The Sheltering Tree

[Spenser41]

Update from Toni...

Hey everyone! We just got out of our care conference a short time ago. They said that Daneil had been accepted to Pate Rehabilitation but cannot get in there until next Tues. But since he has been accepted they are releasing him from here on Fri. We are supposed to tour it on Fri. so they are releasing him earlier than usual so he can tour it also. They will pick him up in the morning and then return him home that afternoon. He will be there from 9-3:30 M-f. It is going to be alot like school and is geared to getting him back in school as quickly as possible. Thanks for a the thoughts, prayers, etc.. during these past 3 months. We do not know how long he will be at PAte. But things are definitely looking alot brighter. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel. He is so excited about going home. Keep us in your prayers and thoughts and again THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!

Hugs,
Toni

 

[MaryBears]

Delta....please don't say that....You have friends that wants to help....And if someone makes fun of you then ignore them....***** is to precious to let little things like someone laughing about you get you down....there has to be someone out there that can help you get back on your feet.....I know that life can be really flustrating and at times you think that you would be better off dead but your not.....And I am not just saying this, I suffer from severe depression, I have been thru so much health wise, lost my job and just wanted to crawl in a hole and die....but I talked to my family doctor and he pointed me in the right direction....he got me the help I needed....so you need to just step back and take a deep breath and start by trying to see that people do care for you......WE are hear for you...just don't shut us out. PLEASE ​

today i just find out that i lost my SSD and SSI benefits. i don't know what to do and i'm not sure i'd get them back if a appeal. i'm seriously thinking about suicide......better to be dead. i can't get a job because i haven't any skills, no transportation, no ability to hold down a job because my anxiety gets the best of me. i knew something like this would happen......it's better if i was dead.

 

[newme]

For Delta

There are many who understand and want to help. Please post so we can show you how many of us care for you. I also sent you a PM.

 

[Emes]

Delta....still not heard from you....please contact someone to let us konw you are ok. There are lots of people here who care about you and want to help.

 

[Emes]

Update from Toni...

Hey everyone! We just got out of our care conference a short time ago. They said that Daneil had been accepted to Pate Rehabilitation but cannot get in there until next Tues. But since he has been accepted they are releasing him from here on Fri. We are supposed to tour it on Fri. so they are releasing him earlier than usual so he can tour it also. They will pick him up in the morning and then return him home that afternoon. He will be there from 9-3:30 M-f. It is going to be alot like school and is geared to getting him back in school as quickly as possible. Thanks for a the thoughts, prayers, etc.. during these past 3 months. We do not know how long he will be at PAte. But things are definitely looking alot brighter. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel. He is so excited about going home. Keep us in your prayers and thoughts and again THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!

Hugs,
Toni

Thats great news....REALLY great news

 

[jazey_43]

i don't know why i posted here....some asshole with probably come back and make fun of me....i don't care....i'm going.

Hey hun, we don't have assholes here..Spens wouldn't allow it!!! You just HANG IN THERE!! I know how you feel, believe it or not, and all I can do is to tell you to REACH OUT!!! There is help all around you, just make that first reach and you'll be glad you did. Feel free to pm me ANYTIME!!!!! I'm sure you're getting alot of advice from the caring people in here...please..PLEASE...take what they say seriously!! Help is on the way, luv!!!

 

[Emes]

Whats going wrong with our world?

Yet more incidents in London....

 

[Guest]

i'm still alive.....i talked to my friend Charles and my dad. i am going to appeal it but i don't see much good coming out of that. why my dad doesn't understand is why a shrink i had never seen decided i was 'able to work'. my friend Charles said the same thing.....i thought shrinks and therapists had to see you in person in order to be evaluated. i still feel suicidal.....i see my therapist next week but it won't do much good.

plus i have a friend that lives in England and i haven't heard from him and with all thats happening over there....i'm worried about that too.

right now, i'm in the process of chain smoking and eating high salty foods (because healthy food costs so damn much)

my father said he'll be there and help me through this but....unless i come into an obscene amount of money....things don't look so good for me right now.

seems the government is bend on making so many peoples lives hell.

 

[MaryBears]

Delta,

Thank God that your still alive, I have worried about you.....Hun, we are hear for you.....and you have been in my thoughts and prayers.

