Vanilla situations that push you towards subspace

[subbie_333]

Many people have talked about certain things in a BDSM scene that get them into subspace, or, things that their dominant says. It seems that many times this is in response to a nice memory and/or the anticipation of things to come, as opposed to an action that directly causes subspace. Examples could be certain phrases, the use of a specific blindfold, or, a song on the radio.

But, what are the things that happen in vanilla life that push you towards subspace? Certain smells at a restaurant. An innocent phrase said at work that reminds you of your PYL. A picture of a holiday destination where the two of you had a great time.

Please tell us about times in vanilla life that distracted you, or, even things that you purposely do in vanilla life to tease yourself with subspace.

 

[desertslave]

While I wouldn't say it pushes me too far, anyone snapping their fingers tends to make me jump and tune in. Way old imprinting from my first Sir, but it's something I've never lost.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, thankfully nothing as subspace is not a place he wants or aims to take me, so to be going off into it could attract some unwelcome punishment.

Catalina

 

[ecstaticsub]

Roller Coasters. Especially one in particular that is near my house. And sitting in the back. As I go up that first hill and see the people infront of me start to go down I want to get off but I am strapped in and am can't move. Then as I speed down the first hill I am so scared but so excited, too. Then it happens again and again with each hill.

It is almost orgasmic, yet subspacy too when I go over and over again. I have worn a 4 inch buttplug while riding a couple of times. It almost sent me into another world.

 

[twysted73]

I've implanted one of many planned triggers into the mind of my submissive. If you even rest your hand on the spot, her eyes close, her head drops and she is want to sigh.

Asside from my neck and ears being lightly fucked with, I can't say as I have anything like what you described.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

I was at my mother's one morning with the former sub.. my mother might have an idea, but not really know about this part of my life.. we were having tea and a nice quiet visit... apparently I kind of snapped off an order to him and my mother piped up and said that "some men don't like bossy women".. I replied without thinking (or looking at her).. "some men do.." and I heard him snort in response and when I looked at him he turned bright pink, dropped his eyes downward with a look of shock on his face... can't say it sent him into subspace, but he was certainly reminded of his place in a very vanilla setting. Something he spoke of afterwards with a bit of *I can't believe you just said that*... hehehe..

 

[ataxia.girl]

i'm not really very subspacey but i get pretty dreamy whenever i'm in a toy store. When i catch random men looking me up and down like i am a piece of meat i often go to the objectified space i like a lot.

 

[YourCaptor]

Roller Coasters. Especially one in particular that is near my house. And sitting in the back. As I go up that first hill and see the people infront of me start to go down I want to get off but I am strapped in and am can't move. Then as I speed down the first hill I am so scared but so excited, too. Then it happens again and again with each hill.

It is almost orgasmic, yet subspacy too when I go over and over again. I have worn a 4 inch buttplug while riding a couple of times. It almost sent me into another world.

You and me got to go out some time.

 

[ecstaticsub]

You and me got to go out some time.

Into roller coasters, also?

 

[intothewoods]

Roller Coasters. Especially one in particular that is near my house. And sitting in the back. As I go up that first hill and see the people infront of me start to go down I want to get off but I am strapped in and am can't move. Then as I speed down the first hill I am so scared but so excited, too. Then it happens again and again with each hill.

It is almost orgasmic, yet subspacy too when I go over and over again. I have worn a 4 inch buttplug while riding a couple of times. It almost sent me into another world.

Really? What a trip!

I've implanted one of many planned triggers into the mind of my submissive. If you even rest your hand on the spot, her eyes close, her head drops and she is want to sigh.

Asside from my neck and ears being lightly fucked with, I can't say as I have anything like what you described.

Implanted?


I still never get the magical talk over subspace. It's just a rush of endorphins in reaction to pain/fear. I get there with a pure impact scene with a play partner, but not with Mister Man. We usually get distracted before that point.

 

[Netzach]

When I get my hair cut or when I get my makeup done at the counter, I zone out and I get pretty mooshy and docile. There's something about the little brushes on my face.

I'm beginning to think the whole "subspace" thing as a "sub" thing is a crock. It's relaxation, trance, mild trance and anyone and everyone *can* get there. I've never met a Dom so uptight that they didn't drop their head being massaged. It doesn't mean you're now willing to obey all instructions.

In fact, it *is* a treat, and I can totally see why someone like Francisco finds a slave pretty useless when they're zoned out and semi-vocal. I use it, personally, with H, but usually because he then feels like I am awesome power woman and it reminds him that I am Awesome Power Woman in general - it's again, a treat, it's not particularly important in the sense of him doing anything for me.

 

[midwestyankee]

I'm beginning to think the whole "subspace" thing as a "sub" thing is a crock. It's relaxation, trance, mild trance and anyone and everyone *can* get there. I've never met a Dom so uptight that they didn't drop their head being massaged. It doesn't mean you're now willing to obey all instructions.

Exactly. I put myself into this kind of place regularly with meditation. Certainly that doesn't mean that I'm topping myself.

 

[YourCaptor]

Into roller coasters, also?

Oh yea!!

Got magic mountain over here.

Question, does the coaster in question happen to be one of those old wooden rickety ones?

 

[ecstaticsub]

Oh yea!!

Got magic mountain over here.

Question, does the coaster in question happen to be one of those old wooden rickety ones?

No, it's a newer one. One with no bottom. It's even better in the dark.

 

[YourCaptor]

No, it's a newer one. One with no bottom. It's even better in the dark.

Too bad, that would have made that butt plug a lot more interesting.

A floorless one?

And I wonder how long you stood in line with that plug.