me many years to do so. One of my high school best friends whom I watched slide farther and farther down the alcoholic, going to die if I don't stop, hole. I cut her out of my life and told her that I'd be here if she got herself clean. Haven't talked to her now in over a year. So kind of shocked to see her call. Then her boyfriend call. Didn't answer either call. She still sounds drunk her in voicemail though. So I don't want to talk to her unless I know she is clean.

I know you have to fight the instinct to help.. and it's hard not to feel shitty sometimes for refusing to be someones emotional tampon.. But that behavior will continue til you put a stop to it.. even if it means telling them straight up that's no longer ok. Better they get mad and walk than for you to deal with someone elses crap.


Another thing to ask yourself.. would they listen to all your drama over and over? Or is it always about them?


So put on those big girl balls!! :)
 
I know you have to fight the instinct to help.. and it's hard not to feel shitty sometimes for refusing to be someones emotional tampon.. But that behavior will continue til you put a stop to it.. even if it means telling them straight up that's no longer ok. Better they get mad and walk than for you to deal with someone elses crap.


Another thing to ask yourself.. would they listen to all your drama over and over? Or is it always about them?


So put on those big girl balls!! :)

Its good to see this guy around more, cuz, he's just cool like that.
 
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It took me many years to do so. One of my high school best friends whom I watched slide farther and farther down the alcoholic, going to die if I don't stop, hole. I cut her out of my life and told her that I'd be here if she got herself clean. Haven't talked to her now in over a year. So kind of shocked to see her call. Then her boyfriend call. Didn't answer either call. She still sounds drunk her in voicemail though. So I don't want to talk to her unless I know she is clean.
There is a fine line between helping and enabling. People have got to want to help themselves and if you dont think you can help dont enable
 
I know you have to fight the instinct to help.. and it's hard not to feel shitty sometimes for refusing to be someones emotional tampon.. But that behavior will continue til you put a stop to it.. even if it means telling them straight up that's no longer ok. Better they get mad and walk than for you to deal with someone elses crap.


Another thing to ask yourself.. would they listen to all your drama over and over? Or is it always about them?


So put on those big girl balls!! :)

There is a fine line between helping and enabling. People have got to want to help themselves and if you dont think you can help dont enable


Which was why I cut her out of my life. I only have that curiosity because I told her I'd be here if she got clean. So now I wonder if she is clean. She has not texted back though. So I'm going to assume that it is a "no"
 
Which was why I cut her out of my life. I only have that curiosity because I told her I'd be here if she got clean. So now I wonder if she is clean. She has not texted back though. So I'm going to assume that it is a "no"

Very good idea and if the friendship means something you will hear from her when she doesnt need you
 
Who is this team wearing my team’s uniforms? Three goals in the 1st 12 minutes with a 4th called back.
 
What an awesome night. A not-often-in a lifetime kind of memory.
 
I wonder if the powers that be banned Political talk from the site if half or 1/3 of the users would leave. Hmmm maybe just their alts?
 
*sigh* Well since I didn't answer the phone, she came over. Turns out she has 3 months to a year to live. Thanks to all this drinking, all her organs are shutting down. She already looks like hell. She could barely walk, she's lost most of her vision. I'm numb. I'm angry. She did this to herself!!! But, I've been crying since she left. My kids have been crying. Ugh.. Time for bed.:(:mad:
 
Agreeing to terms and conditions went from: "this is our stuff, don’t copy and sell it" to "this is your stuff, we’ll copy and sell it”
 
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