Thinking of taking the bondage plunge (again)

[MeganFachs]

So, I’m thinking strongly this morning about asking my lover (outside of marriage with full awareness of my cuckold sissy hubby) to put me into bondage. I own everything I want him to use. It would include strapping my hitachi wand to my pussy, muffled a little, to give me forced orgasms while he could do whatever he wanted to me.

I want to feel truly out of control, properly bound that I could not escape until he unlocked the locks. I have experienced this only a few times in my life but would have more if the relationship with that guy had survived.

Sissy, bless her heart, does not have it in her.

I toy with this doing self-bondage often, get myself almost “no going back” bound but I want to push past that edge.

Any advice?

 

[Dom70]

Go for it!~ Enjoy !!!
Self bondage is "ok"...but having that Dom take charge gives it a feeling of "real bondage" in this case I think.

 

[MeganFachs]

Go for it!~ Enjoy !!!
Self bondage is "ok"...but having that Dom take charge gives it a feeling of "real bondage" in this case I think.

Exactly

 

[Cruelsmile5]

Self bondage is hot, but if your lover knows how far to take forced orgasms you’ll have delightful convulsions that accompany being shattered by repeated forced orgasms.

 

[Dom70]

Exactly

Would love to "help you" with that! (grin) Best of luck!

 

[MeganFachs]

Self bondage is hot, but if your lover knows how far to take forced orgasms you’ll have delightful convulsions that accompany being shattered by repeated forced orgasms.

That’s what I am aiming for.

 

[babygirl4u1966]

So, I’m thinking strongly this morning about asking my lover (outside of marriage with full awareness of my cuckold sissy hubby) to put me into bondage. I own everything I want him to use. It would include strapping my hitachi wand to my pussy, muffled a little, to give me forced orgasms while he could do whatever he wanted to me.

I want to feel truly out of control, properly bound that I could not escape until he unlocked the locks. I have experienced this only a few times in my life but would have more if the relationship with that guy had survived.

Sissy, bless her heart, does not have it in her.

I toy with this doing self-bondage often, get myself almost “no going back” bound but I want to push past that edge.

Any advice?

I can't imagine self bondage being anywhere near as enjoyable as someone doing it to you. Especially if you are hoping for edging and someone controlling your orgasms. However that being said, someone that was into it once told me she puts the key to the cuffs in an ice cube, has the ice cube within reach, and she can't undo the cuffs till the ice melts. Although I guess you have to use real handcuffs for that, that don't have the safety release.

 

[Purple_Fronds]

So, I’m thinking strongly this morning about asking my lover (outside of marriage with full awareness of my cuckold sissy hubby) to put me into bondage. I own everything I want him to use. It would include strapping my hitachi wand to my pussy, muffled a little, to give me forced orgasms while he could do whatever he wanted to me.

I want to feel truly out of control, properly bound that I could not escape until he unlocked the locks. I have experienced this only a few times in my life but would have more if the relationship with that guy had survived.

Sissy, bless her heart, does not have it in her.

I toy with this doing self-bondage often, get myself almost “no going back” bound but I want to push past that edge.

Any advice?

I think the lover approach would work well, from your other posts he seems like he would enjoy that and be willing to learn what he needs to do from a safety standpoint. You also have the benefit of your husband who might not be able to do it himself but can act as a trusted protector. As always safety first and ensure you have signals figured out in advance. I would also suggest that you put a time limit on the first time regardless, then there’s no ambiguity and you’ll have information for the next time. Good luck

 

[MeganFachs]

I think the lover approach would work well, from your other posts he seems like he would enjoy that and be willing to learn what he needs to do from a safety standpoint. You also have the benefit of your husband who might not be able to do it himself but can act as a trusted protector. As always safety first and ensure you have signals figured out in advance. I would also suggest that you put a time limit on the first time regardless, then there’s no ambiguity and you’ll have information for the next time. Good luck

Thanks sweetie. I did have a safety call from Hubby where I had to provide a keyword if things were great and a false keyword if he needed to come back fast. Things went great, Vendor learned quick and was thoughtful. He also came in me three times so he was very happy.

