Threesomes

[bratgirlbound]

i've been in a few MFF threesomes and have to say that if i'm going to be with another woman i guess I'd prefer just her, not a threesome. For me anyway there is a huge difference sex between women and sex b/t women and men, in my bed anyway
haven't ever done MMF but surely would try it if i thought my husband would deal well with it, he says he would try it for me but i suspect it wouldn't end well so we'll just avoid it for now, but some nice toys do give some of the same effect.

 

[Guest]

The topic has come up several times with my wife.
About 6 years ago, my wife brought up the idea of having a MMF threesome. Up to this point in time I had never even thought of the idea.
She had stated that this was one of her fantacies.
We both agreed that we would have a MMF if the opportunity presented itself, but it never has.

We are not quite sure how to bring up the subject with people. We have had the opportunity to have a FFM threesome, but my wife was not real comfortable with the situation. The 3rd person was a neighbor, and she did not want her spouse to know.

I think everyone should try their fantacies at least once.

 

[Guest]

Anyone who has had a MMF, did the 2 males have any contact with each other?

 

[Guest]

threesomes

I have a question, My lover and I have been talking about doing a 3 some.. I said i would like MMF and he wants MFF ( no surprise there). We met a lil over 2 yrs in a online chat room and have been friends from the begining. Only recently we are more the friends. My ? is how do u go about finding a 3rd person.. We dont have any friends . How do u know that someone would be willing to join in on the fun?

I never have been with another women and he has never been with a guy. We both want a 3som but is a lil scared. ANd also game on the idea.
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Can i get some adivice on how to get things started .

Thank you

 

[mjp]

would do both

It takes either a very casual relationship or a very special one to have a threesome, luckily for me I'm in the latter.

We view a threesome similiar to something that was said earlier here, as using another person as a sex toy, so to speak. But what is different than just using a piece of rubber is that we can enjoy watching each other get pleasured from a perspective we normally can't, and we can explore and play in all sorts of ways doing what 3 can do that 2 cannot. However, this will only work because we are clear on each other's limitations and we are an extremely communicative and trusting couple.

I think if this is the attitude you have to a 3some, then you have nothing to lose, and it shouldn't matter whether it is a MMF or MFF, as long as you find the right person.

So I'll second the last question, how do you find the right person when AFF doesn't do much for you? What are swinger's clubs like?

 

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Re: would do both

So I'll second the last question, how do you find the right person when AFF doesn't do much for you?

Sorry to be dense but what is AFF?


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[ExtacyCouple]

I'll agree very much with mjp. My wife and I have had several MMf threesomes and they have all been great. We trust each other very much and have always agreed that we would try anything once and if we liked it we'd do it agian. Well we liked it. We have still not done a FFM threesome but are very open to the idea. I think under the wrong circumstances a threesome could be a total disaster. For us it has totally enhanced our relationship. As for the question of would I be involved with the other male sexually. No, thats not what I'm in it for. I really like watching my wife having sex with another man. I also like giving extreme pleasure and as they always say two heads are better than one. I think for her it is a very powerful thing to be able to give two men such pleasure and at the same time she can play the other role and be very submisive and be controlled by the two men.

My opinion: If you have a very strong relationship and can comunicate very openly it's a great thing. Let's face it most human beings that are in a relationship still have desires that go beyond the one you are with. Surpressing that for to long is going to lead to you thinking that you are not happy with the one you are with and next thing you know you will be sneaking around having an affair. Their are a lot of divorces in this country and I would guess that most of them come from people cheating on their spouses. My theory has always been that if I am going to have those thoughts I am going to be up front with my wife and discuss it and I would expect the same from her. A three some is a way to stimulate your sexual relationship.

I have rambled long enough and hope that makes sense.

 

[Tallfella]

I'll agree very much with mjp. My wife and I have had several MMf threesomes and they have all been great. We trust each other very much and have always agreed that we would try anything once and if we liked it we'd do it agian. Well we liked it. We have still not done a FFM threesome but are very open to the idea. I think under the wrong circumstances a threesome could be a total disaster. For us it has totally enhanced our relationship. As for the question of would I be involved with the other male sexually. No, it thats not what I'm in it for. I really like watching my wife having sex with another man. I also like giving extreem plesure and as they always say two heads are better than one. I think for her it is a very powerful thing to be able to give two men such pleasure and at the same time she can play the other role and be very submisive and be controlled by the two men.

