Turn off for guys

[knightstalker]

I was just at a thread reading what turns off women when it comes to men so here is the opposite..What turns off you men out here..For me it is easy enough..
1-being stuck up

2-Bad breath--But can understand it in the morning

3Ok this may go against being a man but i dont like slutty women either..To me it is one thing to be sexual and another to be a slut

4Cheaters..nuff said

5drug users..drinking and weed is ok though..I know weed is a drug but to me it isnt the same as the hard stuff

Well that is it for now

 

[1sexylady]

I was just at a thread reading what turns off women when it comes to men so here is the opposite..What turns off you men out here..For me it is easy enough..
1-being stuck up

2-Bad breath--But can understand it in the morning

3Ok this may go against being a man but i dont like slutty women either..To me it is one thing to be sexual and another to be a slut

4Cheaters..nuff said

5drug users..drinking and weed is ok though..I know weed is a drug but to me it isnt the same as the hard stuff

Well that is it for now

I will be peeking in on this one....this should be interesting...

 

[asdfgh]

hmmmmmmm.................

6.) how about brains, or lack of them

7.) or I had one girl say "I want you to pleasure me" as she just laid on her back. I would have had more fun in a morgue.

8.) smell down there.....that has got to be the worst.

9.) HAIR.........I am no bushman, and I do not want to have to blaze a trail to find what I want.

Anyone else????

 

[QuickDuck]

10) I know that this is totally a personal thing and i do not mean to offend ANYONE, but smokers in general.

mind you, if you smoke after sex, then you should have used a lubricant

 

[paphian]

Turn-offs

Online:

1. Dishonesty - Don't say you're interested in a one-nighter if you want an LTR. Or vice versa. Don't say you're single if you're married/attached/in an LTR.

2. Misrepresentation - it's one thing to flirt on-line. it's fun, we're all here doing it. BUT if you're thinking of meeting someone IRL, then you'd better have been honest about things like your general physical appearance. Claiming to be 125 pounds and 5' 7" when you're 4' 8" and over 225 is one example. The converse is just as true (different strokes, and all that...).

My personal policy is to be honest in on-line dicussions almost to the point that it's painful. People's feeling can and do get trashed as a result of on-line relationships, so I figure it's better to be up-front from the start.

IRL:

1. Phonies (if I like you, you don't need to pump yerself up)
2. Gold-diggers (not that I've got much to dig, lately)
3. Bad hygiene (Fashion? Who cares? Clean is sexy!)

Geeze, this looks bad. Hell, I'm generally really easy to get along with. Probably one of the more laid back people most of you will ever meet. Things like the above indicate a general failure to treat people as one would like to be treated oneself, though, and are a bad way to get off to a start in any sort of relationship, IMNSHO.

 

[sortacurious]

Re: Re: Turn off for guys

I will be peeking in on this one....this should be interesting...

This did get my attention, anything I can learn about men and what they want or don't want.

Hey all you guys out there, please contribute. I will check back regularly to learn all I can!

Great Thread!

 

[wildrose70]

Momma Rose will be checking in too....and so far i agree..honesty in your relationships is very important if your going to meet face to face....
A little overweight??? LOL.....

 

[mayi]

*peaking in*

interesting posts so far........will have to check back often

mayi

 

[TantaLiza]

Male turn-offs

Come on guys!!! Keep it up...these are things we want and NEED to know....every little bit helps these days....More info please!!

Liza

 

[Angelofsex]

Now Angel is watching and reading and learning............now do I fit any of it......

 

[Ebonyfire]

We can take it

as well as dish it out!

You are entitled to your opinions, just as we are.

Tell us more...

Ebony

 

[AzureAngel]

1) Being Clingy / Desperate.

"He should want to spend all his time with me." Basically wanting to shut you off from all other friends and spend your time ONLY with her. I can understand wanting to be together, but you should never be trying to rule your guy's life. Ever.

2) Being manipulative.

Any sort of manipulation drives me absolutely insane. Most of the time, if you want something... just ask! But my god. This is a very general thing. Holding out to get something. Or threatening something... to get your way. It makes me so mad it's ridiculous. I love the gentle manipulations that you might have in playful teasing or foreplay. I'm referring to the serious, more malicious actions.

3) Dressing poorly.

There are ways to dress appropriately for your body. While guys are worse about this, I think, it applies to women. Not just dressing in "scummy" clothing, or an overly slutty outfit. Plus, the color of the outfit can be very important, too. I'm quite the foppish guy. *Snickers.*

4) Indecisiveness/Mixed Messages

"Pick either A or B." "I want A... and... I want B."

