This Time it's REAL

[~Dream~]

I know some of you will judge me harshly and call me a FOOL and inall liklihood I probably am .. I met and fell in love with a wonderful man online almost 5 mo's ago ..

During the time I spent with Him in ... I had the most beautiful ,weonderful time of my life ,was He the Perfect man well,close enought to perfect for me ,in His own words ,we *FIT* ,I KNOW that baby "..

 

[MissTaken]

It is in clear and direct violation of lit's policies to post a pm.

I would assume that artful wanted to handle this in private or else he would have done so publicly.

I am sorry for your pain.

I do wish you both the best.

Sometimes, things aren't meant to be.
Sometimes, it is a dream.....and we must wake up.

 

[Little Girl]

I am so sorry

Dream,

Having so recently experienced the pain of possibilities ending, I can understand how you are feeling. I hope things go well for you in the future. I am a believer that every person we meet in our lives, whether the experience is good, bad or indifferent they bring something into our lives (information, lessons, or guidance) and if we allow our minds and hearts to be open to it, we will take something positive away with us. I know the initial shock and pain can make it hard to see anything positive, but keep an open mind and you will find the positive in all of this.

It took me several days to find the positive in my experience and I was glad I was open enough to receive it.

Best wishes to you Dream and I hope you can maintain the friendship with Artful.

Good Luck - Sue and Christopher

 

[~Dream~]

yes Miss T

It is in clear and direct violation of lit's policies to post a pm.

I would assume that artful wanted to handle this in private or else he would have done so publicly.

I am sorry for your pain.

I do wish you both the best.

Sometimes, things aren't meant to be.
Sometimes, it is a dream.....and we must wake up.

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I AM SORY ABOUT BREAKIN the darn lit policies ,so sue me!
My heart is breaking and you speak of POLICIES TO ME? ,I CARE NOT to keep it private as our relationship and or lack of one has been made so from day 1 ,being online = NOT private at all ,MILLIONS OF PEOPLE READ THIS STUFF maybe i can help some other poor stupid ass little GIRL who thought she could turn her fantasies into REALITY ,huh? ya think?
I SURE AS HELL HOPE SO.

FUNNY so funny that I was TOLD by artful and 1 other good friend on the forum that I had "progressed so far in such a short time' ,those weRe obviously just all LIES .. set up to hurt me ,I hope it wss all fun ,for SOMEBODY out there cause it most certainly was not for me!!


ty little Girl but I have a 10 yr old boy to explain why his world just came crashing down to , but then that DOESNT really matter to anyone but me now ,does it?

 

[Rubyfruit]

Anybody want to join me in a shower?

 

[P. B. Walker]

Anybody want to join me in a shower?

<Raising hand> I feel really dirty too.

PBW

 

[~Dream~]

lmfao @ hijack the thread

wekll you 2 just GO FOR IT ,FUCK LIKE RABBITS OK? dont let any of us stop you!! ROFLMFAO at internet *UNCARING* SeeMS TO be going around tonite
oops excuse me I must go change my avy lol LOCATION ETC..

 

[Cirrus]

Uh...yeah. Me too. Room for one more?

Dream, I'm sorry you're hurting, really, I am, but how "real" can an LTR be when you've only met once? How well can you REALLY know the other person without frequent, in the flesh contact? And even in 5 months, there's still a lot to learn even if you were together in person.

I don't get the impression that artful meant to deceive you in any way. It just didn't work out. In his note he seems very regretful and considerate of your feelings.

I do agree with the others that this message should have remained private. If you do still respect artful, I suggest you edit your post and omit it.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I think the saying is usually: Fuck like bunnies. Not rabbits. And "uncaring" is usually the attitude you get when you "cry wolf" so often. JMHO. I could be wrong.

PBW

 

[~Dream~]

Re;Cirrus

Uh...yeah. Me too. Room for one more?

Dream, I'm sorry you're hurting, really, I am, but how "real" can an LTR be when you've only met once? How well can you REALLY know the other person without frequent, in the flesh contact? And even in 5 months, there's still a lot to learn even if you were together in person.

I don't get the impression that artful meant to deceive you in any way. It just didn't work out. In his note he seems very regretful and considerate of your feelings.

I do agree with the others that this message should have remained private. If you do still respect artful, I suggest you edit your post and omit it.

_________________

 

[~Dream~]

oops my bad?

I..

 

[Goddess Helena]

Dream, I am very sorry that this has come to be. I hope that you and Artful will both take time to heal. Perhaps in time, you will be able to return to your friendship.
From my experience, I can tell you that it is very difficult to speak calming with my boy when I am hurt or enraged. But I think that is better shared on another thread.
I wish you both peace.


Helena

 

[~Dream~]

ty Goddess

 

[RisiaSkye]

It could also be argued that "if one were TRULY in love with and in collared submission to a Dominant," past or present, they would NEVER go out of their way to publicly abase, criticize and humiliate that Dominant.

Dream, I'm sorry you're hurting, but in posting all this private information publicly, you are *way* out of line--both in terms of Lit policy, and in terms of general decorum. This is deeply unstable behavior. I fear for your safety and the safety of those close to you; you don't seem rational right now.

