This is fucked up.

[Guest]

I was out of town last week. My wife hooked up with a friend of ours, male, and went bar hopping. They wound up at a gay bar where they met a lez. The three of them got it on together. Wife has been honest with me about this. In fact, when she told me about it we both got so turned on we had to fuck. You're probably thinking, "So, what's the problem?". Well, I'm not sure. I have this uneasy feeling of being left out. And, I'm afraid of where this may be going. She said she doesn't expect it will happen again, but, you never know. We used to be swingers but have been out of the life style for some years. I'm not sure I want to jump back in. Actually, I do but I'm afraid I won't be as welcome as I once was when I was young and fit. Any advise?

 

[willfulbrat]

Be careful, sweetheart. Poly comes with it's own set of problems, even in the most open and loving relationships. The way you expressed yourself here was very open and nonjudgemental. Have you said that to her, that you're not sure if you want to go back to swinging, and you're concerned about being left out? If she knew you were feeling insecure, maybe she'd understand.

I wish I could give you better advice. *hugggs*

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Advise? Sure......

Get back in shape......

And demand to be equally included - sharing the experience.

 

[rambling man]

be honest with yourself and her....is this something you want? If not, then tell her. Maybe she'll understand and stop. If not, you have to be happy, so tough decisions will have to be made, by you or her.