My opinion: If you have a very strong relationship and can comunicate very openly it's a great thing. Let's face it most human beings that are in a relationship still have desires that go beyond the one you are with. Surpessing that for to long is going to lead to you thinking that you are not happy with the one you are with and next thing you know you will be sneaking around having an affair. Their are a lot of devorces in this country and I would guess that most of them come from people cheating on their spouses. My theory has always been that if I am going to have those thoughts I am going to be up front with my wife and discuss it and I would expect the same from her. A three some is a way to stimulate your sexual relationship.

I have rambled long enough and hope that makes sense.

Totally

 

[Parklife]

It's always been a fantasy of mine to be involved in a MMF where there is 'forced' bi- on my part. Not that it would have to be forced but the concept and thrill of 'submitting' to it are a great turn on.

Of course, I realize the realm of fantasy and reality are two different things. I would hope that in the right kind of relationship I could live out my fantasies in a safe and thrilling environment or at least try them out.

 

[Lust Engine]

Here's a twist...

Now for those folks who've engaged in successful threesomes their relationships are solid enough to withstand any awkward feelings that could occur.

While I can completely understand the awkwardness of seeing your lover being engaged with another person, would those folks be okay with a soft swing at a swing club??

Could you and your lover get intimate in front of another couple?

Could you and your lover get intimate in front of perhaps another person (either M or F) masturbating to you & your lover's passion??

While technically this might not constitute a true threesome by having a non-touching particpant, I was curious to see how bold & daring some of the Lit folks are to the exhibitionistic aspects of being involved in a threesome.

Would this be a thrill to some folks???

 

[ExtacyCouple]

As to what Lust Engine said, I would be totally comfortable with having sex infront of other people or just one other person. We are actually looking into going to a swing club in our area. For our fist visit (if it happens) I would totally want to just watch and be watched.

Going back to what someone said earlier about a threesome being like using a sex toy, that is very true. It is actually more like watching a porn movie that is a sex toy. It's the two combined.

The way that is written sounds confusing but you get the point.

 

[spankableBelle]

Re: Here's a twist...

Now for those folks who've engaged in successful threesomes their relationships are solid enough to withstand any awkward feelings that could occur.

While I can completely understand the awkwardness of seeing your lover being engaged with another person, would those folks be okay with a soft swing at a swing club??

Could you and your lover get intimate in front of another couple?

Could you and your lover get intimate in front of perhaps another person (either M or F) masturbating to you & your lover's passion??

While technically this might not constitute a true threesome by having a non-touching particpant, I was curious to see how bold & daring some of the Lit folks are to the exhibitionistic aspects of being involved in a threesome.

Would this be a thrill to some folks???

<grin> Lust

While never having been an exhibitionist of any sort, i can say with a modicum of honesty that i would be fine with being sexually intimate in front of others or another. It's a fantasy of mine. It is not something that would give me pause as much as an actual traditional threesome would with full sexual contact with another person. i could comfortably have sex in front of another woman while she got off on it...so long as she kept her hands to herself. i would be comfortable watching sex happen in front of me so long as my partner kept his hands to himself or me.

i will concede that some people have traditional full sexual contact threesomes and they are successful and i have nothing against that at all. It too is a fantasy of mine, however, knowing myself as i do, i could not be comfortable with sharing my man's touch or body with another woman.

belle

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: Re: Here's a twist...

<grin> Lust

While never having been an exhibitionist of any sort, i can say with a modicum of honesty that i would be fine with being sexually intimate in front of others or another. It's a fantasy of mine. It is not something that would give me pause as much as an actual traditional threesome would with full sexual contact with another person. i could comfortably have sex in front of another woman while she got off on it...so long as she kept her hands to herself. i would be comfortable watching sex happen in front of me so long as my partner kept his hands to himself or me.

i will concede that some people have traditional full sexual contact threesomes and they are successful and i have nothing against that at all. It too is a fantasy of mine, however, knowing myself as i do, i could not be comfortable with sharing my man's touch or body with another woman.

belle

Belle, you surprise me with this! And in a pleasant way at that! You sly little exhibitionistic little vixen you! I wasn't sure if my twist to the threesome query would pique your interest or not, but I guess it did. Admittedly I think I'm in the same modicum of of modesty that you're in too. Many thanks for being so frank & honest with this reply.