Yes, I would definately appeal it...I don't know where you live but do you all have a department of jobs and human services there....if so can you get some help from them.....also is there some local churches there that might help you with the food....I know where I live here in Ohio, there are churches that help needy people with food, and sometimes even clothing, and personal hygene stuff....check that out hun.....anything to keep you going until you can appeal it all

I know it is hard to have to rely on family and friends but let them help you too....Cause they love you and don't want to see anything happen to you.
Take care hun...and if you need me PM me.
Hugs
Mary​

i'm still alive.....i talked to my friend Charles and my dad. i am going to appeal it but i don't see much good coming out of that. why my dad doesn't understand is why a shrink i had never seen decided i was 'able to work'. my friend Charles said the same thing.....i thought shrinks and therapists had to see you in person in order to be evaluated. i still feel suicidal.....i see my therapist next week but it won't do much good.

plus i have a friend that lives in England and i haven't heard from him and with all thats happening over there....i'm worried about that too.

right now, i'm in the process of chain smoking and eating high salty foods (because healthy food costs so damn much)

my father said he'll be there and help me through this but....unless i come into an obscene amount of money....things don't look so good for me right now.

seems the government is bend on making so many peoples lives hell.

 

[MaryBears]

OMG what is going on with the world.....It is so very crazy these days ​

Yet more incidents in London....

 

[newme]

You are in my Thoughts

Delta we are all so happy to hear from you. If there is anything I can do I will.
But most importantly remember there are people here who really do care about you. Check your Pm's and hold on.

 

[Emes]

i'm still alive.....i talked to my friend Charles and my dad. i am going to appeal it but i don't see much good coming out of that. why my dad doesn't understand is why a shrink i had never seen decided i was 'able to work'. my friend Charles said the same thing.....i thought shrinks and therapists had to see you in person in order to be evaluated. i still feel suicidal.....i see my therapist next week but it won't do much good.

plus i have a friend that lives in England and i haven't heard from him and with all thats happening over there....i'm worried about that too.

right now, i'm in the process of chain smoking and eating high salty foods (because healthy food costs so damn much)

my father said he'll be there and help me through this but....unless i come into an obscene amount of money....things don't look so good for me right now.

seems the government is bend on making so many peoples lives hell.

Am soooo glad to hear from you hun. We all have to rely on friends and family at some point or other in our lives....PLEASE let others help you, you never know when you will be able to help someone else (and believe me you will).

PLEASE let us know how you get on hunny...we care for you

Try not to worry about your friend either, there are very few casualties this time so the odds are that he is ok

 

[Guest]

i finally heard from my friend in england and he's find....he's 105 miles from where all the mess is happening so at least that's one thing i don't have to worry about

 

[Emes]

i finally heard from my friend in england and he's find....he's 105 miles from where all the mess is happening so at least that's one thing i don't have to worry about

Thats really good news about your friend hun

Look at the other things as lots of little problems, list them and as you work each one out, cross it off...you will be surprised!!

 

[Guest]

yeah....i'm just glad he's okay

i'm just want to know why it is that even the government wants me to get a job even though i have poof i can't handle the stress of working with people.....i find myself becoming so anxious i mess up then....when things get really bad....i quit


don't they have any idea have crippling anxiety can be???

 

[Emes]

yeah....i'm just glad he's okay

i'm just want to know why it is that even the government wants me to get a job even though i have poof i can't handle the stress of working with people.....i find myself becoming so anxious i mess up then....when things get really bad....i quit


don't they have any idea have crippling anxiety can be???

No they probably dont and there is not much you can do to change it I dont think.

Just dont let them win....fight for what you deserve

 

[Spenser41]

yeah....i'm just glad he's okay

i'm just want to know why it is that even the government wants me to get a job even though i have poof i can't handle the stress of working with people.....i find myself becoming so anxious i mess up then....when things get really bad....i quit


don't they have any idea have crippling anxiety can be???

Delta,
I am so sorry that you are going thru this. It is sad but there are so many people that scam the government and want to live off of it, that they have had to make it tougher to get help. If you have a really good doctor and not just a theripst or someone who is a licensed counselor, that can prescribe meds for you as well as add medical reasons for why you can't work. There are many things and services out there for your issue. I know of someone who had the same problem. She had to go on special health leave, but at the same time, with meds and special training and being placed in the right kind of job, she was able to go back to work.
You have not lost out yet. Just keep plugging in there and listen to some of the other people on here who are in the same boat. There are about 4 people I know here on the Tree thread that have things that keep them from working and they also are struggling to make it, but they see that ending your life is not a choice to make.
THere is support here for you. Are you in a big city? Have you looked up your condition on line to see where you can go for help in large cities or hospitals?
There are many more options you have available hon... just keep hanging on.
We are here for you.

