What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[LostHorizon]

The knots people twist themselves into here is something I consider a special interest

It’s men and women.

Like @cheekygirl75 said, men assume the “popular” men on the boards, such as redacted and redacted for example, have complete access to any woman he wants based on their like/post ratio. Women assume the “popular” women are being fawned and lusted after by their Lit crush because they left a heart react. Men assume that “popular” women regularly and joyfully swap/share Lit men between each other. Women assume that men see them as disposable.

It all leads to apathy and typically, their solution is to withdraw which only perpetuates the self induced cycle of isolation, comparison, shame/depression, and more isolation.

I am more of a visual learner. This explanation needs a flow chart.

Counter argument to all the losers claiming loserism - we are all losers and that’s why we’re here and not shaking our ass on a yacht

I’ve been on the yacht. There are plenty of losers there too.

I would tack on the idea that "popular" men are simply the one's who aren't taking it all so seriously and, in actuality, aren't trying too hard to fuck anyone. It's amazing how attractive "normal" can seem on Lit. I think its the highest of compliments.

I don’t take any of this seriously and stopped trying a long time ago. I don’t know if that puts me in the “popular” crowd but I appreciate the friendships I have made here.

I don’t really think about popularity. I come here for recipes and stock tips. If I happen to get eboned while I’m here that’s a bonus.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

What am I thinking right now?

To be totally honest… I miss having a person. My person. Someone to split a bottle of red with over a warm home-cooked dinner, curled up on the sofa with candles burning and the scent of freshly washed laundry in the air. I want those deep, passionate kisses that turn into ripping each others clothes off, not bothering to pick them up as we run and chase each other upstairs to fuck like rabbits on the corridor floor outside of the bedroom.

I want all of that until I realise that late nights binge watching Yellowjackets with a Pinot in hand, kitties on the bed and my titties hanging out of my vest top will be ruined. The toilet seat will always be up. Someone’s dirty boxers all over the house. And my peace forever ruined.

Is it really worth it ladies. .

You gotta find a guy like mine

He’s super passionate and intimate, but we will settle in and binge watch a whole season (including Yellowjackets - a major fave) while eating nachos and beverage of choice, in the comfiest clothes possible.

He’s also naturally tidier than I am, so I have to make the effort there.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I don’t take any of this seriously and stopped trying a long time ago. I don’t know if that puts me in the “popular” crowd but I appreciate the friendships I have made here.

I don’t really think about popularity. I come here for recipes and stock tips. If I happen to get eboned while I’m here that’s a bonus.

You have the right idea. I think the idea of Lit popularity is so.... peculiar.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

You have the right idea. I think the idea of Lit popularity is so.... peculiar.

I was uber popular back in the day

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I was uber popular back in the day

Lol what was your popularity metric?

 

[cocokittysurprise]

You have the right idea. I think the idea of Lit popularity is so.... peculiar.

This. The concept of popularity on what amounts to a written-form sex website is hilarious.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

This. The concept of popularity on what amounts to a written-form sex website is hilarious.

Exactly. Popular according to who??
There are so many better words to be described by.

 

[Xerxes82]

I don’t take any of this seriously and stopped trying a long time ago.

It took me a long time to get here, but this is mostly where I fall as well.

I've always felt like I Lit weird. I definitely don't feel like I fit in, but that isn't a Lit thing. I don't feel like belong ANYWHERE. So clearly that's a me issue.

I've got every notification I can turn off in the off position, I have DM's turned off. I'm not here for some dopamine hit of "ooh, I got likes!" Fuck that. I've been down that rabbit hole and guess what I found? The rabbit shits there.

I like having a place where I can vent or speak my mind. I like being able to be silly and stupid when I feel like it. So that's what I'm going to do. Where that falls on the popularity spectrum is the rest of y'all's problem.

 

[bookworm69]

When the dick is hard, the mind is soft.

Also, the blood flow is going where it “needs” to go.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Exactly. Popular according to who??
There are so many better words to be described by.

My life's goal is to be (lovingly) described as a "curmudgeonly old bat" by the people I know.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

My life's goal is to be (lovingly) described as a "curmudgeonly old bat" by the people I know.

That's something I can totally get behind.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I’ve been on the yacht. There are plenty of losers there too.

Ain't this the fucking truth. A veritable smorgasbord of them, really.

 

[EvaLane]

Lol what was your popularity metric?

 

[PotNoodle79]

My life's goal is to be (lovingly) described as a "curmudgeonly old bat" by the people I know.

A worthy goal

 

[F3x0r]

The knots people twist themselves into here is something I consider a special interest

It’s men and women.

Like @cheekygirl75 said, men assume the “popular” men on the boards, such as redacted and redacted for example, have complete access to any woman he wants based on their like/post ratio. Women assume the “popular” women are being fawned and lusted after by their Lit crush because they left a heart react. Men assume that “popular” women regularly and joyfully swap/share Lit men between each other. Women assume that men see them as disposable.

It all leads to apathy and typically, their solution is to withdraw which only perpetuates the self induced cycle of isolation, comparison, shame/depression, and more isolation.

Counter argument to all the losers claiming loserism - we are all losers and that’s why we’re here and not shaking our ass on a yacht

I've also been on Yachts. I've never met a likeable owner..

 

[TunnelKing089]

It took me a long time to get here, but this is mostly where I fall as well.