This, I've dealt with very recently. Just something that drives me nuts. I'm not the most deicisive man, but I'm talking about IMPORTANT decisions here. A vague response to a yes or no question. That sort of thing.

5) Teasing with no payoff.

This, though partly my fault, is dreadful - and for me, more often on the net than real life. A girl who plays along with teasing but won't continue it. Ugh.

Ha.

 

[Army Rhino]

Is it okay to ask your man about his ex-girlfriends

Answer Army Rhino says: Ex-girlfriends are difficult for a man to talk about. There's an emotional calculus that happens, and it goes something like this:

you + guy = strong feelings
and

old girlfriend + guy = strong feelings

but

old girlfriend ¹ you

Do you see what I'm saying? You've put us into a double bind by asking us to remember a time when the feelings we currently focusing on you were focused on someone else. And because we want to be with you now, memories of those former girlfriends feel like a threat to are current feelings for you. The irony is that if we clam up, it's not to exclude you, but to protect are relationship. A good thing to keep in mind if you explore this.

So, if you just have to know, go slowly, and for God's sake, if we are resistant, don't push.






Why we men don't like Valentine's Day

For the same reason a your man wouldn't like it if you held a gun to his head and said, "Be romantic -- or else!" Let's face it, regardless of whether your man happily woos you with flowers and a romantic dinner or remembers at 9:30pm and offers to share his beer, there's no escaping the emotional blackmail inherent to this "holiday."

But let's cast it in a different light. Your man is already being as romantic as he can -- Valentine's Day merely sheds a starker beam on his current state of development. So instead of treating the day like the final exam for Romance 101, ( as some of you do )

Accept what we manage to come up with.
Its not easy, I know. But, having been clear about what you want, it is of critical importance that you let go of your expectations. Disappointment will only deter further effort, but happily, acceptance and gratitude will give us the confidence to up the ante next time.


long red nails a turn-off do not ask me why I do not now lol

Army Rhino a man in need of help hahaha

 

[SexySlut2]

Pretty interesting so far, can't wait to learn more!

 

[vhakra]

Girls that constantly look for something to fight over about are a major turn off! I'd really not fight every two seconds with the woman I love.

Lots of hair is a problem. However, this can be turned into a turn on by letting your guy give you a haircut! Afterwards when he's kissing and licking you, you'll be glad you let him!

Also nothing is worse than a woman who cheats and lies. As far as I'm concerned it's the worse thing any woman can do to a guy!

 

[krazychick]

hmmmmmmm.................

6.) how about brains, or lack of them

7.) or I had one girl say "I want you to pleasure me" as she just laid on her back. I would have had more fun in a morgue.

8.) smell down there.....that has got to be the worst.

9.) HAIR.........I am no bushman, and I do not want to have to blaze a trail to find what I want.

Anyone else????

I had to laugh at your responses. I have to say if I were a man all of these would totally turn me off too. Sounds like you have a great sense of humour.

Carly

 

[AzureAngel]

Eating habits. My mother was picky throughout my youth, and it's become a pet peeve of mine, as well. I absolutely can't stand eating a meal (not sexually )with someone who is smacking loudly, makes a lot of noise with their utensils, or otherwise makes a ton of noise. It's just... painful.

Or complaining to an extreme extent about very insiginificant things. Not that I'm looking for a "Man's woman," but it's hard to be around a whirlwind of negativity.

I should talk, though. I feel like I'm complaining right now. *Laughs.* How about we go to what we DO like?

In order of importance:

1) Sense of humor. I joke a LOT... and if my sense of humor is misaligned with the woman I'm with, there are definitely going to be problems. I love a girl who can keep up with some banter and teasing, which goes a lot with my sense of humor. But when they do click, mmm.

2) Open mind and Creativity. What really turns me on about a woman is her willingness to explore. To try new things.

3) BLUE. The color, yes. A sexy blue dress... or blue underwear... or both... they set my blood on fire. I can't honestly explain the reasoning, just that I know what it does for me. A somewhat attractive woman put in a blue dress becomes a breathtaking goddess, to me. I can't explain it.

4) Passion. Nuff said. That spark in her eye... mmm.


Okay. I need to stop typing now. Thinking of blue gets me so riled up. *Casually strolls off with a grin.*

 

[Lady_Sam]

Hmm very interesting so far. Now I notice men are putting cheating as a general turnoff...I don't remember seeing that as a turn off in the woman's thread.

