*True Confessions*

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"If I could fly, I'd lift you up" - Batch, NG - *hugs* to both of you for enduring. Seems like you've both done more than survived, you continue to live. I raise my glass in toast to you both, and to everyone else who has gone through bad times and continues to perservere.(sp?)

Amber, Jewelz - if I weren't so damn happy for you both, I'd be jealous - hell, maybe I am, anyway *kisses*

Red, Wintermute, Freya2 - hello there!
 
After reading this AM's posts I feel compelled to ask . . . just how prevelant is sexual abuse? It seems everywhere I go on Lit or r/l I run into someone with this experience.

It's sad.

I have often wondered about my own experience and how it has effected me, sometimes in ways that aren't always obvious.

For example - a friend told me that there is an unusualy high percentage of women who have been abused that deliver their babies via csection. There are two theories. One is that these women believe their bodies are dirty and subconsciously will not allow the baby to pass through their vaginas and thus the labor does not progress. The second says that the women so fear the pain and trauma of childbirth that their bodies shut down, and labor does not progress. I don't know that I buy into this exactly, but it floored me when I heard it.

I welcome everyone's opinions.

:kiss: Red
 
I have but one confession today

*I chatted with the devil last night and he really ain't so bad:D


:D

Red
 
*blushing*...Thanks Amber, honey...

Batch....I feel very deeply with you...had a very close friend die doing something he loved too...drowned...has affected me several years also....Hugs to you dear....

NG...that's what this place is for...we all need to vent!! Now... sit up and enjoy what He has to give you!!!!

Freya...I'm a tough chic too but like Batch said...lol...broad reminds me of the side of a barn...my ass....

Red...you've gone thru a lot, too...Hugs!!


Confession....

* I feel better now that I've had a kitchen fix...lol

*made lunch for mom and daughter...cooked cabbage, ceasar salad, mac-n-cheese, veggie skallops and garlic/sundried tomato sourdough bread....

*will finish my fix with a batch of brownies after I totally wake from this nap...

*would like to find someone nice to introduce to a friend of mine... he's inteligent and needs someone to keep him occupied...

*got good feelings while my daughter sat up in my lap this afternoon....12 yo's don't do that much........

*am jonesin' for a fix of another sort...*eg*

*have found that I REALLY like voice chat on yahoo....*blushing*

*still thinking of Him...lots....

*waiting to exhale....

*dreaming of the next time we're together....

*hoping that He knows how good He makes me feel...

*am really in such a good mood....


Again....hugs to everyone...even if I don't know you very well...

Liza
 
"After reading this AM's posts I feel compelled to ask . . . just how prevelant is sexual abuse? It seems everywhere I go on Lit or r/l I run into someone with this experience. "




My older brother, Red, he messed with me for a long time, I finally left home at 14. I don't have kids, don't think it's a possibility, so I'm not sure about the other.


Liza - Hello there! Good to see you!
 
redelicious said:
After reading this AM's posts I feel compelled to ask . . . just how prevelant is sexual abuse? It seems everywhere I go on Lit or r/l I run into someone with this experience.

It's sad.

I have often wondered about my own experience and how it has effected me, sometimes in ways that aren't always obvious.

For example - a friend told me that there is an unusualy high percentage of women who have been abused that deliver their babies via csection. There are two theories. One is that these women believe their bodies are dirty and subconsciously will not allow the baby to pass through their vaginas and thus the labor does not progress. The second says that the women so fear the pain and trauma of childbirth that their bodies shut down, and labor does not progress. I don't know that I buy into this exactly, but it floored me when I heard it.

I welcome everyone's opinions.

:kiss: Red


Red -- statistics show that at least 1 out of 4 women have been sexually abused or assaulted in their lifetime...some say its as high as 1 out of 3. Men -- well men thats a hard one, last stat I heard on that was 1 out of 7...but with men its much harder to really get a good stat because they are so much less likely to report than women. so some researchers have said that the odds are even higher than that....

as far as giving birth....i know that Im not necessarily afraid to give birth....Im terrified that I wont be able to have children period. I know that I have scar tissue left from the abuse and my gyno says she doesnt see why I wouldnt be able to...but its my fear that I wont be able to cause he fucked me up down there....its an irrational fear, but one that I still lingers. I want children sooo badly. (but a hubby first would be nice...lol)

I can buy into those theories about women who have been abused and childbirth. Personally for me...there were are also strong physical affects (along with the emotional aspects) stemming from my abuse and my body would react physically when trying to deal with it....panic attacks mainly, when I just saw someone who resembled my perp or a certain smell etc. I dont have these any more at all but when I was first trying to deal they were there.

The mind - body- soul together is a very powerful thing. If things arent well in your mind and soul, it can have powerful powerful effects on your body.
 
