Threesome

[tomwantstosee]

It seems good that both of you have the same preference! And you really are loveing eahc other. Wonderful.
And that you enjoy something many men dream of: Seeing your partner having sex with someone else. As far as I see in other threads this is not something many women would say- but maybe I read the wrong ones.
Yes, sex is sex and love is love, and loving sex is the best of all!

 

[aniowachick]

It seems good that both of you have the same preference! And you really are loveing eahc other. Wonderful.
And that you enjoy something many men dream of: Seeing your partner having sex with someone else. As far as I see in other threads this is not something many women would say- but maybe I read the wrong ones.
Yes, sex is sex and love is love, and loving sex is the best of all!

When him and I have sex, it is completely different then if we are with another woman. Him and I do a lot of kissing, eye contact etc. When we are with another woman or couple.. it is just hot sex and we will look at eachother and grin alot etc. It is truly erotic for us and sex after is fantastic for weeks.. just reliving it.

I worried things would change after the first time, would we feel different about each other etc? We didn't..... we talked about what we liked, what we didnt etc to make sure the next time was better for each of us. I asked if he liked being inside another woman, he said yes, it was great, but only because I was there and sharing it with him.. with out me, it wouldnt feel right.

 

[pantiedman]

he really has you buffaloed,

he gets to fuck other women but when it comes to you fucking other men,it's a bouble standard oh well if you will buy that more power to him ,i guess?

 

[aniowachick]

he gets to fuck other women but when it comes to you fucking other men,it's a bouble standard oh well if you will buy that more power to him ,i guess?

I can fuck other men if it is a couple we are with.


He doesnt get off on the idea of a threesome with another man.
We both get off on being with other women. Why should either of us do something we dont want too?
We should both enjoy ourselves, not just one of us right?

We both enjoy threesomes with women
We do NOT both enjoy threesomes with men.

Why not do something we both like right?

 

[tomwantstosee]

Although I still haven´t tried it in reality, I totally agree with aniowachcik: It should feel good and right for both- and this will be different for each couple.
I really like the way she describes their initial doubts, and how glad they are to have each other even if he´s inside another woman.

 

[tomwantstosee]

The last weeks were busy, and no progress so far.
Thanks for all the comments and pms- really appreciated.
If anybody wants to tell more about experiences or give advice- please feel more than wellcome!!!

 

[bak2daprimitive]

ive done a mmf

Hey im adam.. im a 22 year old married man with a 1yr old.

When i was engaged to my now-wife we lived in another town and were drinking a lot (we were 19 or something) with a mate of mine and his girl.

Well one night his girl was visiting her family 3 hours away but he came round for drinks.

It all started when i mentioned this awesome porno we had recently purchased.. so we put it on..
We were all drunk and my wife wanted to see us wank.. so we did (he was biggish.. 8 inches) and eventually it ended with him watching us fucking.

The second time it happened without his girl again.. we put a porn on, all got on the double foldout with her in the middle and within a half hour she was wanking both of us (with my encouragement).

Then when my mate says he needed to cum so my wife and i agreed to let him cum in her (with a condom of course).

needless to say i got the best 30 second blowjob in my life while he had sex with her then when he came i quickly came in her.



that was the first time. of about 6 or 7 in total.


my most memorable is when we spent a weekend at his new place.. we spent about 3 hours (the porn played through twice) on a mattress on his lounge floor sucking on my wife nipples and pussy.. tag teaming. She came about 4 times. Then we fucked her hard and long.. swapping in and out to delay cumming. we ended up needing lube coz she got dry coz it was like an hour of ramming.



Then it ended on our wedding day when he whispered "thanks for the sex" in her ear when we were about to head to the hotel. Dickhead

anyways ill do the questions for you now

1. Do you think it is better to meet someone who is not close/a stranger to avoid emotional confusion? Or a friend? Or may a club be a solution?
I think it depends on your situation but for us it was an evolution not a decision

2. Once you meet, how did you start?
already answered

3. Did it feel natural?
Yeah it did as we were all great mates

4. If one has an orgasm, how is it to carry on?
once we orgasm it ends.. much like "normal" sex.. hence paying attention to her first

5. What did you try? Oral and vaginal, or dp (and if yes, how?)?
Oral on her.. Vaginal on her oral on me (apparently his dick felt "weird")

6. Did both of you enjoy? Or was one part more intruiged and wanted more, but the other needs more time or so?
Both enjoyed

 

[Jessi22]

Having just turned 23 the other month, it looks as if my younger mind holds some differing opinions on this subject so I'll chime in and reply.

