Top, bottom or switch?

[just4friends]

Playfully top or bottom so playfully switch?
Whatever she wants that I want...

"She" did not imply the most recent she

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

*nods*

Letting me think I'm in charge.
Even when playing Teacher...

I love the anticipation of knowing it's coming, but not knowing when, or how.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

...Though I whacked a friend on the butt with a leather paddle at a fetish fair on Sunday and enjoyed the satisfying noise....

...

 

[OldUncleJack]

Top...I tried bottom once or twice but my heart wasn't in it...

 

[Endless_Night]

Bottom. Umm, yeah. vvv.

Ha ha, that's my favorite!

Nudging them around a bit until they decide they've had enough and show me who's boss.

I wouldn't have thought there was much top in me, but I do recall a woman who used to post on the BDSM board. A submissive bottom. She mentioned not feeling all that 'safe' with herself on the few occasions she topped. A matter of a little latent tendency to brutality.

That rings a bell. Any 'topping' I do probably needs to be...closely corralled. Like...rules.

In advance.

In writing.

In blood.


Juuuuust to make sure I don't get carried away.

(Not entirely kidding.)

 

[guns44]

.....

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Bottom. Umm, yeah. vvv.



I wouldn't have thought there was much top in me, but I do recall a woman who used to post on the BDSM board. A submissive bottom. She mentioned not feeling all that 'safe' with herself on the few occasions she topped. A matter of a little latent tendency to brutality.

That rings a bell. Any 'topping' I do probably needs to be...closely corralled. Like...rules.

In advance.

In writing.

In blood.


Juuuuust to make sure I don't get carried away.

(Not entirely kidding.)

I feel you.

Although in my experience, topping is different from domming. The power exchange feels less... complete? You're basically just there to do a job.
If you're not in the Domme headspace, then I think you'll struggle less with those concerns.

Of course that also means less intensity and fewer rewards. So, pros and cons.

I've adopted an unwritten rule that I won't dom anyone who I wouldn't trust to dom me. Subject to change, but that's where I am right now.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Top...I tried bottom once or twice but my heart wasn't in it...

Jack...

Maybe you just haven't found the right top?

*eyes your bum*

 

[OldUncleJack]

Jack...

Maybe you just haven't found the right top?

*eyes your bum*

Lol....perhaps..and you SO want to spank me dontcha?

 

[vidmin]

Bottom sub guy here. just really like it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Lol....perhaps..and you SO want to spank me dontcha?

I think I'll pass, you might be too much for me to handle!

 

[OldUncleJack]

I think I'll pass, you might be too much for me to handle!

Who's been talking?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Who's been talking?

Ha! I wouldn't know, I'm not in the loop.

Call it woman's intuition.

 

[OldUncleJack]

Ha! I wouldn't know, I'm not in the loop.

Call it woman's intuition.

You're good... you're vey good...

 

[Endless_Night]

I feel you.

Although in my experience, topping is different from domming. The power exchange feels less... complete? You're basically just there to do a job.
If you're not in the Domme headspace, then I think you'll struggle less with those concerns.

Of course that also means less intensity and fewer rewards. So, pros and cons.

I've adopted an unwritten rule that I won't dom anyone who I wouldn't trust to dom me. Subject to change, but that's where I am right now.

Hmmmm. Excellent point. The job analogy is a good one. Topping would be so much more detached, less emotionally engaged than Domming.

*mulls ramifications*

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hmmmm. Excellent point. The job analogy is a good one. Topping would be so much more detached, less emotionally engaged than Domming.

*mulls ramifications*

I would encourage anyone who's interested to dip their toes in the other side of the slash, if only to see what things are like from their partner's perspective.

 

[lowphat]

Mostly Dom, but I'm open

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Mostly Dom, but I'm open

I have been amazed to discover how many men feel this way. I think the number of men open to the idea of male submission, if only on an experimental basis, are vastly underestimated.

Of course it could be that they're all just pervs and fancy the thought of a woman in a corset and thigh-high boots commanding them to eat her pussy.

 

[lowphat]

I have been amazed to discover how many men feel this way. I think the number of men open to the idea of male submission, if only on an experimental basis, are vastly underestimated.

Of course it could be that they're all just pervs and fancy the thought of a woman in a corset and thigh-high boots commanding them to eat her pussy.

Shit, okay so I'm more open than I thought!!!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Shit, okay so I'm more open than I thought!!!

sheesh

If that's all you want, then you need a service Top, not a Domme.

 

[ydahecnot]

Something I've never done is switched with the same partner. I mean, really gotten into both headspaces.

I wonder how many switches have?

Have done that. Awesome

 

[lowphat]

Eh, I'm just a guy that hasn't done much experimentally, so I write about it

 

[ydahecnot]

I have been amazed to discover how many men feel this way. I think the number of men open to the idea of male submission, if only on an experimental basis, are vastly underestimated.

Of course it could be that they're all just pervs and fancy the thought of a woman in a corset and thigh-high boots commanding them to eat her pussy.

Strangely, I am not really into corsets or thigh-high boots. It's more the psychology of the thing

 

[HypnosDenied]

I'm a top.