Thirtysomethings
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Or did someone paint the rocks and weeds green, or put down articficial turf so it looks great from a distance. Some times the things that look so great end up being merely mirages.
I have to admit to finding my 30's my best decade yet. I am 35 and really feel that I have grown into who I am and am finally here. I am happily married, have a lovely home, good family and friends and am comfortable. I am happy with my personality and looks.
I am more open minded and sexually confident than ever. If people like me great... if they dont, well it's their loss. I have learnt to say No on occasion, instead of always trying to please others regardless of whether it suited me or not.
I have taken the kicks that life threw at me in my 20's and hopefully turned them around into positives! As my siggy line says "don't let your past dictate who you are... but let it be a part of who you become"!
I like being in my 30's!!!
I am more open minded and sexually confident than ever. If people like me great... if they dont, well it's their loss. I have learnt to say No on occasion, instead of always trying to please others regardless of whether it suited me or not.
I have taken the kicks that life threw at me in my 20's and hopefully turned them around into positives! As my siggy line says "don't let your past dictate who you are... but let it be a part of who you become"!
I like being in my 30's!!!
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Saoirse said:I have to admit to finding my 30's my best decade yet. I am 35 and really feel that I have grown into who I am and am finally here. I am happily married, have a lovely home, good family and friends and am comfortable. I am happy with my personality and looks.
I am more open minded and sexually confident than ever. If people like me great... if they dont, well it's their loss. I have learnt to say No on occasion, instead of always trying to please others regardless of whether it suited me or not.
I have taken the kicks that life threw at me in my 20's and hopefully turned them around into positives! As my siggy line says "don't let your past dictate who you are... but let it be a part of who you become"!
I like being in my 30's!!!
Loving my thirties also....
Loving your Jack and Jilling story too....
needing to work on my hard on
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Not where I wanted to be, but it's been a hell of a lot of fun getting here just the same.
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Great thread!
I'm 31, and I can remember people in high school talking about how we were, at that time, experiencing the best years of our lives. What bull--I think I'm doing that right now. What a ride it's been!
After college and graduate school, I worked in academia for a little while, which is what I had wanted to do when I graduated. By the time I started working, however, I had a child, and I HATED leaving her every day. I was in a situation where I HAD to work, and I resented that. At the same time, my ex-husband, the charter member of the Existential-Crisis-of-the-Month-Club, wasn't where he thought he'd be after going through five years of college and trying out four different majors (he was working for a small-town newspaper, but he wanted to be a teacher). The demise of my first marriage came about, in part, because we started harboring resentments toward each other. I wanted to stay home with the baby, and he wanted to get out of journalism. Interestingly enough, my ex and I are now doing the things we wanted to do--we're just not doing them together.
Before I had my kids, I never imagined that I'd be happy as a stay-at-home mom, but I'm truly enjoying every minute of it! Even though I've had former co-workers comment on how I'm "wasting" my education, I don't see it that way. Sure, I have student loans from grad school (which will be gone in 3 1/2 years or less). But I don't regret the decisions I've made.
I'm 31, and I can remember people in high school talking about how we were, at that time, experiencing the best years of our lives. What bull--I think I'm doing that right now. What a ride it's been!
After college and graduate school, I worked in academia for a little while, which is what I had wanted to do when I graduated. By the time I started working, however, I had a child, and I HATED leaving her every day. I was in a situation where I HAD to work, and I resented that. At the same time, my ex-husband, the charter member of the Existential-Crisis-of-the-Month-Club, wasn't where he thought he'd be after going through five years of college and trying out four different majors (he was working for a small-town newspaper, but he wanted to be a teacher). The demise of my first marriage came about, in part, because we started harboring resentments toward each other. I wanted to stay home with the baby, and he wanted to get out of journalism. Interestingly enough, my ex and I are now doing the things we wanted to do--we're just not doing them together.
Before I had my kids, I never imagined that I'd be happy as a stay-at-home mom, but I'm truly enjoying every minute of it! Even though I've had former co-workers comment on how I'm "wasting" my education, I don't see it that way. Sure, I have student loans from grad school (which will be gone in 3 1/2 years or less). But I don't regret the decisions I've made.
