Top, bottom or switch?

[The_gladiator]

I'm a rib eye, or bacon wrapped filet Mignon kind of guy. Baby golden new potatoes and fresh green beans fried in olive oil with with a little garlic. Mm, nice bottle of wine from Napa.

Damn, now I'm getting hungry . . . .

Now I know where to go for dinner.

 

[curvyangel1969]

I would say I'm a switch. There are things I really enjoy on both sides of the spectrum. I'm happiest in dd/lg settings though.

 

[neakman]

I would say I'm a switch. There are things I really enjoy on both sides of the spectrum. I'm happiest in dd/lg settings though.

Im into the switch, soooo, hmmm I see a trend here

 

[papadoc19]

Switch with a lean towards dom/top

 

[Eva_Star]

Bottom/sublicious

 

[Ginmill72]

I prefer top

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Mmmm... all these switchy pervs

 

[hotoldrguy]

I am old...I will take whatever I can get...

 

[The_gladiator]

Mmmm... all these switchy pervs

Its nice to see, I didn't realize so many switched around here.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Bumping for reference

And for something to read in the loo
*scampers*

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Something I've never done is switched with the same partner. I mean, really gotten into both headspaces.

I wonder how many switches have?

Oooh, i have now! I like it! *growls*

 

[Dribble]

I hate labels.

If she wants to push me down and climb on top and fuck me silly....cool. That doesnt make her, or I, a switch. Just fucking horny....now....immediate...needs.

I am a dominant male. Even if I give myself completely to her wishes and control...that does not change. How do I know this? Easy...how do you not know?

 

[AlwaysFara]

I hate labels.

If she wants to push me down and climb on top and fuck me silly....cool. That doesnt make her, or I, a switch. Just fucking horny....now....immediate...needs.

I am a dominant male. Even if I give myself completely to her wishes and control...that does not change. How do I know this? Easy...how do you not know?

This is the right answer.

 

[base10]

I hate labels.

If she wants to push me down and climb on top and fuck me silly....cool. That doesnt make her, or I, a switch. Just fucking horny....now....immediate...needs.

I am a dominant male. Even if I give myself completely to her wishes and control...that does not change. How do I know this? Easy...how do you not know?

I hate labels as well, but I'm much more dominant than submissive. Every once in a while it's fun to give up control, but usually I want it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I hate labels.

If she wants to push me down and climb on top and fuck me silly....cool. That doesnt make her, or I, a switch. Just fucking horny....now....immediate...needs.

I am a dominant male. Even if I give myself completely to her wishes and control...that does not change. How do I know this? Easy...how do you not know?

Awesome.

You know, Fara knows, i know. But not everybody knows that a Dom can bottom and still be a Dom. Or just dominant.

When i was new, i needed labels to help me sort things out, sort myself out. I don't need them anymore in the same way, but they're still useful, as a tool that you pick up when you need it and then put away again after it's served its purpose.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Awesome.

You know, Fara knows, i know. But not everybody knows that a Dom can bottom and still be a Dom. Or just dominant.

When i was new, i needed labels to help me sort things out, sort myself out. I don't need them anymore in the same way, but they're still useful, as a tool that you pick up when you need it and then put away again after it's served its purpose.

I like being labeled.
Because I just kind of discovered it within the last 5 years.
But, it’s not all I am.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I've decided I'm just a brat to everyone unless circumstances determine they are worthy of anything more than that.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I like being labeled.
Because I just kind of discovered it within the last 5 years.
But, it’s not all I am.

I'm tired of the labels, for myself. I want to get to know someone and then be whoever we are, together.

And that's not a way of me wiggling out of saying i can switch. It's more a shift in focus, away from wanting to talk, and toward wanting to do/be.

I've decided I'm just a brat to everyone unless circumstances determine they are worthy of anything more than that.

Haha! i get this.

 

[John_Q_Public]

It's interesting to me how few men admit they are submissive or want to be. Even more fascinating is how few women are dominant or want to be. I wonder if women form their preference based on social pressure to be submissive just as men do when it comes being dominate.

Labels are bad.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

It's interesting to me how few men admit they are submissive or want to be. Even more fascinating is how few women are dominant or want to be. I wonder if women form their preference based on social pressure to be submissive just as men do when it comes being dominate.

Labels are bad.

The public perception of male submission is unhelpful at best.

My limited, online experience tells me that male subs struggle for acceptance within the kink community as well, although i have a feeling that that may be less true in person than online (i hope!).

The more we talk about it, the better.



Regarding Dommes...

Any woman on Lit who presents as a strong personality will find her inbox overflowing with submissive suitors. Any woman who publicly identifies as a switch or a Domme better be prepared for an absolute onslaught. Not many women feel like dealing with that, and who can blame them?

Again, i feel the common stereotypye of a Domme doesn't do anyone any favors.

 

[Bill_Cosplay]

I don't like to be labeled. I go where the moment takes me.

 

[John_Q_Public]

The public perception of male submission is unhelpful at best.

My limited, online experience tells me that male subs struggle for acceptance within the kink community as well, although i have a feeling that that may be less true in person than online (i hope!).

The more we talk about it, the better.



Regarding Dommes...

Any woman on Lit who presents as a strong personality will find her inbox overflowing with submissive suitors. Any woman who publicly identifies as a switch or a Domme better be prepared for an absolute onslaught. Not many women feel like dealing with that, and who can blame them?

Again, i feel the common stereotypye of a Domme doesn't do anyone any favors.

Interesting insight with regard the tribulations of a Domme. You might also add that strong women are not typically well received by other women. I have heard about the submissive men around here and that sort of “blitzkrieg” behavior isn't exactly helping their cause. Let's face it, some people take things to extremes far too easily.

Also, if your a guy who just wants to submit to a strong woman, yet the closest relatable persona here is a sissy who calls himself Delores, you might not want to be associated with that label.

I think people's taste change, and not just over time. I believe people step out of their comfort zones when doing so doesn't come with a degrading label (unless that is their thing… which is a whole other conversation). Some things must be experienced before they become desired.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Interesting insight with regard the tribulations of a Domme. You might also add that strong women are not typically well received by other women. I have heard about the submissive men around here and that sort of “blitzkrieg” behavior isn't exactly helping their cause. Let's face it, some people take things to extremes far too easily.

Also, if your a guy who just wants to submit to a strong woman, yet the closest relatable persona here is a sissy who calls himself Delores, you might not want to be associated with that label.

I think people's taste change, and not just over time. I believe people step out of their comfort zones when doing so doesn't come with a degrading label (unless that is their thing… which is a whole other conversation). Some things must be experienced before they become desired.

Good. Yes. Agreed.

Ftr, i do not have a 'strong woman' temperament. I am strong in other ways, i suppose.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I'm of the mind that it's never a "this" way or "that," rather a "preference" and "general leaning", depending on the partner and circumstances.

That said, my general leaning , sexually speaking, is none of anyone's business, and I gave up publicly proclaiming my tendencies long ago. There are WAY TOO MANY lurkers who jump at the chance to exploit (or bug the shit out of) anyone who acknowledges a "label".

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm of the mind that it's never a "this" way or "that," rather a "preference" and "general leaning", depending on the partner and circumstances.

That said, my general leaning , sexually speaking, is none of anyone's business, and I gave up publicly proclaiming my tendencies long ago. There are WAY TOO MANY lurkers who jump at the chance to exploit (or bug the shit out of) anyone who acknowledges a "label".

Or a vagina.