Ugh!

[seattlenice]

This will likely sound shallow to some and make sense to others. I am married and love my wife for the loving person she is. She has taught me how to love and a great many other things.

The problem for me is that I am not physically attracted to her in any way. She is a beautiful woman (facially) but beyond that, there is nothing. She is thin, no muscle definition, no ass, all-right tits, and nothing else for me.

I like a thick girl, big tits, big ass, thick legs, rounder features.

I know it sounds shallow but it is getting harder and harder to be true to someone that does not and has never turned me on in the most primitive/primal way.

She is easily my best friend but I do not crave her in that way. WTF have others done? Suggestions? Am I just an ass?

 

[Garnate]

Never marry your best friend, no matter what people say about it.


Has to be a physical aspect there. A big one.

Although, I'm an actual ass so maybe don't listen to me.

 

[spacekowboy]

Buy her some cheesburgers and be happy that you have someone that doesn't care about your morning breath or beer belly.

 

[eyer]

This will likely sound shallow to some and make sense to others. I am married and love my wife for the loving person she is. She has taught me how to love and a great many other things.

The problem for me is that I am not physically attracted to her in any way. She is a beautiful woman (facially) but beyond that, there is nothing. She is thin, no muscle definition, no ass, all-right tits, and nothing else for me.

I like a thick girl, big tits, big ass, thick legs, rounder features.

I know it sounds shallow but it is getting harder and harder to be true to someone that does not and has never turned me on in the most primitive/primal way.

She is easily my best friend but I do not crave her in that way. WTF have others done? Suggestions? Am I just an ass?

Don't go down on yourself so hard there, brother.

I don't think "it sounds shallow" or that you're "an ass" at all...

...you're just gay.

Flow with it, homey...

...Bubba is in your future and once he's in (), you won't even remember this post you've written questioning your sexuality.

 

[Garnate]

Don't go down on yourself so hard there, brother.

I don't think "it sounds shallow" or that you're "an ass" at all...

...you're just gay.

Flow with it, homey...

...Bubba is in your future and once he's in (), you won't even remember this post you've written questioning your sexuality.

The ones perpetually stuck in the closet are attracted to the stick thin gals with no ass or boobs. Short hair a plus.

 

[seattlenice]

Thanks

Garnate - thank you for the response.

I agree. I don't think your best friend is the top choice. On top of that, she I and I don't really click in "that " way. I have tried and tried but there are things I am into that never cross her mind. Not really her thing. That is fine with me but there I am, out here with this fetish that I can do nothing about.

I don't want to stray but I have needs that aren't being met.
What should I do???

 

[Garnate]

Garnate - thank you for the response.

I agree. I don't think your best friend is the top choice. On top of that, she I and I don't really click in "that " way. I have tried and tried but there are things I am into that never cross her mind. Not really her thing. That is fine with me but there I am, out here with this fetish that I can do nothing about.

I don't want to stray but I have needs that aren't being met.
What should I do???

Doesn't really sound like something couple's therapy is going to fix.

I'd start the paperwork and get it over with. Life is literally too short.

 

[eyer]

This will likely sound shallow to some and make sense to others. I am married and love my wife for the loving person she is. She has taught me how to love and a great many other things.

The problem for me is that I am not physically attracted to her in any way. She is a beautiful woman (facially) but beyond that, there is nothing. She is thin, no muscle definition, no ass, all-right tits, and nothing else for me.

I like a thick girl, big tits, big ass, thick legs, rounder features.

I know it sounds shallow but it is getting harder and harder to be true to someone that does not and has never turned me on in the most primitive/primal way.

She is easily my best friend but I do not crave her in that way. WTF have others done? Suggestions? Am I just an ass?

You know, dude...

...I've reread my initial response to you and again have read your OP, and I believe I may have made a misjudgement about you being gay. I sincerely apologize.

Have you ever slapped her upside the head to see if it turns you on. I mean, you know, "erotically"?

Maybe her physical repulsiveness in your eyes will evaporate instantly the moment you smack her. Hey: it's worth a try to get you off, friend, seeing it's all about you...

...you worthless piece of putrid shit.

