update

[It'sasecret]

I thought some of you might like to know how things are going with my husband. Well......... They improved for a while, but seem to be returning to where they were. We have had opposite work hours and barely see each other, so I am hoping that is why. I don't know what I will do if they go back to the way they were. Any advice???????

 

[His Whimsicality]

Take a lover.

 

[MissTaken]

I don't know you, but

am thinking of you.

I have been there as well. Working opposites shifts combined with other issues in the relationship, can certainly make it difficult to be able to focus on one another.

Based on my own experience, I can only suggest that you do your best to make time for each other.

 

[Lizard_king309]

Try to set up days ahead of time where you can meet for lunch or take a day together. You both can work around anything if you love eachother. If it doesn't seem like he cares talk to him about it and tell him your concerns.

 

[It'sasecret]

I don't know if those of you who have replyed have read my old posts. This has been as ongoing problem. We have talked about it at length. It got better for a little while, but is now going back to where we were. LIke I said opposite work hours have not helped. I am hoping that is the only reason we are slipping back into old problems. Our hours will be better after next week. I don't plan on taking action until after then .

BTW-- to understand the whole problem my old posts were "Help me please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" there is also some of the story in sexxladlys post I believe called "oral help here"

Thanks to all who have replied.
IAS

 

[It'sasecret]

FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sex is getting much better!!!!!!!!!! The other day after we fucked he said it was one of the most erotic times in his life!!!!!!!!!! He NEVER talks like that. It was soooooo awesome to hear him get so worked up. Then the next day he tied me UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was incredible! I can't believe he is actually doing these things. I am so happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[~justin]

Great! You can't go wrong with communication I'm glad to hear things are working out at last!

 

[MissTaken]

Great News!!!!

I am very happy to hear that!

Now do you think he could drop a line to my b/f and suggest the same?

*wink*

 

[JUDO]

You?

IAS -

You know, we've talked before about this stuff with you and your husband.

And in just reading this new thread, I wonder what is really going on.

Each time you begin a new thread, I really feel for you. You come across with a notion about your husband not wanting to do things and it really begins to tear my heart out. And sometimes (in the older threads) this can go on for some time.

Then...out of the blue, your husband is a sex machine and you are ecstatic about him.

I really get two voices from you. One that is totally depressed, ready to give up and then, one that is excited and ready to fuck forever.

Are you really this up and down with the relationship? Or, is it simply the way you come across in email?

- Judo

PS - I'm happy that things are going well for you at the moment, but I have to wonder...

 

[It'sasecret]

I can see what you are saying. Things were down for a long time. He has been like this since the start of our relationship seven years ago. A while back when I 1st started posting things did get better between us. But......... then they returned to what they were before. I then talked to him again. I think this time it sunk in. I know it does not seem that way from my last post. I guess I kinda panic if it slows down the least little bit. Like I had said in my post I was hoping it was because of our work schedule. As you can tell by the last few days, I think that is the case. We really are not as up and down as we sound. Thank you so much for caring though.

 

[JUDO]

Boffo!

IAS -

Good! Glad to hear it. Do what you can to keep it on an even keel. Take the down with the up. Maybe if you keep a chart on the bedroom wall... ~~snicker, snicker~~

Anyway, sounds like "things" (his thing, your thing) are getting better over time.

I think someone else mentioned a great idea: Buy season tickets to...something, anything. Schedule dates, put those vacations and times together on the horizon so that when the "right here and now" gets you down, you have something to look forward to and plan.

Nothing like a sail on the horizon to brighten a sailor's day.


- Judo

 

[It'sasecret]

Yes, I am really hoping things stay this way. I keep telling him how great he has been making me feel and I be sure to tell WHAT is great about it. I hope that makes him stay this way, plus he really seems to be into to it to. Anyone have any other ideas on how to insure it will stay this way?