*True Confessions*

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Curious_Fem said:
*My husband was just laid off.

*Then he yells at me for not saying anything. Hello?????? Can you say SHOCK you dumbass?????????

*Then tells me he will be paid for 3 more weeks, but will have a job by the end of the week.

*sigh* Bartender, stiff drink, quickly....please.

Long Island Iced Tea ... cool and tall ...
 
naughtygirl said:
Good morning all.

Red...Im sorry your open house didnt go well. Hopefully, you'll get some people looking at your house soon.

Liza, good luck on your date this week. Have fun with your social engagments.

Lusty...re: to shave or not to shave...I shave and Nair. I dont leave a landing strip. Nair is an EVIL product but I put up with it 'cause it keeps me smoother longer. Nigel told me that he's heard of a product called Magic that is not supposed to be as irritating. I havent found it yet around here.

*smooches* to the rest of the gang.


Confession:
I'm at a loss as a "parent" right now. After I got off the phone with Nigel last night, I came out to check on my brother who had gotten home shortly before. He looked awful. I asked him what was up...a very close friend of his killed himself, shot himself to be exact. What are the right words to say? I sure as hell couldnt find them. Im certain there arent any. He has been awake all night; I have been awake all night, worried about him. He doesnt want to talk about it with me right now, which I understand....he's been just sitting, with this blank look on his face. I know I need to let him grieve. Its killing me because I wish he didnt have to deal with this kind of grief. I want to make it easier for him. but I know thats impossible. I feel so much sadness right now for him. He was really close to this guy. He briefly told me that they had talked to his friend about his depression. Im sure he is feeling some guilt. The thing with my brother is that he takes on the weight of the problems of the people he is closest to. He is very much like me, like how I was at his age. and Im worried about what this might do to him. Im sad for his friend's family. Im sad for my brother. and Im sad that this kid didnt see any other way. I wish I could make kids see that it does get better, things do get better.
I agree with both EL and Oman. All you can do is be there right now. I lost someone important to me like that also. It's devestating to know that they hurt so much that they felt the only way out was death. I've also been on the edge of death so I can see it from that side also. Either way your brother is questioning everything thought and action he's taken and not taken. He has to work this out for himself. But having you there to support him is helping imensely even if he doesn't realize it yet. And he will see it when he starts to look around. Just please don't try to rush him through it. People grieve in different ways and he'll come out of it.

But also keep an eye on him and don't let him sink into a depression of his own. And be prepared, anger will set in and when it does the most convienet target will be you. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or that he's even angry at you. It's just something that will happen. He'll be mad at himself for not doing more or seeing more and preventing it and angry at the guy for doing this and leaving him to deal with these feelings and angry at himself for feeling like that. It's normal and it'll pass.

One thing I used to help me with the anger is I gathered a whole lot of clay pots that weren't any good. I even went to a nursery and bought a bunch of damaged ones that they couldn't use. I piled them all up in the backyard in a corner where we had trouble wth water building up and took a large branch and beat them into pieces. And then beat the pieces. I cried and ranted and beat those clay pots until there was nothing left to beat and I was too tired to lift my arms again. Then I sat and cried. I never told anyone why I did that. But it gave me a way to let the anger out and pass into the next phase of grief. Things were much easier after that. It still took time but I could deal with it then.

I'm not saying that this will work with your brother but an outlet for the anger is very important or it will consume him from the inside.

Please, no matter what happens, support him by being there for him.
 
(((((((((((((( NG ))))))))))))))) Oh darlin, I'm sorry...I didn't take the time to read back. Sending my warmest thoughts to you and your brother. :rose:

kiki, you are amazing. :rose:
 
Curious_Fem said:
(((((((((((((( NG ))))))))))))))) Oh darlin, I'm sorry...I didn't take the time to read back. Sending my warmest thoughts to you and your brother. :rose:

kiki, you are amazing. :rose:
Huh? For what? For being scared? Cause I am. My sister will be here in 20 minutes to take me to the dentist again. I don't want to go. I'm scared.
 
kikmosa said:
Huh? For what? For being scared? Cause I am. My sister will be here in 20 minutes to take me to the dentist again. I don't want to go. I'm scared.

For being the wonderful person you are. You are allowed to be scared, nothing wrong with that. Any of us would be. Although it doesn't seem like it now, the pain will be gone soon then you can look forward to that pretty smile you've been talking about. My dad had this same thing done only a few months ago. I had never seen him with a full set of teeth in all of my 32 years. Now he can't stop smiling, it's a wonderful thing. Keep looking forward, it will be worth it when it's all said and done.
 
SecretScribe said:
It's only temporary ... (dulling the pain ...)

Hope things get better for you ...

Yes, I know. Which is why I don't drink. Wouldn't solve anything and probably make things worse in the meantime.

Thank you. :)
 
Curious_Fem said:
*My husband was just laid off.

*Then he yells at me for not saying anything. Hello?????? Can you say SHOCK you dumbass?????????

*Then tells me he will be paid for 3 more weeks, but will have a job by the end of the week.

*sigh* Bartender, stiff drink, quickly....please.
Sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment. With a bat. He did that just to mess with you. That was wrong.