RS,
Resident Cynic
~~

 

[RisiaSkye]

Please stop posting private information and PM exchanges in a public venue.

Thank you,
RisiaSkye
Forum Moderator

 

[Ladybird]

Uh...yeah. Me too. Room for one more?

Dream, I'm sorry you're hurting, really, I am, but how "real" can an LTR be when you've only met once?

I'd love you to ask this question on the GB. I think you'd be stoned.

This isn't a very caring forum, is it.

 

[Desdemona]

I'd love you to ask this question on the GB. I think you'd be stoned.

This isn't a very caring forum, is it.

Ladybird, I have found the people of this forum to be extremely kind and supportive. You are looking at one specific situation out of the context of time and an understanding of the culture here. I regret that you and others feel differently.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I'd love you to ask this question on the GB. I think you'd be stoned.

This isn't a very caring forum, is it.

Not to mention the fact that they "break up" every other week.

PBW

 

[~Dream~]

sane? how dare you!

It could also be argued that "if one were TRULY in love with and in collared submission to a Dominant," past or present, they would NEVER go out of their way to publicly abase, criticize and humiliate that Dominant.

Dream, I'm sorry you're hurting, but in posting all this private information publicly, you are *way* out of line--both in terms of Lit policy, and in terms of general decorum. This is deeply unstable behavior. I fear for your safety and the safety of those close to you; you don't seem rational right now.

RS,
Resident Cynic
~~

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[~Dream~]

PBW

Not to mention the fact that they "break up" every other week.

PBW

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THAT wasnt FUNNY at all and with all undue respect ,you are an ASSHOLE .. This was My damn lifeyouso coldly and harshly make jokes of ,, maybe you DONT take artful SERIOUSLY at all ,but I did and Do shame on you and may what you bring to others only come back to bite YOU in the ass as well !!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Dream,
Truly sorry that it has come to this. I fully understand you are hurting right now. You have said that you are suicidal and going to the hospital. If you can see this in yourself, you owe it to your children to seek help immediately! Sign off the computer, stop alienating people by spewing venom at them for things that are not their fault, and get the help you need.

I'm not saying any of this to cause you more pain and suffering. But do you really want to keep attacking everyone? The one you are mad at is Art, not the rest of these people, not even me.

You do what will help you now. Forget about the rest of it for a while, it only causes more harm than good. You have children to think about too you know.

Of course, this is just my opinion, not meant to flame or hurt.

dixi

 

[Lancecastor]

Dream;

Good luck; love your children; take your meds.

This too will pass.

Sincerely

Lance

 

[Cirrus]

Example: It was helpful I gather for Cirrus to talk about her breakup and HIV test in two theads. I hope her heart heals fast and obviously I'm glad to hear's she's in fine health. But some of what she was doing with those threads was self-indulgent, not BDSM centered ....what I call a "Therapy Thread". I made a couple of quips, Cirrus ignored them and we all move on. I got my giggle, she got her therapy...you know? I feel the same about Cirrus as I always have. One breakup or a rough week won't change that.

Exactly. Lance, I take your comments in the spirit they were meant in. We all, obviously myself included, need to "get it out" once in a while and vent. Since venues like these are relatively anonymous, it's easy, safe and comforting to speak personally, get feedback and opinions from people that don't know you well, and as such will be relatively neutral. Though we may be involved in the bdsm lifestyle, we're still human and we have bad patches. It's good to know that we can vent every now and then in this little community of ours.

I'm not the only one that has been a little self indulgent and off topic around here, and I won't be the last. But there is quite a difference between the occcasional personal, OT post and what you are doing here, Dream. I and others posted ONE thread about whatever was going on in our lives, got our feedback, made some comments, handled it and moved on.

This will sound cold, but I mean it to be an opinion of what I perceive as fact rather than an insult or a put down. Dream, you have larger issues here than your breakup with artful. I read words like "I would do anything" and see someone who is lonely, emotionally insecure, and in need of attention. There is no master, or any relationship that can give you what you desire. Your needs are too great for that. You say "no questions asked" and deride your own emotions to hold on to this relationship that has either failed or is in SERIOUS jeopardy.

I care about everyone's well being here, Dream, and that includes yours. But you are giving up your personality, your safety, your sanity, for this relationship. We all want to be cared about by someone above all others, that's natural, but we need to have a sense of self in there too. You seem to have lost that long before artful came into the picture.

You need to get help. I hope, by this time you have or have made arrangements to do so. Until you do, you will not be healthy in any relationship, and that includes the one with your children. I wish you the best.

 

[Cirrus]

I'd love you to ask this question on the GB. I think you'd be stoned.

This isn't a very caring forum, is it.

Yes, it is. When I've needed support I've gotten it. Those that don't support me, like me, or respect me have done the mature thing and ignored what I have to say.

And that's why I don't post on the GB any more. There's a witch hunt and subsequent stoning over there every other day.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Yes, it is. When I've needed support I've gotten it. Those that don't support me, like me, or respect me have done the mature thing and ignored what I have to say.

And that's why I don't post on the GB any more. There's a witch hunt and subsequent stoning over there every other day.

~nodding my head in agreement~ You are absolutely correct, Cirrus.