The Weekly Weigh-in Thread.

[Cherrysweetdeal]

For me, the key factor right now is not to deny myself. That just leads to feeling angry, hating myself, and other bad things...like binges. I haven't given myself leeway to eat anything, anytime. But I have really come to believe that denial is not the path to success.

This is true Etoile what I also find that helps is if you do crave something like icecream or a dairy queen treat or something, if you share it with someone you will only get half the calories and you fill the craving at the same time.

Atleast thats what I find.

 

[WriterDom]

That just leads to feeling angry, hating myself, and other bad things...like binges. .

But, but, but, we all you no matter how much you weigh.


I think there is a lot of self hate going on with weight issues. When society, or loved ones, "pile on" an overweight person it just makes them worse.

I think Etoile is attractive as she is. But think of the self hate she'd have if she gained 100 pounds.

 

[Etoile]

But, but, but, we all you no matter how much you weigh.


I think there is a lot of self hate going on with weight issues. When society, or loved ones, "pile on" an overweight person it just makes them worse.

I think Etoile is attractive as she is. But think of the self hate she'd have if she gained 100 pounds.

Yikes, now that would be scary! That would be a major percentage of my weight now, which is 165.

And you know what? You're right, people do love me no matter how much I weigh. And yet I would hate it if I gained weight. I know because I love my wife and I think she is gorgeous and sexy even though she is very overweight. But I know that she doesn't like being overweight. She's in the habit of changing clothes in her walk-in closet, because she's embarrassed to be seen, even though she knows I love her the way she is. It's just an inner embarrassment and loathing that comes with the territory.

And thanks, WD. http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/kissyface.gif

 

[WriterDom]

It's too bad you can't get your wife on a diet. You could be diet buddies instead of having to watch her eat her treats. But I know she would have to come to that decision herself. Like I said on the other thread, in so many words, an overweight person knows they are overweight. Any pressure to change from someone usually has a negative, not a positive result.

The problem is obesity gets worse with age. Especially after 30. If you are overweight at 30, chances are you are going have real problems at 40 and even more at 50. And you don't have to eat more for that to happen. Your body just slows down.

 

[WriterDom]

Happiness is weighing less even before your morning bowel movement.

 

[WriterDom]

So how do you determine your goal weight? I'd have to be a marathon runner to be what my weigh-in site says I should weigh.

I just pulled out a round number that sounded good. Maybe I'll post pics. Naked even.

Seriously though, I guess you'd go by body fat percentage.

 

[Etoile]

Happiness is weighing less even before your morning bowel movement.

Gotta agree with you there! (Although I don't usually weigh myself before, only after.)

As for goal weight, I'd say it's whatever you want it to be. Setting goals is personal. If you feel you'd be healthy at 175, but the charts say your goal is 150, why push yourself to lose an additional 25 lbs? It's about how you feel and what you're satisfied with, more than the charts. Of course, the charts can be a guideline, I'm sure they're there for a reason, but if you look at it and say "that's way too low" then you should go with whatever feels right to you.

This doesn't apply the other way, though. Anorexics feel that "right" is somewhere well below their chart weight. It's just as dangerous (if not more so) to weigh too little as it is to be obese.

 

[WriterDom]

I do weight train as well. And the accepted standards don't take in consideration muscle mass. By the bmi index there are guys who are obese, but have less than 10% body fat.

 

[WriterDom]

I think I need to start taking my fiber drink more. The South Beach Doc says it's a good idea at every meal.

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

So how do you determine your goal weight? I'd have to be a marathon runner to be what my weigh-in site says I should weigh.

I just pulled out a round number that sounded good. Maybe I'll post pics. Naked even.

Seriously though, I guess you'd go by body fat percentage.

I guess I go by what my bmi should be... but since I"m in a healthy range right now.... being at 154 and 5'11 is pretty damn good in my opinion though my weight is a hell of a lot of muscle mass to so.

It's the whole idea that muscle weighs more then fat. So you could be losing fat but gaining muscle and equalling out all the same each week.

 

[Etoile]

I guess I go by what my bmi should be... but since I"m in a healthy range right now.... being at 154 and 5'11 is pretty damn good in my opinion though my weight is a hell of a lot of muscle mass to so.

It's the whole idea that muscle weighs more then fat. So you could be losing fat but gaining muscle and equalling out all the same each week.

You are 5'11" and trying to lose from 154? Damn, I would have thought that was pretty much normal!

And yet...I know what it's like when somebody tells you "oh, I would kill to be your weight," or "you don't need to lose weight" - whether someone ELSE thinks you should lose weight isn't what matters. (Again, this does not apply to anorexics, that's a different story.) When you feel like you need to lose weight, and somebody says "oh no you don't," that doesn't change how YOU feel. {{hugs}}

Hey WD - What's a fiber drink? Like Metamucil? Are you not allowed to have normal fiber-containing foods on South Beach? I've never had a problem getting my USRDA of fiber, but I've never done low-carb.

Speaking of the USRDA - if the nutrition facts label is for someone who is on a 2000-cal diet, and I'm on a 1500-cal diet, that means it's a greater percentage for me, right? So if something is 38% of fat intake for a 2000-cal diet, it could be like 50% for mine, or if something has 25% of calcium intake for a 2000-cal diet, it could be 30% for mine? (Numbers are hypothetical.)