But first ... I think a subtle point lay's within Lizzie_Borden's post has gone unseen:

Holy crap. I'm glad you had fun and all, but if I was the wife in this situation, I would have just said yes, to make the husband squirm for being such a jackass.

I think in any relationship, more-so in a situation where you're going to bring other sexual partner into the relationship it's critical to be honest with each other. I am surprised no-one else has mentioned it, but above anything else to be honest with each other is the trump card.

I believe it's important to be honest. For example admitting that "Yes hun, the sex actually was better with him" shouldn't set your man on the back foot (after all, he is letting you fuck another man), but should fire him to step up his game. I think if the man with such honestly was to feel insulted, less of a man, etc, then the threesome wasn't a good idea to begin with.

Honestly leads to being happy with the relationship, and when issues do arise it allows partners to sort them out in an honest and truthful matter regardless if that issue is over a typical couples fight, or "Why does his dick feel better then mine?" type discussions.

1. Do you think it is better to meet someone who is not close/a stranger to avoid emotional confusion? Or a friend? Or may a club be a solution?

For my partner and I, close friends are almost always a must.

It eliminates a big portion of the threat of STDs, we can add a level of trust to our relationships which is important for my partner and I as I'm quite young and still at the stage in life where I like to have a drink, have a dance and hit-up the clubs, and that element of trust always has my best interest heart.

As for the emotional confusion, we find that it works for us. Love is love, and lust is lust, I love my partner and I feel lust for partners we share, and maintaing that distinction isn't about creating artificial barriers such as strangers, but being honest with each other in how you feel, what you want and listening to your partner.

When my relationship turned serious with my partner, I was honest that I've had threesome's in the past and that it was a constant fantasy of mine. The honestly of our relationship, combined with some exploration with both of our sexual desires lead to us finding a middle ground that we're both happy with - to both our satisfaction, that middle ground is almost entirely what each other wants and that's what makes our relationship so solid as we want exactly what the other desires.

2. Once you meet, how did you start?

The first time I had a threesome with my partner was after almost 2-years of dirty bed talk, role playing, conversations with the topic both playfully (the truth always comes out as a half joke) and serious talks. After those serious talks, I let him make the "Ok! Let's do it" call as he was the least experienced in this regard (i.e. hadn't had a threesome previously).

I let him set the situation, terms, and everything up. And I think that's important given he potentially with this being a new experience had the most to lose.

Our first experience in a nutshell was a night out at town and for all parties before we headed home and I was fucked that night by his best mate.

One of the things that my man identified before the first time was that even thou he knew I loved him inside and out, and while he didn't know what it was that he was looking for - there was something that had to 'click' in his mind for the experience to be a 100% success.

The clicking moment for my man in that first experience was when his mate was blowing inside my pussy. While I was soo turned on with the whole situation, it didn't stop me from having my eyes on my man watching the jealously rip through his body and that was the clicking point when he realised that even in that moment of ultimate satisfaction for me that above everything it was still about *him*.

3. Did it feel natural?

Surreal, fun, naughty, slutty, powering, lust and love. You feel every emotion.

4. If one has an orgasm, how is it to carry on?

I don't think anyone could answer this. It'll carry on how it carries on, and if it doesn't carry on, it'll end. This type of thing isn't a story line that has to be followed to the absolute dot.

5. What did you try? Oral and vaginal, or dp (and if yes, how?)?

First time was vaginal. I had agreed not to drink that night, and played every move to act the slutty, naughty girlfriend as my tipsy boyfriend and mate took turns fucking and watching.

6. Did both of you enjoy? Or was one part more intruiged and wanted more, but the other needs more time or so?

The first time, yes I wanted more. But we were both prepared that someone was going to want more, less, or nothing at all. You can't go into the first experience thinking you'll tick every box because if you do, you have the potential to really step on someone's foot.

Would be grateful for some shared experiences both from women and men.
Thank you in advance!

