Lizzie_Borden
Real & Spectacular
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This past weekend, Seb and I tried to better define the terms of our relationship (just because it kept getting confused, the way these sorts of things do) and we somehow managed to do it with almost no BDSM specific words or terms. I was very proud of us![]()
Does that help you, having it defined in plain English like that?
I try to have that conversation every so often. It helps bring things back into focus for me. I need the feedback, in layman's terms, both good and bad, because subtlty, nuances and assumptions are things I just don't get sometimes.
Interesting. When I’m blowjobbing, that’s one of the few moments in my life that I can focus, when I’m completely absorbed in the here and now. Blowjobs and long runs are auto-Zen activities, for me.
Mind you, I fall into that annoying percentile that LOVES it, (running and blowjobbing). Sorry Syd. (Oh, and I’m definitely not coming from the slave POV, either).
Of course that means I miss out on the slapping. Envious. Very envious.
Hehehehe. I'm the same. Blowjobs, massages, anything like that where I can focus on what I'm doing brings me to a very happy headspace. And I'm better if I can set the pace, do it the way I want to. I love doing it, and I love pleasing him, so I never have to worry about a smack either.