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Hi all thirtysomethings
I am approx 4 months from my 31st b-day which, may indeed prove more emotionally devastating than my 30th!
*sigh*
Does it get any better?
I am approx 4 months from my 31st b-day which, may indeed prove more emotionally devastating than my 30th!
*sigh*
Does it get any better?
pleasteasme
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PG13 said:
OK, so only a few more years to wait
Thanks PG
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I think life gets better as you know yourself better and seek to grow and change. For me that's been the first part of my 30s (I'm 34) but for others it could be their 40s or 70s. Who knows? I think there's always something to look forward to. I hope you and everyone have plenty to look forward to throughout your 30s and the rest of your life...
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34 year old (35 in 6 days) mom of two teenage boys checking in here. I have to say that I am liking my second youth better than my first. I spent most of my teens trying to be a grown-up and the better part of my 20's trying to escape being a grown-up!
Now, I've faced facts and allowed maturity and reason to set in but still wanna play. Only difference is now I know when it's time to be real. I definitly stay out of trouble more now!
Yep, for me the 30's have added new found knowledge of interesting ways to have fun!
xoxoxo
Now, I've faced facts and allowed maturity and reason to set in but still wanna play. Only difference is now I know when it's time to be real. I definitly stay out of trouble more now!
Yep, for me the 30's have added new found knowledge of interesting ways to have fun!
xoxoxo
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Anyone notice the dramatic reduction in our ages? Even though my birthday (year) is correct on my profile......it says I am 27 not 30! Does this mean I am in the wrong thread
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I noticed the age reduction thing too. Upon revisiting my profile, it is the first number in thw age range that we were asked for. So it will show everyone on the low end of teh range
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Damn Saoirse, This Exactly where I am at!!
I love your quote, My kicks in the head in Life have definitely made me who I am today; which I honestly like and am proud of these days.
and remember no what your past has in it - your future has a clean slate
At 37 - I too am finding my 30's to be the best darn years I have had yet.
Perspective is one of the secrets to life - and the Serenity Prayer.
Snasu - I love this, Now adays I dont even think the pastures afar are enticing , I am content where I am at.
As you say - Not always perfect - But I swear It gets closer and better all the time! I think that has to do w/ alot; maturing, more financial secure, more emotionally secure, more open minded......
Great day to Everyone
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I often feel "behind schedule" from where I thought things should be at my age and in comparison to my younger sister. Yet I would never want to be where she is either or have gotten there in the way that she did. I had definately hoped to be married by now, with a child or 2 and the happy homelife with my husband. But instead I am single, 33 yrs. old, childless and really starting to wonder if the path I had hoped to take is not the path that was meant for me. I know my own personality has played a part in this. I am pretty shy, quiet, a bit of a home body and frankly hate the games and drama associated with dating but realize it will be a necessity if I choose to change my path. Hmm.. ok I'm finding this thread a bit depresing now...lol
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PG13 said:
We are in good company then
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Recently I helped out with my daughters' Valentine's Day parties and I'm kind of amused by the fact that, at 31, I'm actually one of the OLDER moms! However, when I took childbirth preparation classes before my oldest daughter was born, I was the YOUNGEST mom by about 4 years--at 24.
Perhaps it's the difference between living in the suburbs and living in a more rural area?
Perhaps it's the difference between living in the suburbs and living in a more rural area?
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boston_bbw said:
Ummmm, can I tell you I have the same feelings at times. Especially when one of my single female friends brings it up?!
As many have pointed out to me.....look at it as an opportunity (I'm still working on this one). However, as you said....given the choice of not being where I am at now....to have what is deemed as the "American Dream" (2.5 kids, mortgage, dog) I would choose what I am doing. No doubt, sometimes, I wonder ~ but I am confident I made the right decisions *for me* along the way.
Chin up girl!!!! Just when you think things are going bad for you please, remember that they could always be worse.