I hope others who are also hesitant of all out physical threesomes will respond to my query.

 

[spankableBelle]

Re: Re: Re: Here's a twist...

Belle, you surprise me with this! And in a pleasant way at that! You sly little exhibitionistic little vixen you! I wasn't sure if my twist to the threesome query would pique your interest or not, but I guess it did. Admittedly I think I'm in the same modicum of of modesty that you're in too. Many thanks for being so frank & honest with this reply.

I hope others who are also hesitant of all out physical threesomes will respond to my query.

<giggles> There is a lot you don't know about me and my preferences that would literally shock and surprise you. Believe me.

And no one has ever called me a vixen before...wow...such a delicious little term.

As for the query, i'm glad my answer both surprised and pleased you. Sometimes i wish i were different and that i could be more open in this aspect, but i am not. Though to be honest, i have never been in a relationship that promotes the type of security and open communication that most fantasies require. Perhaps it would be different, perhaps i would feel differently, in that type of relationship should it ever come along, but that in and of itself is just wishful thinking. But for me now, well, i would love to watch others, and be watched by others..

belle

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I can't be with another woman. I'm homophobic.

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Here's a twist...

<giggles> There is a lot you don't know about me and my preferences that would literally shock and surprise you. Believe me.

And no one has ever called me a vixen before...wow...such a delicious little term.

As for the query, i'm glad my answer both surprised and pleased you. Sometimes i wish i were different and that i could be more open in this aspect, but i am not. Though to be honest, i have never been in a relationship that promotes the type of security and open communication that most fantasies require. Perhaps it would be different, perhaps i would feel differently, in that type of relationship should it ever come along, but that in and of itself is just wishful thinking. But for me now, well, i would love to watch others, and be watched by others..

belle

We are who we are! For whatever reason, we each have our own preferences and are in our own relationships, good or bad. While it would be an absolute fantasy (or is it a fallacy?) to be a total hedonistic fucking machine, I'm not. We all have our own code of ethics, insecurities & hang ups. It's those little grey areas in our moral make up that makes things interesting.

Do we step across that line? Do I try something totally taboo & out of my nature?? Oooo... so tantalizing isn't it? That certain risk factor of being naughty is so wonderfully delicious!

It's just awfully fun at times when we stretch our bounds a bit & peer over that edge & wonder.

As far as your exhibitionistic streak, my sly little Belle, I find that very invigorating & dare I say it...it's a wee bit of a turn on.

 

[snowbond]

Goin back now to read other response I would totally do this if my lady wanted tooo

 

[mjp]

catching up

Very interesting thread that's developed.

Someone asked what AFF is a while ago (sorry it took so long to respond). AFF is adultfriendfinder.com which is an online personals site aimed at the sexually adventurous (ie: woman seeking couples, groups seeking men, etc.) So far, we've been on it a month (and it is pricy) and mostly just had horny men that didn't fit the description we asked for, and probably didn't even read the profile. That's the difference with people here...they READ!

The idea of watching and not participating is also a huge turn on, I think they call it "same room sex" or mutual masterbation. I think if someone thought they might be interested in a threesome but wasn't sure how they would feel if they actually had one, that would be a good way to find out.

mjp

 

[Savai]

I had a FFM experience before I was married, also MMF and umm a few other combinations, since being married I've asked my husband how he'd feel if another woman joined us for a night..

He laughs and won't take me seriously, I of course won't suggest the MMF, no chance he'd go for that.... hmmm wonder what that's about!

 

[mjp]

what that's about

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I wonder what that's about

It's about male insecurity and homophobia. Not necessarily fear of homosexuals, but fear of being thought of as a homosexual, which often means he has thought which he has opressed. Most people do have thought, in fact probably all guys have thoughts, its just a question of how many and what they do with them.