Hope my input helps. In conclusion I feel you need to be honest with each other, ensure your trust is well placed with each other and know the reasons why you both want a threesome.

Clear those points up and it's all green lights to a lot of fun!

Oh, another point I don't think I've mentioned. We talked *a lot* about what we'd do if either of us didn't like the experience. For me, it was simple as I only ever want to participate when I know *he* is having fun with the idea and that if he didn't want to continue I was 110% onboard as the second his interest is lost, my interest is lost.

For him, it was a little more complicated (given he was an engineer) but we both took the time (again, we talked about this for close to 2-years) but we both worked through it and came to an end that worked regardless of the outcome.

 

[tomwantstosee]

Jessi and Bac,
thank you so much for answering my questions, and telling your experiences.
Sometimes I wish I had been braver when as young as you are! I think it is good to accept the desires, and both of you did early on- great!
The way it devloped in Bac´s case is really nice and the feel I got when reading was indeed very natural. We only watch porn very occasionally, but it always turns on. I wouldn´t know if we could watch porn with friends!
As for Jessi I fully agree: It has to be an arrangement both are happy with. As said, we talk about it when we are hot, and sometimes explore the idea whithout being in bed (usually ending up there...), but so far we´re not yet there. I really am grateful for the female perspective- I think it is good to see that noone needs to feel "slutty" just for following desires. On the contrary: I think it is very honourable to accept and appreciate own and the partner´s wishes, feelings and desires. Good that you have a partner who likes exploring yours as well!

 

[CanCuple]

From a couples stand point...

We've had a number of FMF encounters, a MFFM encounter and even a MFM encounter.

1. Do you think it is better to meet someone who is not close/a stranger to avoid emotional confusion? Or a friend? Or may a club be a solution?

In our case, we met another couple on a swinger site, went for dinner and dancing etc, then back to their hotel for some playtime. We've had a few encounters when Mrs. CC would bring a girlfriend home for some playtime, but the best times we've had were when we went to an all adult resort and Mrs. CC picked up a few girls to play with there and we also found a very fun couple to play with. We actually became good friends with them.

2. Once you meet, how did you start?

In virtually every case, the women would start things off and then invite Mr. CC to join in. Oh, except the MFM one of course. In that case, Mrs. CC would start with Mr. CC or the other guy first, and then would invite the other to join in.

3. Did it feel natural?

Yes, VERY! well except the first time as it was something new.

4. If one has an orgasm, how is it to carry on?

Easy, with 3, if one has an "O", the other 2 can play for a bit to allow the 3rd some "recoup" time. LOL

5. What did you try? Oral and vaginal, or dp (and if yes, how?)?

We've tried them all! Mr. CC is particularly talented with his tongue, and the female partners we've had tend to really enjoy that! He also has had vaginal sex with most of our sexual partners, as has Mrs. CC.

Mrs. CC also enjoys oral stimulation both giving and getting. During the MFM encounter, she would pleasure one orally, while having vaginal sex with the other M, and on one such occasion she had a DP with Mr. CC in the rear exit, and the other guy in the front entrance.

6. Did both of you enjoy? Or was one part more intruiged and wanted more, but the other needs more time or so?

All but one of our shared experiences were enjoyable. Mr. CC suggests we should have more 3-ways more often! LOL (He's such a perv!)

Would be grateful for some shared experiences both from women and men.
Thank you in advance!

At first, it was a bit weird for Mrs. CC to see Mr. CC with another woman, But it didn't take long for her to get VERY aroused by it. Mr. CC thought he would have an issue watching Mrs. CC with another man (in the case of the MFFM and the MFM encounters), but was strangely OK with it, and as our sig pic suggests, finds it very stimulating in fact. http://serve.mysmiley.net/evilgrin/evilgrin0039.gif

 

[aniowachick]

Yeah, I really need another threesome.

Talking to the male half of the potential couple we have been speaking too, he has offered me that DP fantasy... Sooo... yeah Im excited. Get his wife off over and over.. then him and hubby will dp me

 

[tomwantstosee]

Hi,
seems that cancouple really was successful on websites- maybe it is easier for couples searching. It sounds very straightforward, but I assume you had it clear in your minds before you started. Guess that´s a crucial point...
And aniowachick, please let us know how it went! And if you enjoyed the DP...
Thanks!

