SherlockianMan
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I'm thinking it would be fun to hang out with some of my Lit friends IRL. But I'm also thinking it wouldn't so much be hanging out...
What Are You Thinking? Continued 14
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Dirt_in_the_Ground
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I don't know if this would be helpful for you, but sometimes when I'm feeling down about the past, I try to focus my attention on the children around me, as a tangible way of focusing on the future. My own children are grown, but I can still teach things to my nephews and niece, if it's just how to fish, or just running around and getting some exercise with them (which they sorely seem to need these days). Listen to their concerns. Use what you have learned from life and pay it forward. Not a cure for a broken or troubled heart, just a step up the stairs. Obvious shit, but not without meaning.
Paul_Chance
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Yeah, the whole learning and growing sucks. Making the space and sitting with it helps, but that all takes time - and it hurts while we're doing it.
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Thank you...I think that's worthwhile no matter what's happening in life.....and it's good to see you around DirtyI don't know if this would be helpful for you, but sometimes when I'm feeling down about the past, I try to focus my attention on the children around me, as a tangible way of focusing on the future. My own children are grown, but I can still teach things to my nephews and niece, if it's just how to fish, or just running around and getting some exercise with them (which they sorely seem to need these days). Listen to their concerns. Use what you have learned from life and pay it forward. Not a cure for a broken or troubled heart, just a step up the stairs. Obvious shit, but not without meaning.
It's comforting to know I'm not the only one
Paul_Chance
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You're not.Thank you...I think that's worthwhile no matter what's happening in life.....and it's good to see you around Dirty
It's comforting to know I'm not the only one
Everyone struggles with something. LOL - and if you let the universe know you're not struggling, it'll send you the next thing on the list.
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Lol....thank you Paul...for the wisdom and the humourYou're not.
Everyone struggles with something. LOL - and if you let the universe know you're not struggling, it'll send you the next thing on the list.
Dirt_in_the_Ground
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We're all in the same boat. Gotta keep it afloat. (While clinging to each other's asses.)Thank you...I think that's worthwhile no matter what's happening in life.....and it's good to see you around Dirty
It's comforting to know I'm not the only one
NastyNyx
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We're all in the same boat. Gotta keep it afloat. (While clinging to each other's asses.)
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I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. Self care and perspective are what I lean on when I’m in a similar place.
As long as it’s not destructive, I indulge in anything that makes me smile or that I enjoy…favorite foods, chocolate, the wine that tastes better every time I try it, books and music that I can get lost in, movies or shows that make me happy, friends and family that make me laugh, planning something to look forward to, doing kind things for those who need it, and occasionally orgasms with questionable people
Basically anything I’d do or want for a friend that was going through it.I also try to practice gratitude. I don’t mean that in a Pollyanna everything is always sunshine and rainbows way. I just mean giving as much thought and weight to the things that are going well. What I liked and learned from the person. What I appreciate I do have that would make this situation harder otherwise.
And when I still can’t move past it, I write it down. Stream of conscience, letters, lists, etc. They’re only for me. It’s like it helps purge my mind by not having to carry it around in my head. I find it easier to let it go after that even if it takes a few rounds.
Paul_Chance
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I'm thinking I am going to get out and enjoy this sunshine - once it warms up a bit more.
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Thanks for sharing Lady...that's very kind of youI’m sorry you’re having a tough time. Self care and perspective are what I lean on when I’m in a similar place.
As long as it’s not destructive, I indulge in anything that makes me smile or that I enjoy…favorite foods, chocolate, the wine that tastes better every time I try it, books and music that I can get lost in, movies or shows that make me happy, friends and family that make me laugh, planning something to look forward to, doing kind things for those who need it, and occasionally orgasms with questionable people
I also try to practice gratitude. I don’t mean that in a Pollyanna everything is always sunshine and rainbows way. I just mean giving as much thought and weight to the things that are going well. What I liked and learned from the person. What I appreciate I do have that would make this situation harder otherwise.
And when I still can’t move past it, I write it down. Stream of conscience, letters, lists, etc. They’re only for me. It’s like it helps purge my mind by not having to carry it around in my head. I find it easier to let it go after that even if it takes a few rounds.
positiveflirt
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If I get undressed to nap, will this mean I end up not napping at all? 
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I am old school. I believe it takes half as long as the relationship to truly move on. For me...that was 10 years. Sure, I could say I had moved on a million times in those years...and it even felt true...but it wasn't until much much later that the free rent in my head stopped being given. Others can move on in a month....but they aren't me. So what am I saying? I think it is healthy it is taking so long...it shows you love deeply, fully and intensely...and it takes a lot of time to heal. Be strong and believe in yourself
Misshotndeep
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Hypocrisy is funny.
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Hmmm…you sound like the latest Bri account
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Honestly? I've felt this too. I think we all have in some form or another. But a great thing to remember is that SOMEONE out there knows you're the best.This place brings on a strong feeling of inadequacy sometimes and it bugs me that I let it get to me
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You can if I’m bored because I post stuff that I wouldn’t normally do!
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That sushi wasn’t enough for lunch. What to have now? 
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This dinner is much more filling. 
New neighbors.
This is not going to be fun.
New neighbors.
This is not going to be fun.
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whats for dinner?This dinner is much more filling.
New neighbors.
Maybe your neighbors will just stay in there house all the time
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You’re sweetHonestly? I've felt this too. I think we all have in some form or another. But a great thing to remember is that SOMEONE out there knows you're the best.