 

[WriterDom]

You can have unlimited vegetables. As long as their Glycemic Index is on the low side. No beets, potatoes, or corn even on phase 2.

Here is the quote from the book:

"Here is a tip that will lower the glycemic index of any meal Fifteen minutes before you begin eating, have a spoonful of Metamucil in a glass of water. It's true, this is nomally intended as a mild laxitive. But it is simply psyllium, which is fiber- nosoluble fiber. When you swallow that spoonful, the fiber forms a slippery lump which makes its way through your digestive tract, clearing out anything in its path. When you take some before eating, the fiber gets mixed in with the food and has the effect of slowing the speed with which your stomach digests what you've eaten."

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

You are 5'11" and trying to lose from 154? Damn, I would have thought that was pretty much normal!

And yet...I know what it's like when somebody tells you "oh, I would kill to be your weight," or "you don't need to lose weight" - whether someone ELSE thinks you should lose weight isn't what matters. (Again, this does not apply to anorexics, that's a different story.) When you feel like you need to lose weight, and somebody says "oh no you don't," that doesn't change how YOU feel. {{hugs}}

Thanks Etoile. Yea 154 is a healthy weight but when it comes down to it at this point it is all about toning. I was never really overweight highest I got was 165, its just that extra little bit of soft that I don't need could go away. When it comes down to it I'd like to be soft and huggable still but a toned hotter soft and huggable.

Though its always nice to go down from a medium to a small in most stores in certain pieces of clothes, these damn boobs get in the way though.... smalls don't fit the non raisinette breasts

 

[WriterDom]

I love my graph. Down 9 pounds since I started it 25 days ago. Now I'm pissed because I'm still seeing the big 2 as the first number. 203.0. It's just a matter of time though. Two weeks or so. The next huge number is my low of last year at 192.5.

There is still a lot of room for improvement. Not so much on the diet end, but on the exercise end.

 

[Kierae]

Congrats WD - isn't it great to see the graph move down. With the weather beginning to warm up, I bet you will see much more weight come off with your increased ability to exercise.

~kierae

 

[WriterDom]

I do walk a lot now. Everytime I need something from the grocery store I'll walk and take the long way. I'll have one main exercise walk and 2 or 3 little ones.

Right now it's 71 and sunny. This day has bike ride written all over it.

 

[WriterDom]

I had a date with the iron yesterday so I put off the bike ride until today. I wish I had a road bike. Mine is called a comfort bike I think. Kind of a hybrid between a road and trail bike. Still, I can do 20 miles on it without a problem.

 

[WriterDom]

A new low today but I'm so close to 200 that nothing else matters right now.

The bike ride was fun. Even though I learned I'm not yet in bike shape. It reminds me of a line from the Bobby Jones movie when Vardon tells Jones that St. Andrews gave him a thrashing. It's her duty.

 

[Etoile]

I took my weight ticker off my page at SparkPeople. It wasn't moving and it was depressing me, and that's not what life is about. It's about living healthy and loving myself. Fuck the numbers.

 

[WriterDom]

I took my weight ticker off my page at SparkPeople. It wasn't moving and it was depressing me, and that's not what life is about. It's about living healthy and loving myself. Fuck the numbers.

I hope you keep weighing so at least you'll know if it is going up.

I went to Walmart and bought some snacks. Ended up eating two little smart choice cheesecakes, some almonds, and cheese. And still ended up at my lowest weight this morning. Maybe I just needed to eat more.

 

[Etoile]

Oh, I will keep weighing, but I didn't like seeing the ticker at the same position every time.

I weighed in very high this morning, but I know why. I'm retaining so much water that I can SEE the bloat in the mirror. My hives are especially bad today so that contributes too. I am going to try to drink lots of water today and see if I can knock some of the water weight off...ugh!

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

I've found that after a week of rest, sleep and more liquids then solids my body had renewed its efforts in losing weight. I guess it is moreso my body is using up more fuel at the gym because it needed a rest but I am down to a kinda consistent 158 157 with clothes so that makes me a lil happier.

 

[TooTiredToLive]

I was going to jump in, but the only scale I have availalbe only goes to 250... got on it and it went around and stuck between 10 and 20, then stuck a little above 20 the second try.

Guess I'll have to wait until my dr. appt. next Monday, get my weight, buy a scale on the way home, then adjust it to match dr.'s. So look for me in about a week, if I can remember how to get back here.

Etoile, try http://www.everydiet.org/diuretic_diet.htm and/or http://www.targetwoman.com/articles/natural-diuretic.html - both have lists of natural (food) diuretics that can help you deal with the water retention issue.

 

[Etoile]

Cool, thanks! I will check those out today.
This morning I was down a bit from yesterday but still on the high side, but I'm still all hivey so my body's not quite normal.

 

[WriterDom]

I love this quote:

"Those under your leadership must be taught that little things make the big things happen. In fact, they must learn there are no big things, only a logical accumulation of little things done at a very high standard of performance."

John Wooden

It applies to weight loss in that you have to have a logical accumulation of little things, every meal, every exercise session, done at a very high standard of performance.

There is no overnight solution, magic pill, or easy fix.