Thoughts on virginity...

[LiFeNdEaTh]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

just do it, like nike.

 

[Eve_xo]

So I just want to clear a few things up from the PM's I've been getting. I'm not on here trying to lose my virginity, nor do I think that losing it will cause some crazy change in my lifestyle or personality. I'm kinda just curious if everyone thinks its worth waiting for someone special or if it's worth getting out of the way to just have some fun.

Yes my values have changed, I thought I wanted to wait until marriage and now the thought seems a little ridiculous. Especially considering my lifestyle at the moment and the fact that I do everything else.

Thanks for the feedback, I'm enjoying everyones thoughts!

 

[loveroflove]

my friend said she had sex just because *no names* and told me to wait till i was with the right guy, though this is sound advice i still wish i had someone to snuggle with! ugh

 

[jenn86]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

if you feel your ready, go for it.

 

[ratherabsurd1]

I waited until I was 25 .. It was worth it to me .. I am 51 now

 

[L8tnIt]

sometimes it isn't so wonderful

I got date-raped when I was 20.
At least after that, all of the rest of the occasions I have had sex my partners (and I) were consenting

 

[Lone_Wanderer]

So I just want to clear a few things up from the PM's I've been getting. I'm not on here trying to lose my virginity, nor do I think that losing it will cause some crazy change in my lifestyle or personality. I'm kinda just curious if everyone thinks its worth waiting for someone special or if it's worth getting out of the way to just have some fun.

Yes my values have changed, I thought I wanted to wait until marriage and now the thought seems a little ridiculous. Especially considering my lifestyle at the moment and the fact that I do everything else.

Thanks for the feedback, I'm enjoying everyones thoughts!

I have had thoughts on both sides of the fence.

Originally, I wanted to do the "wait for marriage" thing, but my hormones got the best of me, and at 19 I lost my virginity (to someone I met online, actually ).

Since then, I've had my share of fun, but I've only taken one girl's virginity. For some reason, I feel a bit guilty afterward. I've talked to a few virgins and post-virgins (here on Lit), and I guess the important thing I took away from it is that whoever you give it to, you'd want to be absolutely sure. Nothing could be worse than regretting your first time!

 

[Trixzee]

Just my two cents.

If you treat losing your virginity as a task to be crossed off of a to-do list you may find yourself, at a later date, utter a phrase similar to, "I wish I had waited for you."

Ultimately, the decision is yours and you should always do what feels right for you. I agree that, for many, the "state of being a virgin" doesn't carry the social weight that it has in the past. However it may carry some emotional weight for you in the future. Or, maybe not. Not everyone is as emotionally tied to their virginity as others. It is not for us to judge.

I fear I may have muddied the waters on this subject. If so, I made no post on this thread; these are not the droids you are looking for; pay no attention to the man behind the curtain... Oh, look over there!

 

[goesallnight]

If you treat losing your virginity as a task to be crossed off of a to-do list you may find yourself, at a later date, utter a phrase similar to, "I wish I had waited for you."

Ultimately, the decision is yours and you should always do what feels right for you. I agree that, for many, the "state of being a virgin" doesn't carry the social weight that it has in the past. However it may carry some emotional weight for you in the future. Or, maybe not. Not everyone is as emotionally tied to their virginity as others. It is not for us to judge.

I fear I may have muddied the waters on this subject. If so, I made no post on this thread; these are not the droids you are looking for; pay no attention to the man behind the curtain... Oh, look over there!

This is actually a very good post. I agree completely, do what feels right for you.

 

[Shadow701]

Felt compelled to add my own thoughts. I am 26, and still very much a V. Not due to choice, mind you. Just have not had much, if any, "success" with women. I've gotten almost every story you can think of when I try and pursue a woman I am interested in. Nice guy story, more like a brother, even got called the wrong color once.

Not having a good outlet for my sexual frustrations and urges is a large burden. Sometimes the sheer will it takes to move on and get past it is tremendous. I am not looking for a one night stand or anything, but damn, desperation can alter your view....

 

[nemike]

It Just Depends on...

What sex means to you...is it the physical arousal and orgasm you crave? Or the intensely personal and tender bonding with the other person that really has much more of an emotional underpinning?

If it's the former, then, if there's someone out there you're physically attracted to and they are available and they aren't a complete jerk or idiot, I would recommend taking the plunge.

If the first time for you holds an intensely emotional place in you, then wait.

Nothing new here. Just thought I'd offer my opinion. Regardless, I hope your first time (and every time afterwards), whenever and with whomever it is, is exciting, rewarding, erotic and exhilarating!

Open to discussion.

Cheers!

Mike

 

[Prince Albert]

For reasons I once cared about, I am still a virgin. However, lately I just want to get it over with and enjoy my youth. Any thoughts?

As said by others follow your feelings. It will only be "good" once. Be careful & don't waste it.

 

[Eve_xo]

Thanks for everyones thoughts and advice! Very helpful