The talk

[xMorganx]

Ahhh, to be a teenager again.it dosen't seem so long ago my parents were sitting me down for the discussion about sex. I remeber my mother trying to sound scientific by using words like Penis, Clitoris, and pubic area. seeing her blush about using condoms and being able to come to her for anything. My dad just sat back and polished his shotgun. So now when my youngest brother has reached the age for the talk my parents ask me the med student in the family to explain sex to my brother. I think they were tired of holding back the laughter when they told us to not have sex until we were married. My mother explained to me that she wants me to do it because Jason listens to me and admires me. So what did i do? I sat with him told him the basics, mom and dad want you to wait, but if your penis beats up your brain then use a condom. and to prove my point i showed him the pictures in my handy dandy 4000 lb. medical dictionary of why the fireman's rubber raincoat is his friend. Thats right graphic pictures of herpies and other puss oozing diseases. then i took him to the hospise at our hospital i work at and let him talk to a guy who was 19 and basicly waiting to die of AIDS. I think i made a point and hopefully he was listening.
So what was the talk like for you? or did you learn it on the playground? how would you give the "sex talk" to your kids?
Just wondering what everyone's approach is. and if it is similer to my "i know you are gonna do it,so be safe, and here's why" talk.

 

[shynsexy]

i just want to know what age seems appropriate??? my kids are 4, 2, 2... am i was thinking about this yesterday....whats a good age for "the talk"?at 14 it was too late for me.. my poor lame mom*

*note---mom if you are reading this, i do not think you are poor or lame, but it is past your bedtime, get off lit right now...i love you mommy, goodnight

 

[Nomad4112000]

Well being the father of a 9 year old I don't have the problem to much we kinda have an open forum here. But you could try the South Park method.Just she

"When a man and a woman fall in love he sticks his Do Wah Diddy in the womans Cha Cha.

 

[Cheyenne]

I sat with him told him the basics, mom and dad want you to wait, but if your penis beats up your brain then use a condom. and to prove my point i showed him the pictures in my handy dandy 4000 lb. medical dictionary of why the fireman's rubber raincoat is his friend. Thats right graphic pictures of herpies and other puss oozing diseases. then i took him to the hospise at our hospital i work at and let him talk to a guy who was 19 and basicly waiting to die of AIDS. I think i made a point and hopefully he was listening.

Just wondering what everyone's approach is. and if it is similer to my "i know you are gonna do it,so be safe, and here's why" talk.

Nope, I doubt many parents use visual aids (no pun intended) of "puss oozing diseases" and people dying of AIDS when they explain the birds and the bees! You may have scared him into permanent virginity! Nah, I'm sure you didn't. It is a unique approach though, I think.

 

[Cibo]

Ahhh, to be a teenager again.it dosen't seem so long ago my parents were sitting me down for the discussion about sex. I remeber my mother trying to sound scientific by using words like Penis, Clitoris, and pubic area. seeing her blush about using condoms and being able to come to her for anything. My dad just sat back and polished his shotgun. So now when my youngest brother has reached the age for the talk my parents ask me the med student in the family to explain sex to my brother. I think they were tired of holding back the laughter when they told us to not have sex until we were married. My mother explained to me that she wants me to do it because Jason listens to me and admires me. So what did i do? I sat with him told him the basics, mom and dad want you to wait, but if your penis beats up your brain then use a condom. and to prove my point i showed him the pictures in my handy dandy 4000 lb. medical dictionary of why the fireman's rubber raincoat is his friend. Thats right graphic pictures of herpies and other puss oozing diseases. then i took him to the hospise at our hospital i work at and let him talk to a guy who was 19 and basicly waiting to die of AIDS. I think i made a point and hopefully he was listening.
So what was the talk like for you? or did you learn it on the playground? how would you give the "sex talk" to your kids?
Just wondering what everyone's approach is. and if it is similer to my "i know you are gonna do it,so be safe, and here's why" talk.

Wow, I am pretty damn sure that what you did really got through to him. I know it would really send a reality shot to me. *zips up his fly*

 

[Cheyenne]

*bump*

Just because I liked this one.

 

[kotori]

. . . My dad just sat back and polished his shotgun. . .

Is this some new euphamism for masturbation?

 

[morninggirl5]

I like your approach xMorganx. I have a textbook from a Human Sexuality class in college, maybe i'll keep it around for just such an occasion.


The only discussion i've ever had with my mother about sex was when she saw condoms in my purse and said "If you're having sex, it'd be better if you were on the pill." I was 18 at the time *and* on the pill already, didn't tell her that though, i didn't think she'd be able to deal with saying anything else.

 

[c.fey]

Dang my folks never told me anything...learned it all from books, other kids, experience....whew I was lucky not to get knocked up as a teen or some awful disease.
I am totally frank with my kids about sex; they are 7 and 4, and I just give them straight forward, simple answers, like when my son asked,
"Hows does the baby get out?"
I said, " It is pushed out."
And that was enough for the time being.
Also a great movie/ book for kids is "Where Did I Come From?"

Cheers all~

 

[lovetoread]

Okay what do you do when your child does NOT want to have that talk?

Every time I start to talk about that subject,my daughter who is 11 1/2 and "blossoming",gets louder or covers her ears. She is a tomboy and guys are her best friends.

Tiger thinks that I should force her into having the talk with me,while I think when she is ready she will want to talk about it.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[ag2507]

Mine was: "I see your growing hair down there: you'd better read this". This was the Good Houskeeping Guide to Family Health. The appropriate sections haveing been read long before...

A

 

[Calamity Jane]

My entire talk with my mom consisted of "I'd prefer you didn't have sex until you're older, but if you're going to, I hope you'll come to me and we'll go get you protection."

When I did have sex, I didn't tell her, I took myself to Planned Parenthood and went on the pill.

I haven't had the 'talk' with my kids yet, they're only 5 and 2. But, growing up on a farm, they have no illusions about where babies come from. My 5 year old accidentally witnessed a breeding at the stable last night. So much for waiting for me in the car.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Puberty and sex education in 5th grade when I was 11y/o. Of course everyone in class had already read the chapter thousands of times before.... Otherwise I guess I knew about it already through newspapers, TV, playground... Didn't really care much though, wasn't interested in doing it.

8th grade we had official sex education class in biology class. By then everyone definitely already knew what it was all about. Ha Ha Then from 9th an all the way until high school graduation we had people coming over to chat about that stuff, but more the emotional aspects.

Parents never had a talk about it at all. Mom got angry when she found a letter from a friend to me, where she had written I was horny for a guy in class. That's when I decided never to discuss bfs with my mother.

Before going to Uni dad just said; "Don't get pregnant and don't get any desease. You're living in the 20th century and you're well informed, don't be stupid." Later on mom implied she'd rather have me wait till marriage. I told her I wouldn't as I may never marry... I never told her I had already lost my virginity, but at least she got it straight I wouldn't wait till marriage. Since then I've gotten the eye now and then, and her even asking me straight if I've had sex. It's none of her business, and knowing her we'll just end up in a long discussion/quarrel, so I keep shut.

I do like the open approach though. I want to be open with my kids. Better make it a subject that's not taboo at an early time. Then your kids will feel more relaxed and talk to you openly when the time is right.