Uncircumcised Men

[thisfadedangel]

I think I've finally found a useful function for these message boards, and I'm fairly certain that you will all come through for me.
I'm rather sexually inexperienced, I've dated a few men, and although I've technically kept my virginity intact, I have become rather efficent at other ways of pleasuring them. However, I've recently started dating a guy who isn't circumcised, and, well, i have no idea what to do in this situation. Everyone I've ever been with has been cut, and that's what I'm used to. I'm not adverse to him being uncircumcised, but I could use a few pointers from people who have dated/are uncircumcised themselves.
Any advice/tips/whatever would be greatly appreciated!

 

[human_male]

You don't have to do anything different, you just have to be aware that the head will be somewhat more sensitive, so it might hurt if you're not careful. Just take it easy with him at first until you see what level of stimulation he's comfortable with. For instance, lips and tongue action is fine but don't rub the head with your hand like you might a cut one. If blowing... keep it wet and mind the teeth. A good thing you can do is slip your tongue under the foreskin and circle it around and around the head.

See how you go and report back.

 

[kiwichyck]

Well I don't think I've ever seen a circumcised man. But then I found my DH early in life.
I'm not sure exactly what you are asking here? I don't know that there is a huge difference between your partner having a foreskin or not. I mean it's just an extra piece of skin - I've certainly never had it get in the way or anything. If it doesn't move away from the head naturally, then its just a matter of pulling it back with a downward stroke.

 

[Norajane]

It's been my experience that uncircumcized men take longer to come from blowjobs and you definitely need some extra hand action during blowjobs.

Your mileage may vary.

 

[Snowman5933]

DW says her previous SO was uncut and it created no problems what so ever. She agrees that it is just an extra piece of skin and has no real dis-advantage.

 

[temp256]

Of course it has no disadvantage. The uncut ones are the lucky ones who still have maximum sensitivity. How would you like it if your clitoral hood was cut off at birth?

I do so hate sadistic western customs...

 

[3113]

Pull down the "sweater" that's bunched up around the penis, and then do pretty much what you've been doing to the circumsized fellows. You just need to hold that "sweater" back to get at that tip, etc. Do not use teeth and pay special attention to the seam under the tip (obviously, that's just my experience--your guy may want something different and, as always, you should ask him his preferences). Soon as the penis gets excited, it'll come out on its own for more, rather like a turtle.

It's very cute.

As suggested, swabbing under the sweater is a nice thing to do, but you might want to make sure your man has already given his penis a nice bath prior to this, including under said foreskin. It's because stuff can build up under that nice, wet, warm area that western custom of removing the foreskin became so popular. The belief was that it was healthier for said penis--and this belief made it into something of a custom in the West, unlike in other places where it's more of a religious practice.

This is currently arguable. Certainly, there's a little less chance of getting sexually transmitted diseases (or so say the latest studies), but really, if a guy takes good care to wash and protect himself as guys should, there's no reason for removing that bit of sensitive foreskin.

 

[silverwhisper]

i've never seen a study in which the STD transmission rates b/n cut & uncut men vary meaningfully. 3113, do you have a link?

ed

 

[Nero-1]

the only downside with not being cut is that I have to be a little more detailed when washing up.
Having the extra skin is an advantage...I am quite sensitive...I feel everything going on down there and lube is not needed when taking things into my own hands. As far as you pleasuring your man...when giving him oral just gently pull the skin down and go to town as usual.
I have heard about the STD issues but that has to do with proper hygene and of course who you nailing.

Feel free to ask more questions.

 

[3113]

i've never seen a study in which the STD transmission rates b/n cut & uncut men vary meaningfully. 3113, do you have a link?

L.A. Times (Nov. 28, 2005)

As new HIV cases remain at a stubborn 40,000 a year and infections continue to disproportionately affect minorities (especially minority women) and the poor, some prevention experts again have begun urging doctors to recommend circumcision for newborns. A small number are even advising uncircumcised adult men at high-risk for HIV to undergo the procedure.

"Other than condoms and antiretroviral drugs that block transmission during childbirth, circumcision is the next best tool we have to [slow] infections," said Dr. Thomas Coates, a professor of infectious diseases at UCLA's David Geffen School of Medicine and a well-known HIV prevention expert.

Some researchers say they know why circumcision may help protect men from contracting some STDs. A 2002 study done at the University of Illinois at Chicago found a male's foreskin is packed with cells that are highly susceptible to the HIV virus. They say the foreskin also traps fluids, allowing HIV and other pathogens more time to infect.