 

[Emes]

Just dropping in with some hugs and es for you all

 

[Guest]

Delta,
I am so sorry that you are going thru this. It is sad but there are so many people that scam the government and want to live off of it, that they have had to make it tougher to get help. If you have a really good doctor and not just a theripst or someone who is a licensed counselor, that can prescribe meds for you as well as add medical reasons for why you can't work. There are many things and services out there for your issue. I know of someone who had the same problem. She had to go on special health leave, but at the same time, with meds and special training and being placed in the right kind of job, she was able to go back to work.
You have not lost out yet. Just keep plugging in there and listen to some of the other people on here who are in the same boat. There are about 4 people I know here on the Tree thread that have things that keep them from working and they also are struggling to make it, but they see that ending your life is not a choice to make.
THere is support here for you. Are you in a big city? Have you looked up your condition on line to see where you can go for help in large cities or hospitals?
There are many more options you have available hon... just keep hanging on.
We are here for you.

i do see a doctor and a therapist....i have for a few years now. i'm not in a big city and i know what my condition is. those are not the problem. these people are reviewing my case and in the process of reviewing....THEY decided i am no longer disabled. i was so upset yesterday that i called our local crisis hotline and all they did was upset me more.....telling me i was making excuses for not working. then....i callled my best friend and he helped me calm down. i did learn that apparently they deny people who are in my situation the first time around. maybe things will work out....maybe not....at this point i don't care anymore.

 

[Emes]

i do see a doctor and a therapist....i have for a few years now. i'm not in a big city and i know what my condition is. those are not the problem. these people are reviewing my case and in the process of reviewing....THEY decided i am no longer disabled. i was so upset yesterday that i called our local crisis hotline and all they did was upset me more.....telling me i was making excuses for not working. then....i callled my best friend and he helped me calm down. i did learn that apparently they deny people who are in my situation the first time around. maybe things will work out....maybe not....at this point i don't care anymore.

There is a glimmer of hope for you hun, grasp it and hold onto it.

Try and get in touch with your doctor and / or therapist, they can help you too

Good luck hun...and stay in touch

 

[Guest]

There is a glimmer of hope for you hun, grasp it and hold onto it.

Try and get in touch with your doctor and / or therapist, they can help you too

Good luck hun...and stay in touch

i already did those things...either way i don't care anymore....whatever happens will happen

 

[newme]

i already did those things...either way i don't care anymore....whatever happens will happen

I'm here, and thinking of you. Don't give up honey.

 

[Guest]

thanks

 

[Spenser41]

i do see a doctor and a therapist....i have for a few years now. i'm not in a big city and i know what my condition is. those are not the problem. these people are reviewing my case and in the process of reviewing....THEY decided i am no longer disabled. i was so upset yesterday that i called our local crisis hotline and all they did was upset me more.....telling me i was making excuses for not working. then....i callled my best friend and he helped me calm down. i did learn that apparently they deny people who are in my situation the first time around. maybe things will work out....maybe not....at this point i don't care anymore.

Like I said before, they do this to weed out the fakes. The best thing to do is have your doctor and theripst contact them - with medical information - and try it again. Just because they said no now, doesn't mean they say no forever. Killing yourself doesn't solve anything, but fighting for your rights does. As you not only do it for you, you do it for the next person with the same problem.

I know it is difficult but you can do it. If you are not on anti-depressants, you need to talk to your doctor about getting on them. They help to take the edge off and help you focus more. Believe me, I know what I am talking about, I have been there before. I came close to ending it myself a few years back. A friend saw the shape I was in and had me go see my doctor. It saved my life.

 

[Spenser41]

By the way Delta, I love your AV. I used to be a breeder of Goldens. They are such wonderful and loving dogs. I hope to go back to breeding them one day.
I know you don't care, but that is the depression talking... and if they do have you on something, tell them it is not working. They can try something different.
Try also to not be by yourself. Try to find people to hang out with. Go see someone, go outside and enjoy the weather... (unless it is hot where you are and you would just melt!) Try to find something you can volunteer for. I did that when I was in my depression and it got me off of thinking about my problems and helping others. There are many many places that you could help out and only an hour or two a day.
Something that would not stress you out. Excersise is good too. Just a walk in the cool of the day, helps to get your body flowing and helps to battle the depression.
These are things my doctor and therpist told me to do and I found out they work. Try to listen to upbeat music and not depressing (that means country music is out) Just kidding.
Find a church to be part of. There are many churches that have groups that are there for support. Everything from divorce care, to grief, to fibro, to depression to overeatting... you name it there are groups out there with it. Ask your doctor if there are any support groups out there with your problem. I am sure there are... just got to find them. I know you are not strange as I have seen on people with your same condition and how they battled it.
There are many many things you can do. Trust me, there is a way over this mountain!