I've always felt like I Lit weird. I definitely don't feel like I fit in, but that isn't a Lit thing. I don't feel like belong ANYWHERE. So clearly that's a me issue.

I've got every notification I can turn off in the off position, I have DM's turned off. I'm not here for some dopamine hit of "ooh, I got likes!" Fuck that. I've been down that rabbit hole and guess what I found? The rabbit shits there.

I like having a place where I can vent or speak my mind. I like being able to be silly and stupid when I feel like it. So that's what I'm going to do. Where that falls on the popularity spectrum is the rest of y'all's problem.

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[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I've never been on a yacht. Does that make me a loser? Nah, I've been on destroyers and air craft carriers. Now that's cool!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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Ok hold on..... I might be changing my mind.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

Lol what was your popularity metric?

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/grants-tomb.1568191/post-95316946

 

[SimplyMsT]

Nothing like a clean bill of health ...

 

[Noone45]

Men just clean shave
But woman has different styles and each one of them has names

 

[LostHorizon]

You have the right idea. I think the idea of Lit popularity is so.... peculiar.

I spend a considerable amount of time here but not nearly enough to be “popular”. I don’t know how some people do it. We all have different and in many cases deeply personal reasons for coming here. Also popularity has different meanings for different people.

I find the need for popularity among strangers on a sex site peculiar too. But one of the common denominators I have observed is most people, men and women, myself included, need validation. So maybe for many that crosses over into popularity?

There is a certain charge we all get from being the belle of the ball so to speak. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as no one gets hurt. We see the same relationship dynamics in the real world.

Lit is not much different than anywhere else where people come together to meet each other. Bars have the same type of energy. There are regulars who take on the personality of the place, new people trying to fit in and the rest who just stop by for a drink once in a while. What makes this place different is it’s a sex centered site. That’s what draws us all here. So that dynamic is what drives the behavior which is backwards from the real world communities and organizations we engage in.

That’s my observation after coming here for over a decade.

 

[jay49in25]

I spend a considerable amount of time here but not nearly enough to be “popular”. I don’t know how some people do it. We all have different and in many cases deeply personal reasons for coming here. Also popularity has different meanings for different people.

I find the need for popularity among strangers on a sex site peculiar too. But one of the common denominators I have observed is most people, men and women, myself included, is the need for validation. So maybe for many that crosses over into popularity?

There is a certain charge we all get from being the belle of the ball so to speak. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as no one gets hurt. We see the same thing in the real world.

Lit is not much different than anywhere else where people come together to meet each other. Bars have the same type of energy. There are regulars who take on the personality of the place, new people trying to fit in and the rest who just stop by for a drink once in a while. What makes this place different is it’s a sex centered site. That’s what draws us all here. So that dynamic is what drives the behavior which is backwards from the real world communities and organizations we engage in.

That’s my observation after coming here for over a decade.

Well said.
I've been here off and on for more than 20 years. I usually lay back and go for a more one on one experience. I think you've hit on something with the need for validation.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I spend a considerable amount of time here but not nearly enough to be “popular”. I don’t know how some people do it. We all have different and in many cases deeply personal reasons for coming here. Also popularity has different meanings for different people.

I find the need for popularity among strangers on a sex site peculiar too. But one of the common denominators I have observed is most people, men and women, myself included, need validation. So maybe for many that crosses over into popularity?

There is a certain charge we all get from being the belle of the ball so to speak. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as no one gets hurt. We see the same relationship dynamics in the real world.

Lit is not much different than anywhere else where people come together to meet each other. Bars have the same type of energy. There are regulars who take on the personality of the place, new people trying to fit in and the rest who just stop by for a drink once in a while. What makes this place different is it’s a sex centered site. That’s what draws us all here. So that dynamic is what drives the behavior which is backwards from the real world communities and organizations we engage in.

That’s my observation after coming here for over a decade.

I agree with most of this post, but just like popularity, validation also comes in different forms. Some people don't want to be the belle/beau of the ball. Their idea of validation comes from the 1-2 genuine connections they have through private convos. You won't even see them post much on the regular boards.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I spend a considerable amount of time here but not nearly enough to be “popular”. I don’t know how some people do it. We all have different and in many cases deeply personal reasons for coming here. Also popularity has different meanings for different people.

I find the need for popularity among strangers on a sex site peculiar too. But one of the common denominators I have observed is most people, men and women, myself included, need validation. So maybe for many that crosses over into popularity?

There is a certain charge we all get from being the belle of the ball so to speak. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as no one gets hurt. We see the same relationship dynamics in the real world.

Lit is not much different than anywhere else where people come together to meet each other. Bars have the same type of energy. There are regulars who take on the personality of the place, new people trying to fit in and the rest who just stop by for a drink once in a while. What makes this place different is it’s a sex centered site. That’s what draws us all here. So that dynamic is what drives the behavior which is backwards from the real world communities and organizations we engage in.

That’s my observation after coming here for over a decade.

I dont disagree with anything you said. I think you've got the long and short of it. I also thing popularity is confused with visibility.

I think what I find off putting is people trying establish their own "popularity" or be annoyed at their perceived lack of "popularity". I fully acknowledge that what I find important and interesting and compelling about people isnt AT ALL what other people find to be compelling etc. I guess I really like people who are themselves and not copies or trying too hard. Do what makes you happy and if other people like that, then thats pretty fucking cool.