But as for him not taking you seriously, maybe he thinks you're testing him or just toying with him. Does he know about your past experiences before him? If not, that would be a good place to start. Then find out something about his past in return...

mjp

 

["angel" eve]

threesomes and bisexuality

a note specifiaclly for LadyOfTheMist and anyone else who takes interest :
i took an interest in watching women for 4 years of my life before i came to call myself bisexual. i did not take an interest in them sexually, but i found femlaes more arrousing than males. don't get me wrong i loved looking at a good looking guy, but in an erotic context i would/and still do only look at females. males aren't aestetically pleasing to me in the abstract of fantasy, but extremely erotic and enjoyalbe in real life.

in short, i don't give a damn about a cock unless i can touch it, stroke it, suck it. i don't give a damn about your masculine body unless it's against me.

 

["angel" eve]

threeways

my experiences with threeways have been with my girlfriend and a close male friend and playmate.

i had identified myself as bisexual prior to this so the idea of MFF didn't bother me at all. it was however, the first time i'd been involved with that male friend as a playmate. and the first time my girlfriend had been with anyone other than myself - first kiss with a guy, and a whole lot more.

fingers and tounges were well used, but no one had "sex" in that aspect.

for myself it was a pleasant experience. for my girlfriend it wasn't that great. she felt left out - a combinantion of low self esteem and largely inexperience. on a 2nd occasion we taught her how to give head to a male. it was fascinating, although not entirely erotic, and i was the one who finished him off with a more experienced tounge.

a threeway i'd love to get involved with but am having to leave in the fantasy relam is FFF, my girlfriend and a bi-curious mutual friend. discussing this idea brought me to the realisation that a 3-way between people who have differing levels of self-esteem in the sexual realm can be truly difficult. for example if one person is inexperience and feels inadequate they will easily end up ignored and the other 2 persons fingering each other and moaning. this is a sure recipie for hurt feelings, and a lack of enjoyment for all.

in conclusion: i'm bi, i'd have no problem with a MFF 3-way. but i've awlwayz prefered that idea to the fantasy of MMF anywayz. although... i know i can fuck 2 guys... and double penetration... now that could be interesting...

 

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Re: threeways

discussing this idea brought me to the realisation that a 3-way between people who have differing levels of self-esteem in the sexual realm can be truly difficult. for example if one person is inexperience and feels inadequate they will easily end up ignored and the other 2 persons fingering each other and moaning. this is a sure recipie for hurt feelings, and a lack of enjoyment for all.

Exactly. I have always been the 3rd person in threesomes. The unattached friend who joins a couple. It has always been disaster. Since it was not something that is set up in advance but just happened, there was no discussion about what was OK and what was not. I just assumed that I was having regular ol' sex with 2 other people instead of just 1. The other woman didn't think/feel that way and feelings were hurt. I am pretty uninhibited and don't have any sexual hangups (OK I just can't understand necrophilia but that is another thread entirely). I think that for threesomes to work out for everyone MMM, MMF, FFM, FFF, you probably have to have a level playing field and everyone has to have a similar sense of what is happening. Not easy.

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[Minout]

Re: catching up

Sorry posted twice. How do I do that. Must be some kind of technically retarded gift or something.



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[Minout]

Re: catching up

Very interesting thread that's developed.

Someone asked what AFF is a while ago (sorry it took so long to respond). AFF is adultfriendfinder.com which is an online personals site aimed at the sexually adventurous (ie: woman seeking couples, groups seeking men, etc.) So far, we've been on it a month (and it is pricy) and mostly just had horny men that didn't fit the description we asked for, and probably didn't even read the profile. That's the difference with people here...they READ!


mjp

I'm the one who asked and I appreciate the response, I couldn't imagine what the heck an "A" was. My mind was going off on all kinds of tangents.

Originally posted by spankableBelle


i could comfortably have sex in front of another woman while she got off on it...so long as she kept her hands to herself. i would be comfortable watching sex happen in front of me so long as my partner kept his hands to himself or me.

I think that I am just the opposite. When I was in University, a friend of mine wanted to make some money and not have to get a regular job and considered the prospect of working for an escort service (the kind that puts out not just goes to a function with you) or a strip club. We had a long conversation about this and I told her that I could sleep with someone for money much easier than I could strip for a room full of people. Somehow the being watch part freaks me out a little (OK a lot). Makes me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable in a way that performing any number of intimate acts does not. Maybe it's a passive vs. assertive thing.




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