Thoughts on virginity...

[Eve_xo]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

 

[AdamHaigh13]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

perhaps waiting for the right person.is not a bad idea...though having sex is amazing.

 

[PhilGarlic]

my advice

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

Only do it when YOU want to, not pressure from others.
Is enjoying your youth linked to virginity? it may throw up a lot of problems that stop you enjoying your youth.

 

[ty5550]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

I'm in the same boat as you. I'm 21 and still a virgin. When I was younger I was also told to wait until marriage, thus that's what I believed in until I grew up and opened by eyes to the world. I would totally have sex before marriage, but I'm waiting for the right person and the right time as well. I'm not really the one night stand type of guy even though I love to tease and flirt and I do cyber every so often.

 

[cockneydick]

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[goesallnight]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

In general having sex with the right person in the right situation is far better than not. It does not matter if you are a virgin or not. That being said, if you are a virgin, then the right person has to be "more right" in some ways. They have to understand you are a virgin and really take care to make your first experience a good one and know how to do that well.

Sex is can also be far better if there is an emotional and loving component, so doing it with a boyfriend for whom you have a lot of feelings can be wonderful, but this is not necessary.

The main thing is, make sure you go very slowly, both in selecting someone and the actual act. Make sure you are extremely worked up before you actually do it.

And the main main main thing is: trust your feelings at all times. If it does not feel right, then it's not and stop (with that person or with that act).

Best of luck on your journey!

 

[chellbarr]

Certainly nothing wrong with waiting. Wish I'd waited for someone special, rather than a drunken fumble. Ah, well, the impetuousness of youth...

 

[SweetDanny]

I think the old fashioned idea that you have a certain 'incense' or 'purity' that goes away when you 'lose your virginity' has no part in our modern society. Sex is a natural, enjoyable part of life. If you want to share physical experiences with someone, just go for it. For most people, 'losing it' isn't a big deal at all, looking back.

 

[SweetDanny]

* innocence

 

[chellbarr]

* innocence

You can edit posts.

 

[Debbie920]

I lost my virginity to a bf I was in love with and it was rubbish... we broke up soon after that but I was far to young. I don't think many people have the "special" love making when they lose it.

maybe you will never meet the right person and miss out on someone who is a close 2nd.... just don't worry about missing out coz to be honest it's just as fun on your own

 

[SecretRogue]

Alternative "youth enjoyment" options

I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth.

I am struggling to see how the fact that you are a virgin is an impediment to the enjoyment of youth. Even when ideas of waiting to have sex until you're married were more prevalent, young people have been doing fun, idiotic, irresponsible and wonderful things. Sure, the world is much "freer" now, but that doesn't mean not being a virgin is a requirement for enjoying your youth.

Go on a road trip. Find a safe place with friends, get drunk and make a movie so horrible (and probably inappropriate =P) that is can never be posted anywhere that anyone can see ever. Write a book. Go to a fan convention. Save your money and go on a random trip to another country. Make a best friend for life. Take a day trip to a nearby city you'd never thought to explore. Get in a fight (unless you're a ninja, this is not recommended, but you seem to be a fan of being a reckless youth, so I threw it in). Try your hand at being an artist. Play ALL THE SPORTS! Try becoming an internet sensation. Learn to program. Make an ad on Craigslist to find a movie buddy. Find a penpal from the other side of the world. The list goes on and on and on. The best part? None of these things are related in any way to virginity, present or not.

I'm nearing 21 (13 days! w00t!) and I am still a virgin. I wouldn't say that it has kept me from enjoying my youth, nor do I think it will prevent me from doing so in the future. Just sayin'.

 

[chellbarr]

I am struggling to see how the fact that you are a virgin is an impediment to the enjoyment of youth. Even when ideas of waiting to have sex until you're married were more prevalent, young people have been doing fun, idiotic, irresponsible and wonderful things. Sure, the world is much "freer" now, but that doesn't mean not being a virgin is a requirement for enjoying your youth.

Go on a road trip. Find a safe place with friends, get drunk and make a movie so horrible (and probably inappropriate =P) that is can never be posted anywhere that anyone can see ever. Write a book. Go to a fan convention. Save your money and go on a random trip to another country. Make a best friend for life. Take a day trip to a nearby city you'd never thought to explore. Get in a fight (unless you're a ninja, this is not recommended, but you seem to be a fan of being a reckless youth, so I threw it in). Try your hand at being an artist. Play ALL THE SPORTS! Try becoming an internet sensation. Learn to program. Make an ad on Craigslist to find a movie buddy. Find a penpal from the other side of the world. The list goes on and on and on. The best part? None of these things are related in any way to virginity, present or not.

