My dear Mizz K,
Just wondering, have you ever tried the "scissoring" with a man? You on your side, he straddles your lower thigh and lifts one leg straight up his body then enters. i had an ex-partner who said that always gave her the deepest penetration and left her two fingers, or two of his fingers, free to pay close attention to the clit as well as having fingers left over for some well lubricated anal antics?
Just as a matter of interest, naturally.
Deeply respectful, as always,
D.