Well, it's over. He took all of them. i told him that I just couldn't face another visit. I now have no teeth left. I hate this. I feel like a old hag. I know I'll have a pretty smile in a few weeks but until then I'm just uglier then ever.
 
well all the pain inducing teeth are gone kikmosa..thats a good thing:D and least he took all the rest out in one go,that was good of him :D

and beauty is in the eye of the beholder kikmosa, and you are a beqautiful person, beauty radiates from you :D
 
English Lady said:
well all the pain inducing teeth are gone kikmosa..thats a good thing:D and least he took all the rest out in one go,that was good of him :D

and beauty is in the eye of the beholder kikmosa, and you are a beqautiful person, beauty radiates from you :D
Thank you EL. Right now I just feel tired of it all. But it's over. I jsut keep telling myself that. No more needles, no more him looming over me, though I have to admit he did try not to do that any more then he had too. He was very fast and gentle. He's the best dentist I've ever been too. He did his best to make me feel at ease. None of the others through the years growing up ever did that. And he was honest in telling me that I could get dentures cheaper at this other place instead of just letting me pay a lot more to get them from him. I liked that.

Now it's time to heal. I bought some chamomile tea that will help it heal faster.

And no more toothaches!!!!!! Yippppppeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!
 
Curious_Fem said:
*My husband was just laid off.

*Then he yells at me for not saying anything. Hello?????? Can you say SHOCK you dumbass?????????

*Then tells me he will be paid for 3 more weeks, but will have a job by the end of the week.

*sigh* Bartender, stiff drink, quickly....please.

Stiff, you say?????? :devil:
 
kikmosa said:
Sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment. With a bat. He did that just to mess with you. That was wrong.


Well, it's over. He took all of them. i told him that I just couldn't face another visit. I now have no teeth left. I hate this. I feel like a old hag. I know I'll have a pretty smile in a few weeks but until then I'm just uglier then ever.

I'm sorry kiki, you might have misunderstood what I said. He did lose his job, but is already job hunting and might even have a new job by the end of the week.

But sometimes he could use a baseball bat upside the head. :D
 
Curious_Fem said:
I'm sorry kiki, you might have misunderstood what I said. He did lose his job, but is already job hunting and might even have a new job by the end of the week.

But sometimes he could use a baseball bat upside the head. :D
I think they all do sometimes. Some of them need something stronger.
 
HOWDY, EVERYONE
http://www.kmg.ch/images/tags/Bearmail_Hello.jpg


NG
JUST LIKE YOU ARE THERE FOR YOUR BROTHER,
WHEN YOU NEED TO TURN TO SOMEONE,
JUST LIKE ALWAYS
YOU HAVE US, THE TCERS
WE TOO
WILL JUST LISTEN WHEN NEEDED
OR GIVE ADVICE IF ASKED.
LOVING HUGS
AS ALWAYS,

CHORUS:)
We are family
I got all my sisters with me
We are family
Get up ev'rybody and sing

Ev'ryone can see we're together
As we walk on by
(FLY!) and we fly just like birds of a feather
I won't tell no lie
(ALL!) all of the people around us they say
Can they be that close
Just let me state for the record
We're giving love in a family dose

(CHORUS x2)

Living life is fun and we've just begun
To get our share of the world's delights
(HIGH!) high hopes we have for the future
And our goal's in sight
(WE!) no we don't get depressed
Here's what we call our golden rule
Have faith in you and the things you do
You won't go wrong
This is our family Jewel
 
Kiki...Im so glad its over for you. and YAY! soon pretty teeth. Hope you heal fast.

CF...hope your hubby's job prospect pans out.

Thank you all for your support and prayers. Just got home from work and my brother isnt home. His girlfriend called several times so I think he is with her, which is a good thing. Im hoping he is. But he chooses now not to leave me a note.

My father just kind of alarmed me. Well, he didnt tell me anything I didnt know or wasnt thinking already, but with me being the worrier I am I then worry that I overreact, he only confirmed what I was worrying about with my brother. He told me to please look out for warning signs of my brother thinking suicide (and then he listed them for me..). Now my dad is pretty reasonable, so for him to say that, alarms me further. My brother has gone through several serious depressions. and my dad is also concerned about the ramfications of this tragedy. and how my brother stuffs things. Im hoping he will let me go to the funeral with him. But knowing him, he wont. He will more than likely go with his group of friends.

I feel really helpless right now. *sigh* at this moment, I wish he would rely on me more as his "big sister" than his "parent". He might open up to me more then.

ok enough rambling...
 
Curious_Fem said:
I completely agree.

How are you feeling? :rose:
I'm ok. The novacane has worn off and the painkillers aren't as effective as I'd like but I'll make it.
 
omahaman2 said:
HOWDY, EVERYONE
http://www.kmg.ch/images/tags/Bearmail_Hello.jpg


NG
JUST LIKE YOU ARE THERE FOR YOUR BROTHER,
WHEN YOU NEED TO TURN TO SOMEONE,
JUST LIKE ALWAYS
YOU HAVE US, THE TCERS
WE TOO
WILL JUST LISTEN WHEN NEEDED
OR GIVE ADVICE IF ASKED.
LOVING HUGS
AS ALWAYS,

CHORUS:)
We are family
I got all my sisters with me
We are family
Get up ev'rybody and sing

Ev'ryone can see we're together
As we walk on by
(FLY!) and we fly just like birds of a feather
I won't tell no lie
(ALL!) all of the people around us they say
Can they be that close
Just let me state for the record
We're giving love in a family dose

(CHORUS x2)

Living life is fun and we've just begun
To get our share of the world's delights
(HIGH!) high hopes we have for the future
And our goal's in sight
(WE!) no we don't get depressed
Here's what we call our golden rule
Have faith in you and the things you do
You won't go wrong
This is our family Jewel
Thank you, Oman. you have wonderful timing. :rose:
 
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