What the fuck you coming on to a fucking internet porn site for and whining to total strangers about how physically unattractive the mother of your children is in your sightless eyes, dogsquat? Huh?

Get the fuck otta here and go make friends at fuckwad.com

 

[seattlenice]

You know, dude...

What the fuck you coming on to a fucking internet porn site for and whining to total strangers about how physically unattractive the mother of your children is in your sightless eyes, dogsquat? Huh?

Get the fuck otta here and go make friends at fuckwad.com

Thank you for the flame bait and mostly useless response. This is not a porn site, it is a place where people can share ideas, fetishes, etc without the judgement of others. On top of that sexuality, fetishes, and relationships go hand-in-hand. So yes...an issue with a relationship fits in here just as well as someone talking about how they like to wear socks while being fucked (no offense to the girl with that fetish).

You cannot dissociate sex, fetishes, and porn from your relationships. If you try, you will be painfully single until you figure this out.

 

[eyer]

Thank you for the flame bait and mostly useless response. This is not a porn site, it is a place where people can share ideas, fetishes, etc without the judgement of others. On top of that sexuality, fetishes, and relationships go hand-in-hand. So yes...an issue with a relationship fits in here just as well as someone talking about how they like to wear socks while being fucked (no offense to the girl with that fetish).

You cannot dissociate sex, fetishes, and porn from your relationships. If you try, you will be painfully single until you figure this out.

Blow that chronically lame shit out your ass...

...you came to the GB complaining about how physically unappealing your wife is in your eyes, to complete strangers no less, and then you have the full gutlessness to even suggest you can't help it if her physical unattractiveness is what causes you to eventually stray.

If you are unfortunate enough to live where gun ownership isn't legal, you need to immediately go out and steal one...

...'cause the faster you blow your brains out, the sooner your wife can get on with life sans the miserable piece of shit her husband is.

 

[Sinny]

This will likely sound shallow to some and make sense to others. I am married and love my wife for the loving person she is. She has taught me how to love and a great many other things.

The problem for me is that I am not physically attracted to her in any way. She is a beautiful woman (facially) but beyond that, there is nothing. She is thin, no muscle definition, no ass, all-right tits, and nothing else for me.

I like a thick girl, big tits, big ass, thick legs, rounder features.

I know it sounds shallow but it is getting harder and harder to be true to someone that does not and has never turned me on in the most primitive/primal way.

She is easily my best friend but I do not crave her in that way. WTF have others done? Suggestions? Am I just an ass?

Yes. You are being an ass.

 

[neci]

garnate is an ass bot.

 

[Learnsmith]

Thank you for the flame bait and mostly useless response. This is not a porn site, it is a place where people can share ideas, fetishes, etc without the judgement of others. On top of that sexuality, fetishes, and relationships go hand-in-hand. So yes...an issue with a relationship fits in here just as well as someone talking about how they like to wear socks while being fucked (no offense to the girl with that fetish).

You cannot dissociate sex, fetishes, and porn from your relationships. If you try, you will be painfully single until you figure this out.

That guy is just a troll. Fuck him. Not to be taken seriously. That said, I think an attraction lull is certainly a concern - if not for the soundness of your marriage, then at least for the feelings which, right or wrong, need to be examined. Attraction is definitely important to a marriage, but it sounds like some of these concerns are internal. Figure out when they started and work out from there. Get a counselor if you need to. Don't rush into anything. Be ready to cast a hard eye inward. Good luck.

 

[Garnate]

garnate is an ass bot.

This does not compute.

Jk, it totally computes. I be an ass.

 

[Mell0wM0nk]

...you came to the GB complaining about how physically unappealing your wife is in your eyes, to complete strangers no less

So you suggest he should complain about his wife to people they both know ? Now that's pathetic.

OP, I have been in the exact same situation with an ex-gf of mine so I kinda get where you are coming from. Nothing shallow about it. Also, i think there is nothign better than your best friends being your Significant other, as long as :

a) you are both sexually attracted to each other
b) Confident & secure enough to have an open relationship with others

 

[eyer]

That guy is just a troll. Fuck him. Not to be taken seriously. That said, I think an attraction lull is certainly a concern - if not for the soundness of your marriage, then at least for the feelings which, right or wrong, need to be examined. Attraction is definitely important to a marriage, but it sounds like some of these concerns are internal. Figure out when they started and work out from there. Get a counselor if you need to. Don't rush into anything. Be ready to cast a hard eye inward. Good luck.