I'm nearing 21 (13 days! w00t!) and I am still a virgin. I wouldn't say that it has kept me from enjoying my youth, nor do I think it will prevent me from doing so in the future. Just sayin'.

And after you've done that, do it all again.

 

[Debbie920]

I am struggling to see how the fact that you are a virgin is an impediment to the enjoyment of youth. Even when ideas of waiting to have sex until you're married were more prevalent, young people have been doing fun, idiotic, irresponsible and wonderful things. Sure, the world is much "freer" now, but that doesn't mean not being a virgin is a requirement for enjoying your youth.

Go on a road trip. Find a safe place with friends, get drunk and make a movie so horrible (and probably inappropriate =P) that is can never be posted anywhere that anyone can see ever. Write a book. Go to a fan convention. Save your money and go on a random trip to another country. Make a best friend for life. Take a day trip to a nearby city you'd never thought to explore. Get in a fight (unless you're a ninja, this is not recommended, but you seem to be a fan of being a reckless youth, so I threw it in). Try your hand at being an artist. Play ALL THE SPORTS! Try becoming an internet sensation. Learn to program. Make an ad on Craigslist to find a movie buddy. Find a penpal from the other side of the world. The list goes on and on and on. The best part? None of these things are related in any way to virginity, present or not.

I'm nearing 21 (13 days! w00t!) and I am still a virgin. I wouldn't say that it has kept me from enjoying my youth, nor do I think it will prevent me from doing so in the future. Just sayin'.

Awwww happy birthday for 13 days time

 

[1Browneyedguy]

all good advice

but I especially enjoyed the post by SecretRogue.


Enjoy life ! I do

 

[PeterBWilde]

I saw a shirt one day that stated "once you've ruined your reputation you may live much more freely". I would think the same goes for virginities, wouldn't you?

 

[1Browneyedguy]

btw Eve xo

and DO NOT post this question on the General Board.

for example.. when I first came to these Boards... I looked around and didn't know where to post so

I posted there.. A question about a possible story plot about Incest.

"I was told I was going to hell"

Most of the people here are pretty nice... look around! ask questions! ....

and enjoy life.

 

[leglicker]

chat

for EVE XO--------you pm'd me and i can't get back to you you need to open your pm's--------randy

 

[Eve_xo]

Sorry, I think I've fixed that now!

 

[Eve_xo]

Thanks everyone for your opinions! I think I'm just struggling because I have done everything else, and no longer have the same values I once had. Quite frankly I am incredibly frustrated/tempted. Going to another country or taking up a sport doesn't really have much to do with what I'm talking about, in my opinion. I can do and have done things to keep me preoccupied but nothing seems to matter.

 

[LimoAndPizza]

You know what I say? Fuck it. If you want to do it, do it. It's your body. It's your business. Don't let anyone else tell you what you should or shouldn't do. At least not until you're tied down to a family.

 

[goesallnight]

I lost my virginity to a bf I was in love with and it was rubbish... we broke up soon after that but I was far to young. I don't think many people have the "special" love making when they lose it.

maybe you will never meet the right person and miss out on someone who is a close 2nd.... just don't worry about missing out coz to be honest it's just as fun on your own

Yes, loving someone is often very helpful, but not necessary. And it's possible that your lover is very inexperienced which can lead to this situation. Better to have someone who knows what they are doing.

 

[goesallnight]

Thanks everyone for your opinions! I think I'm just struggling because I have done everything else, and no longer have the same values I once had. Quite frankly I am incredibly frustrated/tempted. Going to another country or taking up a sport doesn't really have much to do with what I'm talking about, in my opinion. I can do and have done things to keep me preoccupied but nothing seems to matter.

Follow your feelings and you will be fine.

 

[SecretRogue]

Thanks for the birthday wishes!

I'm not saying you can't do what you want to do. Not at all. I just don't think that it makes much sense to equate the loss of virginity with the enjoyment of youth. It's a scientific fact that after you lose your virginity, you are still you. No new super powers develop, confidence doesn't suddenly spring out of some previously undiscovered well within yourself and the world will still be as it was before you lost your virginity.

 

[uvaethan]

it's not something to get over

Try and share it with someone you care about...it'll mean more and i think you'll have more fun!

cheers!