 

[MeganFachs]

I can't imagine self bondage being anywhere near as enjoyable as someone doing it to you. Especially if you are hoping for edging and someone controlling your orgasms. However that being said, someone that was into it once told me she puts the key to the cuffs in an ice cube, has the ice cube within reach, and she can't undo the cuffs till the ice melts. Although I guess you have to use real handcuffs for that, that don't have the safety release.

I should keep the ice trick in mind!

 

[Chazwill]

Thanks sweetie. I did have a safety call from Hubby where I had to provide a keyword if things were great and a false keyword if he needed to come back fast. Things went great, Vendor learned quick and was thoughtful. He also came in me three times so he was very happy.

I think we need a full recap of the latest Vendor encounter

 

[MeganFachs]

Check out my primary thread: So… that happened.

I think this link will work: https://forum.literotica.com/threads/so…-that-happened…-megan’s-thread.1598539/page-13#post-98945297

 

[Yarglenurp]

I see a lot of pluses and almost no minuses. Is there any reason to not ask your play partner to help scratch this itch of yours?

 

[MeganFachs]

My husband? It is not in his nature in several ways. Least of all (lol) doing this with another man gives me a bigger cock to enjoy.

 

[Yarglenurp]

My husband? It is not in his nature in several ways. Least of all (lol) doing this with another man gives me a bigger cock to enjoy.

No, I mean you say that you have a lover, and you list a lot of things you'd benefit from having your lover put you in bondage. You don't seem to list any drawbacks. So... yes, tell your lover to tie you up, whip you, etc. You've listed no reason to not do so.

 

[MeganFachs]

I did last Saturday and he performed like a champ!

 

[The_Carrie]

I think the lover approach would work well, from your other posts he seems like he would enjoy that and be willing to learn what he needs to do from a safety standpoint. You also have the benefit of your husband who might not be able to do it himself but can act as a trusted protector. As always safety first and ensure you have signals figured out in advance. I would also suggest that you put a time limit on the first time regardless, then there’s no ambiguity and you’ll have information for the next time. Good luck

What would be your advice to someone approaching this the first time. A photographer asked to photograph me tied up and I'm curious what advice you'd have?

 

[MeganFachs]

That

I did last Saturday and he performed like a champ!

I saw that lover three more times but he ghosted me so he’s not an option any more. Need to find a new guy I can trust to truss me up for forced orgasms.

 

[Purple_Fronds]

What would be your advice to someone approaching this the first time. A photographer asked to photograph me tied up and I'm curious what advice you'd have?

I think the main advice is to be detailed and have an idea of what you want or what you’re keen to explore, communication is always key.

The photography part would concern me more than the bondage because of the privacy concerns, is being photographed something that appeals to you and are you comfortable with it being public. I think it’s important for you to establish with him what you both want out of the photos. As I’m sure you know the photos will belong to him and he’s allowed to do what ever he wants with them unless you agree on something different. If he is a professional photographer then his standard contract will most likely reinforce this fact, so do not sign anything you’re not comfortable with. I’m happy to discuss alternative approaches if that helps.

In regards to being tied up, is this your fantasy and are there other components to it. Also, when you think of being tied up how do you imagine it, what ever it is it’s helpful to have an idea of what you have in mind and be able to express it. In terms of other components is being tied up the bondage the main objective or is the entry point for other play such as impact play, sex, or to help in pushing you into a submissive state.

I love using bondage on women but it’s usually as a part of her being submissive, turned on, fucked etc.

In terms of out and out safety I would always recommend above all listen to your gut, ensure the person knows what their doing and you have safe words agreed upon, s trusted friend knows exactly where you are and that you have pre-arranged call ins to ensure that you’re still safe, these should be voice verified with an agreed word you can use if you’re in the distress.

I’m happy to provide more details if you want to pm me, as this is already s lengthy post.

This spring I met up with somebody from
Lit for an evening of bdsm fun, we used all these methods and more to ensure she was as safe as possible, and a wonderful time was had by both of us, but the months leading up to it was very fun too as we learnt about each other and figured out what each other wanted from the night. As I was the person dominating, the information she gave me was invaluable and help it to be very special.