Good afternoon everyone!!!! How's everyone doing this very nice lovely afternoon???? I'm doing rather good!

~~~~~~HUGS AND KISSES~~~~~~ To all of you!!!! I've had a wonderful day! I have no confessions of late. I wanna be out in the sun but oh well. Am soo tired. Thinking a nap is in order, but going to stay here and chat!
 
ShiningEyes said:
Good afternoon everyone!!!! How's everyone doing this very nice lovely afternoon???? I'm doing rather good!

~~~~~~HUGS AND KISSES~~~~~~ To all of you!!!! I've had a wonderful day! I have no confessions of late. I wanna be out in the sun but oh well. Am soo tired. Thinking a nap is in order, but going to stay here and chat!

Hey SE! Nice to see you babe. Im doing pretty good this afternoon...need to get some shit done around my house, and trying not to be sucked into Lit so that I can... but overall Im pretty good.

Should we expect more pics today? *eg*
 
Red....there are a lot of different types of sexual abuse. It's a broad topic. And happens more than one might think. It happens every day if not every hour somewhere in the world. A lot of it goes unreported. Which makes it even worse!!!
 
nastygirl said:


Hey SE! Nice to see you babe. Im doing pretty good this afternoon...need to get some shit done around my house, and trying not to be sucked into Lit so that I can... but overall Im pretty good.

Should we expect more pics today? *eg*


Hey sweetie!!! I've missed all you guys sooo much!!! hehehe I need to be cleaning while I can myself! lol


Hmmmm....I'm trying to think of some really naughty things I can do that would make for good pictures!!!
 
redelicious said:
After reading this AM's posts I feel compelled to ask . . . just how prevelant is sexual abuse? It seems everywhere I go on Lit or r/l I run into someone with this experience.

It's sad.

I have often wondered about my own experience and how it has effected me, sometimes in ways that aren't always obvious.

For example - a friend told me that there is an unusualy high percentage of women who have been abused that deliver their babies via csection. There are two theories. One is that these women believe their bodies are dirty and subconsciously will not allow the baby to pass through their vaginas and thus the labor does not progress. The second says that the women so fear the pain and trauma of childbirth that their bodies shut down, and labor does not progress. I don't know that I buy into this exactly, but it floored me when I heard it.

I welcome everyone's opinions.

:kiss: Red

For me, my brother used to fool around with me, although never to the point of intercourse......I delivered my child naturally. Maybe those stats reflect actual "sexual" abuse, meaning raped vaginally?
 
*Wasted most of the day napping*

*Is now all fuzzy headed and sweaty from the nap...needs a shower badly*

*Wishes he'd hurry up and get home so she can see his smile*

*Feels weird discussing real life sexual interludes with the one she wishes to be having them with*

*Plans on ditching her friends for the evening to spend it here.......is that pathetic?*

*Down to $150 in her bank and no money coming in until August....will be cashing savings bonds and RRSP's soon*

*Will survive....is tough*

*Revises previous statement to TOUGH fuckin chicks....not broads!!*

*Hates being put on hold by friends, and left hanging*
 
redelicious said:


I have often wondered about my own experience and how it has effected me, sometimes in ways that aren't always obvious.

For example - a friend told me that there is an unusualy high percentage of women who have been abused that deliver their babies via csection. There are two theories. One is that these women believe their bodies are dirty and subconsciously will not allow the baby to pass through their vaginas and thus the labor does not progress. The second says that the women so fear the pain and trauma of childbirth that their bodies shut down, and labor does not progress. I don't know that I buy into this exactly, but it floored me when I heard it.

I welcome everyone's opinions.

:kiss: Red
Interesting topic Red, thanks for being so open about bringing it up...I can only provide my opinion medically and not psychologically on the above.

From my medical training I have learned that victims of sexual abuse often can not deliver naturally from displaced cervixes. What happens is that the cervix is a muscle that moves ..when, as a child, or even not, if a victim of rape your cervix can be displaced (almost dislodged in a way) you will not feel pain but your body in efforts to correct it will start healing and if the cervix is not placed in the correct position a build up of scar tissue occurs making it nearly impossible for a baby to pass through.

I being raped at 17 was panic stricken about this but I am one of the lucky ones who was ok.

My hugs to you all
 
samanthak1721 said:

Amber, Jewelz - if I weren't so damn happy for you both, I'd be jealous - hell, maybe I am, anyway *kisses*


Awe thank you Sam, and don't be jealous it wasn't easy ..it took Matt and I nearly a year to get to this place and finally I gave in *winks at him*

It is not easy having a relationship over the net that is for sure...it is a big test of trust and you learn some hard lessons about people.

It is wonderful though being with a man like him who tells me everything.

My biggest warning which is a shame is that you find out alot about people who support your relationship then meanwhile are trying to fuck one or the other behind everyone's back. It can be a big test but with open and honest partners you always find out. But it still stings. I hope my friends here know I would never do that.

It is worth it though and I am extremely happy so thank you everyone for your support! And I wish you all happiness in whatever love you are persuing.
 
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