 

[hatara]

OK this is extremely interesting you guys need to keep going. Woman are truly interested in your opinions!

 

[AzureAngel]

*Laughs.* I could go on forever about what I like... but I just feel too negative saying, "this is what I DON'T like." Guess I'll either wait for that thread to start or see if this one slows down at all.

 

[1sexylady]

Hmm very interesting so far. Now I notice men are putting cheating as a general turnoff...I don't remember seeing that as a turn off in the woman's thread.

Well I said I would peek in once in a while....and I see my fellow sisters did too....

I think your right Lady_Sam....you didn't see that in the woman's thread...Gosh I wonder how many married men complain about that one...??????

Will keep peeking...

 

[gbboy1975]

My Intellectual Equal

I seek my intellectual equal in any relationship. I have been fortunate that in the relationships that have undergone significant development, the other person has always been able to keep up. I suppose I'm saying, therefore, that a lack of intellect is a distinct turn off. If we cannot stimulate each others' mind then the body will absolutely not follow.

I am really torn by this issue. I am studying for a Ph.D. The last relationship I was in was with someone who was also in grad school. This other person was, however, in a different discipline to myself. This is how I am torn. At some point in academia we specialize so much that we find ourselves constantly surrounded by those people in our same field. The thing is, I want my cake, and I want to eat it as well. I desire the ability in the other person, as much as in myself, to engage in intellectual conversation across any and all subjects. I often think that being in a relationship with someone in the same discipline as yourself is like work away from work, and may not make for a pleasant relationship. Then again, fate is fate, and you never know with whom you might fall in love.

As much as this might seem an intellectually elitist statement, I also find that as I approach the culmination of my education, I find it more and more difficult to engage in relationships. I find this is for many reasons. a) The idea of a 'casual' relationship holds very little interest, I want to share life with someone, I don't really want just a fuck buddy. b) This is where the 'elitism' really comes in...I find it very difficult to find anyone who can engage in conversation and debate at the intellectual level I crave.

Anyway, here endeth my diatribe. I suppose this signals my call to anyone who is between the age of 22 and 35, who has, or is in the process of securing, a graduate or equivalent education. I guess it would also help if they were in Michigan

 

[Daeth_Harrick]

Hrmmmmm.... Ughhhhh What to say... Lol.... reveling the great secrets of the male half.... *Sigh* Okay things that turn me off...

In no particular order.....

Dishonestly, Outright Lies or even misdirection/Misinformation.
Double Standards.
Telling us what you think you want but Wanting something else (Dunno how else to explain that one)
Not carrying your share.

Guess thats about it fer me....

 

[sortacurious]

Re: My Intellectual Equal

I seek my intellectual equal in any relationship. I have been fortunate that in the relationships that have undergone significant development, the other person has always been able to keep up. I suppose I'm saying, therefore, that a lack of intellect is a distinct turn off. If we cannot stimulate each others' mind then the body will absolutely not follow.

I am really torn by this issue. I am studying for a Ph.D. The last relationship I was in was with someone who was also in grad school. This other person was, however, in a different discipline to myself. This is how I am torn. At some point in academia we specialize so much that we find ourselves constantly surrounded by those people in our same field. The thing is, I want my cake, and I want to eat it as well. I desire the ability in the other person, as much as in myself, to engage in intellectual conversation across any and all subjects. I often think that being in a relationship with someone in the same discipline as yourself is like work away from work, and may not make for a pleasant relationship. Then again, fate is fate, and you never know with whom you might fall in love.

As much as this might seem an intellectually elitist statement, I also find that as I approach the culmination of my education, I find it more and more difficult to engage in relationships. I find this is for many reasons. a) The idea of a 'casual' relationship holds very little interest, I want to share life with someone, I don't really want just a fuck buddy. b) This is where the 'elitism' really comes in...I find it very difficult to find anyone who can engage in conversation and debate at the intellectual level I crave.

Anyway, here endeth my diatribe. I suppose this signals my call to anyone who is between the age of 22 and 35, who has, or is in the process of securing, a graduate or equivalent education. I guess it would also help if they were in Michigan

I totally agree with you...except...where I see the 'elitism' shining through is the stereotyping of intellect must equal education. I disagree.

On a lighter note, I believe there is a Michigan thread going here, somewhere.

 

[Daeth_Harrick]

Women that don't allow music in the Bedroom....