 

[PoetessEm]

My boyfriend and I have explored a quasi-threesome with his best friend. My bf kinda directed and took some [classy] pics of it unfolding.

1. Do you think it is better to meet someone who is not close/a stranger to avoid emotional confusion? Or a friend? Or may a club be a solution?

Depends, for us it was something we both wanted to try, but I could not see myself with someone I didn't know. His best friend was the candidate because we all knew each other a long time.

2. Once you meet, how did you start?

Was awkward at first, but we kinda got in to it - foreplay and oral. Really depends on how comfortable you are with the other(s).

3. Did it feel natural?

Um...hmmm... at first, I was like I can't believe this is happening - but that changed.

4. If one has an orgasm, how is it to carry on?

Oh...it carries on...

5. What did you try? Oral and vaginal, or dp (and if yes, how?)?

Everything but dp.

6. Did both of you enjoy? Or was one part more intruiged and wanted more, but the other needs more time or so?

For us it was mutual.. I am used to shorter sex, and this was like 10x longer, so um... yeah.. was pretty min blowing.

 

[tomwantstosee]

Poetess,
Sounded like a very good and interesting experience.
Wow, and you took pics! Do you still enjoy looking at them? Both of you?
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Your bf must really trust his mate...

 

[candielove]

I agree, but would say that the one u are with always comes 1st. Plus also try it aleast twice, One w-a guy then with a girl. That way u both have the experince.

 

[tomwantstosee]

Have you tried both?
If so- which one did you prefer?

 

[Ex Princess]

Have you tried both?
If so- which one did you prefer?

I've tried both, I definitely had more fun with an MMF threesome.

When I did FFM, it seemed to be too exciting for him...

 

[tomwantstosee]

Great!
I don´t know why, but the idea of an MMF is very intruiguing- imagining her in the centre, having all for her pleasure... Was it like that for you?

 

[Ex Princess]

Great!
I don´t know why, but the idea of an MMF is very intruiguing- imagining her in the centre, having all for her pleasure... Was it like that for you?

That definitely was more pleasing for me. Basically was was just shared by two friends, they didn't do anything with each other but they took turns with me. It was exciting because they both performed differently so I really never knew what was next.

 

[tomwantstosee]

Was away a few days, so had no chance of answering earlier...
They "trook turns" on you- so you didn´t have both at once? I guess it was quite hot for the one "only" watching at a time, too. Would intruige me to watch a couple as well (which may lead to more? Has anyone expereience with this scenario?).
Would you like to have the expereince again, or do you have any other preferences with regards to threesomes?

 

[tomwantstosee]

Looking through all the answers to this thread it seems that the subject of threesomes is interest for both genders, and that people who have experience and who have fantasies only both read and enjoyed. And for me it definetively is very stimulating and inspiring!
I hope that more people share their thoughts, feelings and experiences, and hopefully it is encouraging for others and myself!

 

[SweetErika]

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[tomwantstosee]

Hi Erica,
maybe this seems boring for you- but not for me...
And yes, the question remains the same, but each answer here adds to the spice. I don´t want to be discouraging at all, by no means!
Would you like to add some new aspects?

My wife two days ago went swimming with a friend of hers, and afterwards they went for a shower. She today told me about how her friend is build, the size of her breasts etc, and this made my fantasies go off into another direction. Beforehand I did not consider a FFM, but perhaps because I know her friend the idea made me daydreaming...

 

[In Anticipation]

Hi Erica,
maybe this seems boring for you- but not for me...
And yes, the question remains the same, but each answer here adds to the spice. I don´t want to be discouraging at all, by no means!
Would you like to add some new aspects?

My wife two days ago went swimming with a friend of hers, and afterwards they went for a shower. She today told me about how her friend is build, the size of her breasts etc, and this made my fantasies go off into another direction. Beforehand I did not consider a FFM, but perhaps because I know her friend the idea made me daydreaming...

It will certainly make you look at your wife's friend differently from now on . . .

 

[ButtAnalMan]

That definitely was more pleasing for me. Basically was was just shared by two friends, they didn't do anything with each other but they took turns with me. It was exciting because they both performed differently so I really never knew what was next.

Was it a DP?