I don't know if there's more to the article but ya gotta pay to get it:
Delicate Choice

 

[Norajane]

L.A. Times (Nov. 28, 2005)

As new HIV cases remain at a stubborn 40,000 a year and infections continue to disproportionately affect minorities (especially minority women) and the poor, some prevention experts again have begun urging doctors to recommend circumcision for newborns. A small number are even advising uncircumcised adult men at high-risk for HIV to undergo the procedure.

"Other than condoms and antiretroviral drugs that block transmission during childbirth, circumcision is the next best tool we have to [slow] infections," said Dr. Thomas Coates, a professor of infectious diseases at UCLA's David Geffen School of Medicine and a well-known HIV prevention expert.

Some researchers say they know why circumcision may help protect men from contracting some STDs. A 2002 study done at the University of Illinois at Chicago found a male's foreskin is packed with cells that are highly susceptible to the HIV virus. They say the foreskin also traps fluids, allowing HIV and other pathogens more time to infect.

I don't know if there's more to the article but ya gotta pay to get it:
Delicate Choice

If you're using condoms, I don't see why the risk of HIV or STD infection would be any different if you are cut or uncut. If you are not using condoms, then it would make sense, based on the study's findings, that rates of HIV infections would be higher in uncircumcised men.

I don't really see this as a valid arguement for circumcising newborns, however.

 

[Norajane]

Apparently, circumcision hasn't done much to prevent HIV in the United States, where most men are circumcised. Google is your friend:

Brian O’Donnell, PA-C, MHS, of New Haven, Connecticut, said that research money would be better spent on ways to increase condom use, which is a proven way to prevent HIV. “Whether or not a man is circumcised, he has to wear a condom during sex to prevent the transmission of HIV from an infected partner. The most common reason men give for not wearing a condom is that it reduces sensation and pleasure. Removing the foreskin only reduces the sensation further.”

O’Donnell said he is planning to enter into a research project designed to look at how circumcision has affected condom use in the U.S. and may be contributing to the high rate of sexually transmitted infections and HIV. “This may be what’s happening in the U.S., where 70% of 18-24 year olds are circumcised and the rates of HIV are 5 times that of Europe, where less than 1% of the men are circumcised. It also could explain why the rates of STD's and unintended pregnancies in the USA are up to 74 times higher than in Europe.”

O’Donnell added that he sees less condom use among his male patients who are circumcised, and that their rate of STD diagnosis is higher than in intact men. He also warned that a false sense of security is already starting to take hold in Africa, where some people now mistakenly believe they can’t contract HIV if they are circumcised.

Obviously, there are lots of different viewpoints on this issue. Bottom line, wear your rubbers!

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[Different Guy]

I'm an Uncut guy and I'm way sensitive down there, in a good way. When me and my girl are playing around, the first time she slides my foreskin down past my head it's an amazing feeling and always is. If you're giving oral, just pull the foreskin back till it reveals the whole head like an uncut dick and you're away. Also, working your hand to move the foreskin back and forth up and down the shaft works for me...

 

[sensualwords]

It may be an over simplification... but just be gentle with him... play with how the skin moves along the shaft, and watch for his reactions. Start with less pressure, and increase it as you see fit... he'll be sure to let you know if anything is really good, and really bad.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Ask what he likes. Watch him play with himself. Ask for tips. Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions and explain the situation to him if needed.

 

[RarwUSH]

I think people make way too much noise over that small flap on skin.

 

[Arafura]

It's not so different....just be careful on the downstroke of the hand job. If you're not in the right position it's easier to tug the skin in an uncomfortable way. Also, just talk to your guy, figure out what he likes by asking him when you're going down on him, trying techniques. Different strokes for different folks...regardless of cut or uncut, in my experience.

 

[eudaemonia]

I think people make way too much noise over that small flap on skin.

Just curious, are you a guy and a gal?

Speaking as a woman, the desire to understand what pleases a man is the impetus for asking such questions, not to make noise.

I look at this way: It would seem ludicrous of me to post to a thread, started by a man regarding how to approach the clitoris with the comment, "People make way too much noise over that small flap of skin."

 

[cat_and_bear]

I think most people have covered the basics my top 3:

Pull the skin down and treat it like any other one.
Be gentle until you know what your doing.
Don’t twist the skin around the penis (ouch!)

I would say one of the positives of having one is the novelty of it. Stretching it over a full bar of soap is a trick that will get you a giggle from your girl friend in the shower.

~Bear