Listen to this ^^^ bozo, lame ass...

...it'll save you the buck you usually blow everyday to consult the newspaper's horoscope page.

 

[paynomind]

This will likely sound shallow to some and make sense to others. I am married and love my wife for the loving person she is. She has taught me how to love and a great many other things.

The problem for me is that I am not physically attracted to her in any way. She is a beautiful woman (facially) but beyond that, there is nothing. She is thin, no muscle definition, no ass, all-right tits, and nothing else for me.

I like a thick girl, big tits, big ass, thick legs, rounder features.

I know it sounds shallow but it is getting harder and harder to be true to someone that does not and has never turned me on in the most primitive/primal way.

She is easily my best friend but I do not crave her in that way. WTF have others done? Suggestions? Am I just an ass?

I wouldn't say you're an ass, but it seems strange *fishy* that you would marry someone that isn't sexually compatible with you... Unless your tastes changed over time. Or you saved your virginity until after marriage, in which case you mightn't have known your preferences I guess... Doubtful though.
What's the millionare matchmaker say.... something like "the penis does the picking." You shouldn't have made a "lifetime" commitment to someone you aren't attracted to. Get a divorce instead of dragging things out or deal with it. Hurting her by 'not staying true' *cheater/player/douchebaggerino* is another possibility, but an obviously poor choice.

Figure it out for yourself, I highly doubt you'll find what you need or want to hear on the web.

Either way you'll probably feel regret. You'll either ditch her and find someone that fits your fetish, and long for the connection you had with your wife, or you'll stay with her and long for the body you'd like to fuck.
Good luck

 

[Learnsmith]

This does not compute.

Jk, it totally computes. I be an ass.

An ass bot. Like one of those sex models? G, do your tits have settings?

 

[1sickbastard]

Thank you for the flame bait and mostly useless response.

That's pretty much all eeyore has. Worse, he's not even all that good at it.

This is not a porn site, it is a place where people can share ideas, fetishes, etc without the judgement of others.

Yes, actually, it is a porn site. So the porn is written & not (generally) pictorial, big deal. It's still porn. Not that Literotica isn't also a free speech site for people to use, but porn is the selling point.

You cannot dissociate sex, fetishes, and porn from your relationships. If you try, you will be painfully single until you figure this out.

Wow, that was a brutal assessment. Not that I'm sayin' you're wrong, I just think it's funny you nailed it so well.

 

[eyer]

So you suggest he should complain about his wife to people they both know?

Why is it bozos like you two can't take your shallow complaints to the source and deal with them like a mature person should, instead of automatically going out to the clothesline and airing your dirty laundry in hopes that a gaggle of gossipers will find empathy with your sorry asses?

The OP is a flat-out liar: he states he loves her, but a man cannot love a woman and be repulsed by her, too.

Fuck off, enabler. And die.

 

[dolf]

deep down, you want our approval and understanding on cheating. you do want to cheat, are struggling with your conscience, and want others to tell you it's ok.

it's not.

divorce her. you both deserve a relationship where you feel attracted and attractive. in the long term, your lack of lust for her has impact on her self esteem.

she'll hate you for doing it but it's better in the long run.

ps. you're a moron for marrying her.

 

[Mell0wM0nk]

Why is it bozos like you two can't take your shallow complaints to the source and deal with them like a mature person should, instead of automatically going out to the clothesline and airing your dirty laundry in hopes that a gaggle of gossipers will find empathy with your sorry asses?

The OP is a flat-out liar: he states he loves her, but a man cannot love a woman and be repulsed by her, too.

Fuck off, enabler. And die.

You must be very lonely.

 

[Not Normal]

ps. you're a moron for marrying her.

this.

 

[Garnate]

An ass bot. Like one of those sex models? G, do your tits have settings?

They don't have settings per say, but they are the controls for the rest of my body.

 

[eyer]

You must be very lonely.

Alas, it is the burden I must bear for not caring to squat in the Personals as you do, playgrounder.