ShiningEyes
Silent and Waiting
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My sweet Amber!! I have missed you!
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ShiningEyes said:My sweet Amber!! I have missed you!
SexyAmber said:Interesting topic Red, thanks for being so open about bringing it up...I can only provide my opinion medically and not psychologically on the above.
From my medical training I have learned that victims of sexual abuse often can not deliver naturally from displaced cervixes. What happens is that the cervix is a muscle that moves ..when, as a child, or even not, if a victim of rape your cervix can be displaced (almost dislodged in a way) you will not feel pain but your body in efforts to correct it will start healing and if the cervix is not placed in the correct position a build up of scar tissue occurs making it nearly impossible for a baby to pass through.
I being raped at 17 was panic stricken about this but I am one of the lucky ones who was ok.
My hugs to you all
Freya2 said:Ever notice that sometimes having a shower and/or brushing your teeth, is almost as good as an orgasm? Almost!
to you all, if you want any other suggestions for good books on this subject let me know.
SexyAmber said:
Yes pain does change us. For me though, I am not a little girl inside and I am much stronger because of him. I guess I am lucky. I used to take so much and now it is not the case. If I am fucked over it only happens once and then that person is cut from my life. I have no time to waste anymore on people unworthy of me. And I say unworthy not out of conceit but out of respect for myself. My experience with him made me gain a whole new level of self respect. I will not tolerate a man who lies to me, cheats on me or plays other silly games. He raises his hand to me and he is likely to leave with one less organ. It is a conscious decision I have made for myself after a long time of self examination. Plain and simple, I do not like myself otherwise....
The worst part of this all is that for both men and women I have a huge defensive wall around me. Many of the men I have dated have called me the "ice princess", it isn't intentional but the minute that someone gains enough of my heart that they could hurt me ..the wall goes up. I refuse to be hurt. So maybe I am not as tough as I tell myself. One thing I do know I hate pity, it makes me uncomfortable. Even when my dad had his heart attack and people said "I am so sorry" I just said "oh it's ok, how have you been?" I am incapable of showing weakness. I don't cry. Must be from what my boyfriend who used to beat me up said after putting me in the hospital. "Look at it this way princess, Adversity breeds character"
The one thing I know is that I need to be cherished in a relationship...I need it.
I try to wake up everyday and look in the mirror and say "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" I refuse to consent anymore.
TantaLiza said:Hugs to ya, Amber, honey...***** can throw us some curves can't it?
Sending out hugs and wishing the very best life has to offer my Ladies of Lit....
Liza